Disclaimer: I’M not a dating coach I’m not trying to sell any services or coaching . This blog is just a few of my experiences in London . Im based predominantly in London, Nice/Monaco/Cannes ( South of France), Dubai, San Fransisco  or Dallas. If you’re in any of these areas feel free to email me or hit me up for networking at darrenpua1@gmail.com No complete beginners or time wasters please must have some degree of maturity and value.

2 Step Dates : 

Coffee Then Bar Date : Refer To my Previous Guide For what’s the best date setup for you. Remember this can vary for girl to girl and who you like . IF you like drunk ass party girls then obviously more alcohol based dates are for you . If you want to play more of a long game then providing a variety of different locations can set your woman up for unique experiences while keeping things interesting and fresh for you too. If you’re under time constraint or the woman is leaving and you want the lay then pushing for some bars near where you live is always the most optimal approach. Match what you like to your date location . Dont feel forced to go somewhere purely because the local player got a 100 lays at one bar and now you feel obliged to take your ultra conservative girl on a  date there. Similarly read how she’s feeling. If she’s really shy an activity date may help to bring her personality out a bit more rather than Liam McRae style rapid escalation . Every woman is different and one  date might work for one might fail horrifically for another .  Also this depends on what your relationship goals are whether you’re looking for a LTR or  Short term fling- for women you’re looking for a more long term thing with you may want  to ease it off and play things cooler. This is advisable particularly if you know the woman is committing to your city for a long period of time for example she is completing one year of her three year degree course. If this example is the case you most probably don’t want a rapid escalation back to yours first date. 

Dates to Avoid: 

Any emphasis on politics:  For obvious reasons make sure there’s nothing affecting your date in political terms. For example one failure date I had was taking my first date with a Czech  to a gallery which had strongly political themed art. This was a huge mistake which derailed the date and made her upset about the images and artwork involved which completely killed the vibe. You don’t want any date location that can potentially build up any political discussion its just not a first date topic and can more often than not ruin things. 

Film Dates: For obvious reasons just no real opportunity to talk and get to know her . 

Dates in Locations where other people will get in the way :  For example it’s not a good idea to take a woman somewhere that’s overly packed  like a bar during a football match or an overly loud place where you can’t hear her . This could be seen as basic common sense but its something to thing about . Avoid generic dating locations in very busy areas like Soho especially on the weekends where you might find seating hard to come by . 

Matching Dates to the Personality: 

Matching a date to the perspective girl you’re dating’s personality is always a good mode of thinking. You don’t want to put a conservative girl in a nightclub with raging  loud music nor an introverted girl somewhere that will bore you and kill the vibe. If you’re struggling to get something out of the girls personality after speaking to her maybe try an activity to bring out her personality a bit more like for example mini golf.  If you’re dating a fitness /yogi girl picking a high end organic coffee shop like Daylesford or whole foods might be a good way to score extra points. Try and read her and maybe gage from her instagram what seems to like and maybe use a date idea that can replicate her interests. 

Russell Square: 

Russell Square is an area at the forefront of 4 Major University campuses its therefore a place where if you’re day gaming you want to have insta dates with students on your objective.  

Qima Coffee shop- This coffee shop is striking, eloquent and an interesting place to take a woman for a low key first date. Close to most the major universities this is a good spot to have if you’re approaching women around the campuses and are need of a good instant date spot . There’s also plenty of outdoor seating so in the summer this can be a huge plus granted it can potentially get crowded during the week so make sure you have a second back up option nearby if this is the case or simply purchase a coffee to go from here and just go for a walk to the main square and sit down and talk.  

Piccadilly:

  A quick coffee at whole foods Piccadilly  for the first part of the date followed by a drink at the Fallow which is beautiful bar with decent British style food. A third date location after this could be Barffina nearby .  Piccadilly whole foods is an easy location for a coffee date and is a great place to take tourists especially those visiting London for the first time. Bear in mind though on the weekend these places can be difficult to go to for dating so if you’re pre planning a bar on the weekend in Piccadilly its’s best to call up in advance and prebook a spot. 

Covent Garden Coffee To Bar:  Get a Coffee at % Arabica followed by some wine or Tapas at Barfina . Easy two step date option.  

Mayfair -Coffee To Bar  Dates: 

I find Mayfair a good choice as it tends to be emptier than Soho/Covent Garden Areas. 

Take them Guiliam Coffee Shop  , great location for a first date followed by a drink at the Churchill Cigar Lounge. Next to the Churchill Cigar lounge there are several hotels that serve alcohol deep into the night. 

Mayfair Kitchen: This is a fantastic drinks spot with plenty of good seating. Great for a night cocktail it’s a perfect second or third spot if you’re dating around this area. 

An alternative interesting spot is the coffee shop Shot  which is very popular especially amongst middle eastern women followed by bounce to Manetta’s bar which opens from 4pm. Perfect way to move from a non-alcohol date to an alcohol one whilst keeping the premise of you being the “leader” of the date . 

Charing Cross: 

Page8 Hotels is a lovely bar located approximately 6 minutes away from Charing Cross station. This is a spacious coffee place that closes at 6pm but seeing as its attached to hotel the area where the coffee is served never really “closes” as such so the date can last far beyond the 6pm closure time. Near the closure time this place starts to empty up which is great for escalation . This can be followed by a restaurant bounce  to Orrery of course taking women to boogie restaurants isn’t for everyone but I think for a weekday lunch this is an excellent spot for a second or third date or maybe a date for a woman after sex . 

KnightsBridge-

 Coffee To Bar Dates: 

The big advantage of Knightsbridge is it’s the place where the coffee shops close the latest. This is arguably the best place in London to have an alcohol free date late at night even as late as 9-10pm so if your day job finishes late this is still a very good option as El﹠N and L’Eto shut very late here around 11pm .Furthermore there are Sisha bars that close around 10pm-12am  like Cavalli lounge or 17 on Sloane  so its a prime location for keeping a date and bouncing to other locations late into the night without being too crowded or overwhelming for the girl.  A lot of people are worried that Knightsbridge is too much of an expensive location but there are still reasonably priced coffee shops in this area that I’ve already listed.  

Knoops Knightsbridge -a decent hot chocolate place (also serving  hot chocolate )  that  isn’t too pricy and the perfect spot for a low time investment date that won’t come across too boring. After this take her to Hawksmoor for a drink – there’s a bar area in this restaurant.  Knightsbridge has a tonne of coffee options most notably EL a N and numerous cake shops including L-Eto as previously mentioned . 

Furthermore at the time of writing this (7th November 2023) there is a Shot Knightsbridge a very popular coffee chain being under construction and that maybe a good place to take women out on an instant date. 

Saddle Coffee shop is also another beautiful Emryati  coffee place which  opened in Knightsbridge this year and  is another great place to take women that you cold approach in Harrods and Selfridges for an instant date. It’s also a good place to possibly take students on an instant date from that you  approach at Imperial collage. 

Alternatively there are numerous coffee places and bars in Harrods you can take women although be mindful if dating on weekends Friday/ Saturday/Sunday its likely to be very crowded which could make getting seats at the right time difficult – you never want a venue to be too packed or else you risk not being able to hear the girl speak or running into other problems. 

Marylebone  Date Ideas: 

Coffee Shops you can chose – Daylesford Organic – always a nice spot to take a woman out for a coffee especially those who are into health and fitness. Then nearby you have loads of options for bars nearby my personal favourite as I wrote in the other guide is the Churchill cigar lounge  or Nobu Hotel has a fantastic bar area downstairs which isn’t too expensive and is a great place to grab a wine and never gets too packed with excellent seating too ideal for escalation .   Alternatively a good instant date spot is inside Selfridges in the food court area there’s a lovely juice bar with good seating an ideal dating spot you can bounce after to Nobu or one of the numerous bars located within Selfridges  itself. 

Alternatively there is Modern Coffee a good swanky brunch spot which can followed by a bounce to  108 Brasserie, the advantage of 108 Brasserie is that you can have food with the girl then lead her to many of the cocktail bars located within the restaurant.  Remember in dates you want to vary as many different places as possible to make the date seem more adventurous and psychologically this will make your relationship, trust and rapport seem “ longer” for the girl if you go to many different spots and locations. 

South Kensington : 

Again the area outside museum and imperial college has a good outflow of students  so finding a good place to take them for a coffee should be planned in advance in case you strike the instant date.  El a N South Kensington is fantastic coffee spot or L’eto . You can then lead them to Hawksmour Knightsbbridge for a drink after too .  Guilam Coffee house is my personal favourite location here even though there are other additional good spots located . This is a great spot to take for example students from Imperial Collage on an instant date. 

Shoreditch/ Liverpool Street  : 

Boxpark Shoreditch is a fantastic place to take a girl for a low investment lunch. Although on the weekends this can be a very crowded place and not necessarily  ripe for escalation. 

EATLY Liverpool Street is also a fantastic coffee shop that has wine bars located on the upper floors . You can bounce to different locations in the venue itself as its packed with a lot of restaurants. Start with a low investment coffee then build your way towards a drink at the bar if the date is going well. 

Other date ideas can be going to % Arabica London Spitalfields followed by a walk to Spitalfields market itself and grabbing a bite to eat. Bear in mind on the weekends these places might get absolutely packed so intimacy can be difficult to obtain. If so have some smaller coffee shops with less seating in mind as a backup if dating in Liverpool Street on the weekends. 

Sloane Square : 

I posted most of my prime date locations in the other London dating guide but Lorian Delicatessen  is a great place to take women on the weekdays bear in mind this place shuts at 5pm most days but is a good open space with plenty of room for  intimacy on a date. 

Cafe Kitsune at Pantechnicon is another great place that serves French and Japense fusion confectionery . The impressive architectural  design will hopefully keep women in awe and make for a good low investment coffee date with plenty of nearby shish bars or cocktail bars nearby to the venue in both knightsbridge and Sloane Square  if you’re in need of a bounce . 

Vardo Chelsea Restaurant: This is another good coffee shop perfect for low investment summer time dates. Also nearby a lot of other bars its a good starting location for any Sloane Square based date. 

Islington: 

Megan’s at the sorting Office Restaurant. Ok, not everyone is a fan of Megan’s but the area this coffee place/restaurant in is good making a good starting point you’re literally surrounded by bars or other adjacent coffee shops and restaurant and the area is slick and perfect for a date 

Kings Cross : 

Redemption Roasters: Again a  stereotypical coffee shop but it’s a great place to take a girl on an instant date especially if you’re gaming near the art university of UAL . There are plenty of other cocktail bars near you for a second  bounce. 

Tottenham Court Road : 

The bar area in The Radisson Blu Kenilworth Hotel- this bar area I find to be the most spacious and underrated in London . Perfect for a quiet and intimate drinking date with a girl its defiantly a fantastic location and one which can provide a good opportunity for escalation if things are going well. 

Hope this article helps. Again there is a huge amount of choice in London whilst I can’t obviously list every date location I think I’ve listed some of the best spots to provide as a base for your dates which you yourselves can build upon. Make sure for each spot you pick you have another two locations lined up incase things go well. This will enable you to go on more of a“journey” with the woman involved and build rapport with her.  Always plan your dates – have a good structure in place if you feel the woman is enjoying the occasion don’t be afraid to switch to another venue to broaden the sense of excitement and adventure on the date. 

For Networking Email darrenpua1@gmail.com – Disclaimer- Im NOT a dating coach ,  Im a dating blogger from London, I do not sell coaching programmes or “self help” courses Im just here to post my views and perspectives on dating , relationships and sexual dynamics. Im an avid day-gamer and lover of sexual and relationship dynamics and use this blog to share the information from cold approach that I’ve learnt over the years. I hang out predominantly in London (where I’m currently based) , Dubai and Nice (South Of France) sometimes Texas/California and South Korea so if you’re from any of these cities/countries hit me up! 

It came to me the other day a post on my Instagram in reply to a reel  made by The Natural Lifestyles dating coach  Alex Leon. During which he claimed that money was only “ 2 percent “ of attraction between men and women – the cheek really. I found this astoundingly poor advice and something that could fuck up men’s perspectives if they took it seriously. 

Also before I continue you I must stress you should never take any dating coaches perspectives too seriously- you need to analyse them all and scrutinise them to a Tee – mine included obviously ( and im not a dating coach just a relationship  blogger at best buffoon at worst ) 

Political Implications of Money in relationships 

In order to analyse the implications of money in relationships you need different metrics- the country you’re in, the personality of the nationality of girls there, how money is perceived by said culture, the income equality between men and women in said country all of these are important metrics to consider. Also compare this to the women of nationalities YOU enjoy. For example if you love Chinese women then being on minimum wage in the UK is enough for you to be in the top 10-20 percent income profiles in China. Similarly in Latin America $18500 a year income is enough for you to make it into the “ Upper Class” of Argentina so someone earning minimum wage in the UK will also be considered a “top tier” earner in Argentina .

Then what about Left Leaning countries? Countries which- women’s incomes are high or increasing. I take the Nordic countries as an example of this as women make considerably more on average than most countries in the world. These countries Norway, Finland, Sweden and Denmark I see more of a reverse in male and female polarity this is reflected by my experiences dating Swedish/Danish women where there is seemingly been 0 expectation for me to lead the date and one occasion where a Swedish girl got insulted when I tried to pay for the coffee during a date. Of course there will be exceptions to this rule once again but it’s a trend I’ve certainly clocked.   

So what’s the point of this analysis ? Well the political ideology of women in dating is somewhat relevant as I’ve noticed trends in left leaning countries where the urge for men to pay on the first date, buy the girl things , lead the girl is somewhat lacking to a degree contrary  in more conservative leaning countries. Of course there are exceptions to the rule as I stressed before but this is just a trend I’ve noticed in my Time dating women from different cultures.  So the conclusion? Some cultures will expect more which in turn means you’ll need to spend more money .

The dating coaches who say “money doesn’t matter” 

Overtime a number of coaches who’ve stated money is obsolete In attraction. Some who’ve said this include: RyanBlack, Sasha Day-game  and Alex Leon  To a degree they’re sometimes right but I don’t think this idea bears much fruit longterm.  Especially in LTRs and marriages which these coaches completely forget about also it can somewhat be negligent as an LTR or marriage is a realistic aim for a lot of men in dating. Not all want to hook up forever and in order for a relationship to be maintained long term you do need some sort of financial stability to foster. 

Money is an intrinsic part of women’s dating strategy , it’s not the be all and end all by any means but its pretty damn well important . You need money for real true longevity in relationships, from traveling with your partner to having money for kids so it’s therefore completely foolish to dismiss this paradigm or as Alex Leon classifies as “2 percent of attraction” .  Of course this doesn’t mean that broke guys can’t and won’t achieve success in the sexual marketplace quite the contrary Ive seen some broke guys do hella better than myself and really dominate the sexual market place . But I’ve also seen rich guys do very well and use their wealth to “seal the deal” so to speak- Im  convinced that high wealth can- and will always remain a strong part of attraction which I will aim to prove with the rest of this article. 

Geographical patterns of Money and Accumulation of hot women 

If money doesn’t matter why do women flock to cities where money is abundant? Think about it, take London as a prime example, why do the hottest women live in the richest areas? Kensington , Knightsbridge and Sloane Square these places are the three cities with the hottest chicks by far and they are three of the wealthiest areas of London. You’re trying to tell me that women don’t to some degree follow the money?  Take Dubai as a prime example a lot of women there that are seeking out wealthy husbands.  And then there’s the US…. With New York and California  the wealthiest states and  still places where a lot of high value women flock too and I hazard a guess the monumental wealth of these cities has something to do with it. 

On the contrary look at how women move and migrate. How many hot women move to Dubai then say Eastern Europe like Ukraine  (just assume this is pre the war) or Hungary- why? Because the men in these  countries are too broke for these women to find a high quality mate . When you look geographically as Nick Krauser once stated its best that women move west and that men move east.  Your average Joe in London will have a much easier time dating out of his league in Vietnam for example than London and your 6 ft 2 Russian model is better off cashing that fertility in in London or New York.  More importantly very few women migrate from the West to the East. Pretty telling no? How many women go from the UK into a LTR with Thai men? For example , no where near the amount of men that go  from the UK to Thailand to pick up Thai brides which is  overwhelming higher than the amount of women that come to Thailand to marry Thai men – of course there are exceptions when I was Thailand I did meet a few women from the western countries that were dating Thai guys but the general trend does sit firmly in place . Similarly with the Korean/ Vietnamese brides situation- there are a colossal amount amount of Korean men who go to poor areas of Vietnam and hover up the women for marriage there. Compare that to the amount Vietnamese men that are slaying Korean pussy and the comparison makes me feel that there are socio economic factors in place in the dating world . 

Analysing the Data of how money can be pivotal to Dating in the Global Sexual Marketplace:  Using two documentaries one shown in South Korea the other shown In Thailand it’s easy to understand the effects wealth can have on women. In the British documentary  by Louis Theroux on Thai Brides listed below  the old mentally ill guy despite not even being wealthy and living in a rental house in some suburb of the UK is still able to attract some interest goes to show that some women would deal with a bat shit crazy guy if it meant leaving from the social trap that is working class in Thailand. The other video is a more common relationship dynamic between Old Korean working class men and Vietnamese brides. Those Korean men who are unable to compete in the sexual market place against the more demanding Korean women lose out and will resort to countries in which their sexual market value appears higher than in Korea. Of course the nearest countries with fertile women are working class Vietnamese and Filipino women. We see alot of interracial marriage between Vietnamese and Korean I noticed this while I was studying Korean that my textbook even used the names of Vietnamese people rather than Korean confirming most likely that it was book to teach Vietnamese immigrants in Korea… anyway I digress. The trends are there anyway even the text books are prepping you for it. 

But are goldigging whores much better than women with genuine desire? 

This is an interesting question/ point of view. From the data analysed from interracial marriages between Koreans and Vietnamese brides their divorce rate is similar to that of regular Korean couples, coincidence? (Watch the documentary for proof)  Maybe insinuating that these gold digger types that PUA coaches warn us of are just as loyal/disloyal. Maybe money could be the glue that holds things together? Considering so many divorces in the western world are caused by financial stress it’s easy to see why women might just flock and stay in a dysfunctional relationship with a rich man as opposed to a passionate one of genuine desire with a poor man. Some women most definitely regard wealth as a form of safety and why wouldn’t they? From an evolutionary biological perspective it absolutely makes sense for a woman to date a rich man especially if they have kids. They’ll want the best for them wouldn’t they? They would want private school for the kids for example , good housing for them etc. Is a broke passionate musician or someone else going to provide them that? Unlikely. 

Are women wrong to be “gold diggers”? 

In theory no, I mean look it at the women’s perspective they are aged between 18-29 for their peak years at best, of course they want to cash out with a man that’s financially stable and can provide them with financial support. Especially when they’re pregnant the majority are  not going to  want a broke guy looking after them. They want money so they can have a good life and that their children can have one too. Whats wrong with that? Money is important and serves as a gap in relationships without a sizeable chunk of cash its difficult to also see a relationship truly develop well and be sustainable.  Most Pua coaches are coming from a place of quick hookups rather than looking at what is actually needed for a sustainable long term dating perspective so its important for them to downplay this factor as a “stereotype” but a lot of stereotypes exist because there are prime examples that have contributed to creating that whether its Thai Brides, Vietnamese brides or that fat businessman in Dubai marrying a slim Russian woman. There is definite truth there.  

Women will always fight for the best for themselves and the best future for their children if they have them . The reality is we are all wired to be selfish and greedy so why wouldn’t we take the most attractive offer on the table ?And usually that involves financial security. Women will fight for it , a future for themselves and their children? Why wouldn’t they. Why do they need to resign the possibility of making more money from jealous men or red pill lovers online? They don’t give a shit about people who analyse the situation behind the laptops like me nor do they really care much about red pill reddit. These things they honestly don’t really care about and why would they? They have no incentive to , they want to protect themselves and their family and their children. They don’t care about the criticism from conservative men or men who want them to be loved “just the way they are” 

So why do PUA coaches emphasise that money isn’t important? Is it to attract more clients – maybe? After all if you paint the picture that all that matters is “vibe” you can attract the low SMV clients into some positive thinking and I guess a positive approach to something and expecting that all women will suck your wang even if you’re financially unstable there will be a portion of women that will see that as a turn off and you’ll lose them. You won’t lose “ALL” women of course but still. Im replying to the coaches that say “money doesn’t matter at all” when it most obviously is an attractive point. 

PUAING girls from the third world compared to the first world examples :

My experiences with wealth impacting  my dating experience, coming from a relatively upper class place in London I felt it didn’t really make much of difference in London given that there are around 100,000 millionaires in this city.  No one particularly gave a shit that I had money bar one SDL that I got when I was 24 after a night club who complimented that I had a big house (which wasn’t mine it was my mothers anyway) . Aside from this wealth I didn’t really make much of difference in London primarily due to the fact that everyone around me was already wealthy therefore wealth was deemed nothing special I especially found this to be true whilst attending private school in London –  no one seemed to give a shit if you were wealthy because everyone pretty much was. No girl really gave a much shits back then but then when you have the pleasure and comfort of living in a city like London with a high middle class and a high number of wealthy elite your perceptions are skewed.  

It did however make a huge difference when dating in certain third world countries, I had a brief stint in Myanmar for example I was able to date a beautiful Burmese woman on tinder and I believe my status as a westerner was the primary reason (she still wanted to split everything though) but I most definitely wouldn’t have dated her in London.  End of the day geography matters for both men and women. Some nations or cities will be full of cock and high earning men like London or New York. Others will be full of attractive females who will have relatively low expectations compared to rich western nations  like Vietnam and China  It’s important to evaluate these perspectives and what fits best with you based on where you are living.  Why was I able to date a hot woman in Myanmar so quickly? Is it because I’m amazing? No its because there are 10s of thousands of less attractive men in Myanmar quite literally. The competition is much lower , its not even conceivable . Also the bulk of Burmese people are broke as fuck – if you’re earning minimum wage in the UK you’re a big catch in Myanmar. 

However  its not always linear like this I approached a lot of poor filipinos in Saudi Arabia and Dubai with a white English attractive wingman and I got blown out by every single one , of course I don’t believe every woman is automatically hypergamous . I don’t expect every single  girl to fall head over heels for me due to my passport. It would be a ridiculous expectation and wouldn’t make much sense.  But there’s definitely a trend which comes with having a “strong passport” in third world countries. Of course you might get blown out as some women might see you as taking advantage with your position as a westerner which low and behold I was. 

Lack of Money does Diminish Men’s Sexual Market Value. 

Like let’s be clear, lack of financial stability does harm your long term attractiveness scale to certain women . But also causes harm in other ways too – 

• Men who lack financial resources have less money to spend on romantic/ interesting dates- if you want to keep a relationship interesting and exciting you have to do more interesting shit and money is a key component to being able to lead the girl to various locations and make things more interesting. 
• Men who lack money most likely will have worse logistics when it comes to dating increasing the chance of LMr. This was somewhat a problem when I was doing day-game in London I found a trend between poor logistics and LMR. Although it wasn’t the definitive factor by any means but it did make securing the lay harder. 
• Men who have less money In general will have less to spend on good quality food and nutrition making them less likely to maintain SMV – Yes you need to keep your health in check and having money to do this is important. 
• Lack of money means you’ll have less to spend on coaching / travel and therefore less able to make yourself lead a dynamic and interesting lifestyle- having puaed with a lot of broke wingmen the broke ones obviously have less chance to improve their SMV and become more “interesting” which is definitely a cause for concern- for long term SMV you really do need money as a man to continue to become more dynamic and improve. 
• Lack of money means less money to spend on fashion which could diminish SMV – fashion being one of the easiest ways to improve sexual market value 
• Could lead to you being less adventurous, you won’t be able to take women on more variety of dates and will be limited to a certain type of date which could be deemed repetitive and boring- i.e. the same bland coffee date at Pret A Manger for example. 

Does too much money make men lazy? 

Id say so – I don’t have stats to back it up but if you live too much of a pampered lifestyle this could lead to laziness and falling into a gold digger trap. Ive seen a lot of rich finance guys fall into this . Having something to strive for and being proactive about your dating problems will nearly always trump having a lot of money and at the end of the day nothing matters more than consistent approaches money can amplify the effects of consistent approaching and increase your lays but its not the be all and end all. Ive had nice logistics before and failed miserably I’ve also slept in hostel beds and been successful .  But I’ve found having too much financial success or too much going on  with business can cause you to feel demotivated to some degree. 

Spending money on “great logistics” 

I have to say in my PUA trips the most productive I was was when I had poor logistics compared to good ones. Shit logistics like a hostel or a tiny one bedroom apartment made me more proactive and want to go meet people whereas good logistics like a luxury apartment made me lazy and unproductive  . Having loads of cash on a PUA trip – getting the best logistics out there isn’t necessarily going to lead to more dates as I soon found out- at the core nothing beats a good – strong work ethic.  I had my best day-game successes in Shanghai when I was staying at a hostel I was very proactive going out every night. In contrast I had some very nice logistics in Dubai right next to a university with a fabulous apartment and failed to garner a single date in a month due to not working hard enough. This isn’t knocking on good logistics though if you’ve got good logistics make sure you utilise them to your advantage with a strong work ethic. Without a decent work effort to back up what you have you’ll struggle to make the most of what you got.  That said good logistics can provide “safety” and reassurances for the girl in comparison to bad ones. If you can afford better its nearly always better to have such. 

Are Dating Coaches somewhat hypocrites?

A good chunk of dating coaches say money doesn’t matter but spend their time puaing in poor economic countries ( something I’ve done myself ) Look at James Marshall’s first pua book entitled the “limitless seducer”  his most impressive lays were in 2008 Ukraine when he used myspace to bang Ukrainian chicks. He literally exploited his own status as an Aussie and went to the third world to fuck women earning £150 an average monthly salary . This eventually even backfires on him as the really hot Ukrainian girl he ends up marrying seems to just use him in a marriage  to go to Australia where she seemingly cheats on him with other more prestigious guys all In all this is just an example of how prominent dating coaches use the third world to maximise their sexual market value and take the most advantage. Of course there are other examples by the fact that almost all of The Natural Lifestyles coaching is run in Eastern Europe which is prominently full of low income women I feel this is done intentionally to induce maximum chance for their clients and the coaches themselves to secure lays.  Furthermore Alex Leon of The natural Lifestyles runs Tilted Officials which again relies on employing Ukrainian women and giving them holidays  I mean would tilted work if it employed American or UK women Im not so sure . John Antony seemingly spends the majority of his time now in Brazil and Tom Torero/Nick Krauser were both entirely situated in Eastern Europe coaching there also Tom Torero spent a good period of time coaching people in Singapore which is a country known for its low Sexual market Value men  in terms of PUA skill and social skill who are often on compulsory military duty (thus greatly decreasing the competition for women )  I don’t see Tom Torero running any daygame dating workshops in Rome-  Italy or Paris-France he probably knew full well that these cities were full of confident men therefore chose not to coach here and chose easier environments instead.  

These are examples of course but if the experts of the industry and the people with the most experience are hanging in these areas and playing to their strengths in this way then so should you. 

Divorce and the Financial Issues that cause relationship breakdown 

Simply speaking- a lot of divorces are caused by financial pain.  According to this clickbait article made by a bunch of most likely greedy divorce lawyers 29 percent of divorces are caused by financial issues  https://www.thejimenezlawfirm.com/what-percent-of-marriages-end-in-divorce-because-of-money/ Agin this in someway  shows the importance of financial security for relationships , LTRs and marriages . Theres no doubt that financial issues will cause some long term relationship insecurity. Once again this could be a simple way to argue against those who say money doesn’t matter in dating. If not then why are so many divorces ensued by financial issues? 

Conclusions: 

I write a lot of PUA content to challenge existing theories PUA coaches make its something I love to do , my reasonings are its always important to be rational when analysing everyones belief systems especially that of PUA coaches. You don’t want to be overly hung up on one persons opinion and remember that at the end of the day the coaches want to sell you shit and giving you false hope is part of their process of selling you shit. So please don’t fall or become obsessed with their ideologies too much . It’s just going to fuck you up to become a carbon copy of them without thinking for yourself. You need to do your own approaches, do a tonne of day-game, date a lot of women from different races and come to your own conclusions. My opinion is that Alex Leon was wrong to say that wealth is “2 percent” of attraction. It most definitely is not , id put it at least to 30 percent. Looking at the sheer amount of divorces caused by financial issues  , the patterns in marriage and the areas where hot girls live you’d have to a fucking idiot to believe someone who blags that crap. In some cases wealth does matter a lot especially in LTRs ,SMV maintenance for men  and marriages in other areas like a quick hook up at a hostel  wealth obviously is less important but I chose to tie it in more with the long term dating objectives of men which are more skewed towards the importance of wealth because I believe this is what the majority of men in the sexual market really are striving for be that a LTR or a marriage. 

Disclaimer: I am not a dating coach – Im purely writing this blog as my own perspectives and that’s about it . I am available for networking though in London, France (Nice) , US (Dallas and California) are the areas where I commonly am. For email networking please email darrenpua1@gmail.com

Do men really have “more time than Women” analysing and assessing the myth that men have more time than women. 

Ok so I was having a bit of a debate with myself the other day after watching a 21 convention video boasting that “men have loads of time to date , women have a limited time when they are high SMV that will diminish with time. Whilst I believe it’s true that men have longer to cash in on the sexual market I don’t believe its as easy as saying we have an advantage long term.  Our sexual market value most certainly goes up longterm starting from a smaller base whilst women’s increase early on between their 18-25s  then diminishes as they age. Whilst this has been the subject of much arrogance from the black pill and red pill I decided to write this piece to emphasise that whilst I agree with the core point that women over a long period tend to decline faster I don’t necessarily feel that the extra time that men garner is actually a massive advantage at all seeing as men have much greater time expenses than women in terms of improving sexual market value, maintaining it and further improving it. Once you add up and take into account all these factors I still believe fertile/attractive women still hold the bulk of the cards and advantages in terms of sexual market value . The objective of this  article  isn’t to inspire some sort of negativity or doom or gloom . The aim of this article itself is to provide men with the necessary inspiration to start approaching and go out there and meet as many people as possible because time is of the essence regardless of what your potential is or what you have now. It’s also there to prevent over-complacency  by men in the sexual market place something which the “red pill craze” maybe responsible for. 

Time Spent dating/Approaching

Men’s time expense on dating is infinitely higher , factoring in all the approaching men have to do that’s a huge time expense in of itself, women will spend next to 0 time actively approaching men proactively where as the average man will need to approach and date thus expending  hundreds of hours in order to have a chance to date out of their league in retrospect women merely have to download an app to have access to a pool of 1000s of potential suitors. So the time expense is still on men really, regardless of their SMV as a male 10 will not out match a female 1 on an online dating app and if you as a man really want to get what you desire you’re going to have to spend some time approaching to get your ideal type. Of course the amount of rejections, LMR and bad dates should go down as your skillset improves. But even the highest value of Puas out there will always face rejection regardless . This makes dating all in all a bigger time expense for men and will always be so. As technological advances will really only benefit the top 1-2 percent of men but will intern benefit almost all value of women far greater. The bottom “90 percent” of men will therefore need to ramp up the approaches to increase their options as a result of these technological advances and these women who have more options online may not be as receptive to cold approach anymore. 

Men’s Health Will Deteriorate  : 

Ok , men’s sexual prime will be an older age than a woman’s maybe around the 30-40s mark but age catches up with us all- even the best athletes in the world have to give up their respective sports due to age. So Im  not here saying that men have all the time in the world and that they can keep competing in the sexual market forever – far from it. There are a lot of factors out there that can destroy a man’s testosterone , Im  not going to go all in on them this time round. But factors such as blue light, poor diet, screen addiction, porn addiction can slowly hinder men’s health and make them miss out on opportunities in the sexual market place.

 Of course men can put off these issues by doing what needs to be done to maintain their health: eating healthy, going to the gym , getting their supplementation right , giving up alcohol -junk food etc. Can all contribute towards maintaining a man’s smv but anyway as men go past 30 usually testosterone declines and this needs to be something that men need to address. Do they want to be fucking in their prime of life ? How sexually active will they be capable of having the energy to run multiple approaches each day in line with their job , whilst doing gym etc.  It’s important to understand as a man your peak will not last forever and that you need to start doing approaches as soon as possible and increasing your options. Time is of the essence for both genders , just because women more often than not decline earlier doesn’t mean that men won’t face some sort of decline too eventually . All be it biohacks, giving up alcohol , investing in good quality nutrition can all help  fight against this decline in smv but its by no means a guarantee . 

Men need to spend time finding “Marriage Material” : Look it takes time to find marriage material, I think in the last 50 girls I’ve dated I’ve only seen around 2-3 marriage material girls, for men it’s tough to find these women and they are a dime in a dozen. If you’re serious about having kids and finding the ideal partner you need to have discipline running through you in terms of approaching and dating and  this takes fuck loads of time.  It’s not easy of course but its the only way to combat this issue. 

Also finding out of a person’s habits take an enormous amount of time too. You don’t want a girl that’s just good at sex but you want to really know what happens when the going gets tough and you’re up against it and to find reliable people takes time. You also need to factor in time you meet psychopathic women and potential betrayals that need to be factored in there maybe a bunch of women you date that don’t have the exact longterm or short-term vision as you. Finding a woman who’s visions you align with alone is very tough and time consuming whether you like it or not . 

 Just because someone is hot and likes you or someone is good at sex with you doesn’t make them marriage material or LTR worthy. Most men think with their dick. You should try your damned hardest not to  or else this could have ramifications at a later date. In terms of my personal life I’ve seen the consequences of this in terms of analysing both my older brother’s relationships. Both fell for women who were with them for their money and status . My eldest only found out after they were 10 years into the relationship and she cheated on him. My eldest suffered from scarcity in his dating life, despite being an accomplished , good looking and wealthy individual he didn’t spend the time to really analyse who he was dating he just jumped in and married the first girl that was into him. This had huge consequences and ramifications for both him and my family – consequences that we deal with today. So I beg you guys that are reading please take time to really analyse who you date because if you pick the wrong person it does have consequences please take your time and work hard. 

Men’s Young Years have the potential to be filled with Loneliness which leaves them with a huge gap to fill:  Men’s youth is a crack pit. Mine sucked and I was as privileged as one could be. For starters I went to a private school , you’d think this would give me some edge in my life in reality  I was pitted against some of the highest sexual market value men in south London and my main interests were jerking off and playing FIFA. I had zero hobbies, interests or skills and had no self confidence. My parents had a $600k apartment in South of France so I spent all of my youth in Cannes /Nice (the French city not the adjective) area, still 0 dates, 0 lays, 0 approaches despite being privileged with money. Even men who have some relative SMV to start with may find themselves with little to show for it. In comparison my year group’s hottest girl was being porked by a guy who was two years above me, who was a future Oxford Graduate and the son of Russian billionaire. Tough market for me , who’s most impressive accomplishment at that age would’ve been my 6th wank during a call of duty session. Hardly anything to attract any girl and the lack of interest from any single girl up until I was aged 17 grew massive amounts of loneliness into my life that started to harm my education and my day to day perspective on everything . This then grew into a pornography and gaming addiction along with low grades. I effectively wasted my high school due to excessive loneliness which in hindsight most probably couldn’t have been fixed because the pool of women was so low relative to the high quality of men in my private school  that the statistical probability of any of these women not liking me was high .

Now I’m not saying every Pua or person in the dating sphere is going to have such a horrendous  streak as mine. Im saying the Matthew effect could come into play where a dry streak at a young age spirals and creates low confidence and self esteem at a later date.  ‘Getting over this” Could serve as problematic too some men enter a dating slump and never get out of it. They never cold approach they remain their entire lives at the mercy of algorithms on dating apps or the city they’re in or just hope that they go to the bar and the right horny girl comes up to them. These are unsustainable solutions to the problem men face in my opinion but they are the solutions that men use.  

Men’s Careers , Goals and Objectives can eat in time finding a mate 

Men Need to invest more time to build a social circle:  Whilst women can buy themselves into a social circle with tits and ass men need to contribute more than just their looks in order to get into a decent social circle. A male 10 is still going to have a far tougher time building friendships and networking opportunities than a female 10 especially at a young age. Take an 18-21 year old male 10 and compare him to the opportunities a female 18-21 year old ten will have the differences are absolutely night and day. Men need to prove so much more in order to get into a social circle whereas fertile women will basically be given free rein on where they wish entirely due to their fertility .  

Even from a Pua and dating perspective if you want better wingmen you’re going to have to put yourself out there. That’s going to take time, the amount of time you will spend with failed wingmen and social circles also needs to be taken into account too. For me personally the first 5-6 wingmen I had didn’t match with my vibe and I had to spend the first 6-8 months of my day-game career switching from wing to wing. 

Men need to Invest more time on self improvement on dates to prove themselves to women:  Of course once women sprout huge tits they’ll have people dming to fly them out , famous people after them and so and so forth. For men our value proposition especially when we are young is extremely sparse in comparison to women.  Different men obviously need to spend different amounts of time to improve themselves. For some men this could involve spending a large period of time to improve themselves to reach the necessary mates they desire. For example if you’re broke then dating in an expensive city like London or New York will be incredibly stressful as dating here will obviously cost a considerable amount of money so men in a position of financial difficulty may want to spend some time building up their income first before committing to  daytime in a expensive  city.  These men might just want to go to cities were finances aren’t as important places like China Vietnam or Latin America where the competition of men is considerably poorer and economically not well off. 

Even well off men do need to develop some form of personality, vibe , social skills and work ethic in terms of dating.  It can take time to develop sexual market value and dynamism and requires a lot of hard work and patience. For me when I started day-game my inexperience at life in general was a big thing for me . I found it hard to maintain conversation with people  especially those from different cultures to mine . Growing up in London and spending the bulk of my time in the UK ,France or America it was very difficult for me to converse well with women from Asia for example because I had no experience living in those countries .  For me I needed time to read books, acquire languages / something so I could build rapport with said women and that took time. There was no “rapid escalation” blueprint sometimes SMV is a necessity to build trust with women. 

Opportunities to take advantage of SMV for men may dwindle with time:  For men even being top of the game and the highest value -we are all getting older, our bodies will deteriorate through time  and we don’t have forever. Combine this with the decision fatigue when you’re dating a lot of women and it can be hard to settle down and build a family.  The lesson to be learnt from this? The younger you are the better to start to commit to dating people regularly. Things take time and there will be one day which you yourself are out of time. Make sure you work hard and persist early on so you don’t have regrets later on. 

When is it too late though? For both men and women the brutal reality is we can’t be top of the game forever. There may come a time when our value diminishes and we can’t attract premium partners. We need to keep this in mind going forward or else some opportunities maybe gone forever . For me personally the black pill and red pill makes men prone to thinking they have all the time in the world , that one day women are over the hill their value is gone forever but men’s maintains . While I believe this is true In theory I also believe that there comes a time when men will stagnate and diminish too and they need to be aware of this if they’re procrastinating on their dating goals. 

Disclaimer: Im not a coach and don’t offer any coaching/mentoring services but for those looking to Network and live in any of the 4 cities I live in : London, San Fransisco , Dubai or Nice (France) feel free to email me at: darrenpua1@gmail.com please no podcast requests or YouTube media.

For young people entering the sexual market place improving SMV is a tough task even at the best of times that’s why I wrote this guide to how to improve men’s sexual market place value so that men can improve their results. One glaring problem when I started out was my lack of life experience really showed as I had nothing to talk about . I was literally one of the most boring human beings on the planet at the time, why was this? Partly because I didn’t value education , self development and nutrition but also because I simply didn’t make any active effort to show maturity in my life. Something that in hyper competitive environments like London is pretty much a necessity if you want to move up in the brutal sexual market place here. You need to have some personality, you need to be dynamic to a degree because interacting with women around the world some races will require more than negs to hook. 

The important thing to note is all these things do TAKE Time and lots of it. They will drain you of your mental energy- but will be worth it in the long term. Staying committed to these ideas over months and years can really enhance your day-game but will take time to implement.

• Learn a language- When I started my day-game journey I found interacting with non English speaking girls pretty tricky so I adapted to the situation by learning difficult languages- I hired a coach- someone to teach me Chinese which is pretty easy to do now from Italki or Superprof , from then on after speaking fluent Chinese it made interactions more interesting as Chinese speaking women would open to me more and it created more trust in interactions. As I analysed during my time working in sales the best sales people are usually polyglots. From learning Chinese my confidence grew to learning Cantonese, Japanese and Korean – so from the time of writing I have learnt 4 languages in the space of 2 years and plan to learn a further 6 as a long term goal. It enabled me to have deeper interactions and showed my maturity early on in interactions and instantly separated me from a dumbass Oxford Street Pua. Of course it takes time, but anything that has significance in improving your sexual market value will of course take time. Its just inevitable like most things on this list aside from fashion.  Learning languages also made my time on the streets more productive as I got to improve my language skills whilst picking up girls which all in all made it a better use of my time. 
• Get better Wingmen- As I wrote in my previous daygame guides wingmen will help foster more trust as long as those wingmen are of high value to you and articulate themselves well in interactions. Most guys think they can go through this process on their own and yes you can get results this way but in terms of building a social circle and achieving something of importance good wingmen are a necessity . Having good wingmen will reduce flakes, build trust, reduce your workload etc. There are endless benefits.  This perhaps takes the longest out of all the methods I’ve shown. Finding reliable people takes a tonne of time but will save you on your mental energy . I’ve found wingmen extremely helpful in terms of my motivation and in creating a social circle that women can enjoy . Too many day gamers start off thinking they can do it all by themselves and this can lead to huge burn outs from trying too hard. Believe me its better when you’re with a tribe and people who have common interests to you. Being in good social circles also improves your SMV – remember really and truly no woman wants to be with a lone wolf man.  
• Be prepared for all forms of Social Media for the race/ethnicity of girls that you like to hook up with. Build a strong social media profile on all the various major platforms , have great pictures and continuously  market yourself to the best you can be. I wrote on my social media guide how important this is and I continue to stress it. Its literally a vital necessity in todays world and you should act – For example if you’re into middle eastern women snapchat is a very popular social media app in a lot of these countries so having a snapchat may help you to build rapport . If you’re into Chinese/Taiwanese/Chinese Malays having a good WeChat profile can help. If you’re into Koreans then K-talk can be seen a necessity . Of course for most women instagram is the best and most popular strategy as it’s by far most popular app around and always make sure you have a strong Facebook too. Not having good social media may mean that closing will become a bit trickier as most women will prefer to give their socials away rather than their personal phone numbers. 
• Be more mindful in interactions. This may seem bizarre thing to write on the face of it but being more mindful and practicing mindfulness can help your vibe which in-turn over the course of several 100 daygame interactions should improve your results. Of course learning proper mediation is a skillset which will indeed take time but having a daily meditation practice will over time to make you have more meaningful daytime interactions. 
• Read or at least consistently listen to Audio Books. Again its not hard, try as best as you can be to not be one dimensional the more shit you know the easier it will be to hook women from different races and create some sort of interesting and impactful conversation. Its not hard or expensive to do this, audible has audio books that can be purchased in bundle for £18 for 3 , listening to these consistently is just an easy way to make you more dynamic without needing to work hard. Again target topics of the women you’re into, into fitness? Read as many varying viewpoints of health and nutrition as you can. Love women who are into politics and history? Try and broaden your horizons by listening to different history books. This may look weird to suggest but to hook and have longer more impactful sets increasing your general knowledge can help . An issue with alot of younger guys starting off in daygame is they don’t have enough life experience and run out of things to say. That being said you don’t want your interactions to stray too deep into a women’s interests – be sure to keep the conversations sexual to a degree or you’ll risk being friend zoned
• Gain Muscle – Lose body fat- Im a pretty scrawny dude but I try and hit the gym as much as possible – its one of my sticking points so I don’t think I should really be giving people advice on this but I will nonetheless. More muscle will help garner respect and will simply make you more attractive. You want to make the best impact in interactions looking your best and fittest self is vital this along with good dress is probably one of the easiest things to fix. 
• Travel Lots- Travel Often, go to countries that scare you , don’t just do predictable shit like getting drunk in Magaluf do some meaningful travel and take risks in places other people don’t normally go to. This will make you a lot more interesting and dynamic.  I spent alot of time traveling to countries that were against the norm, like Tajikistan, Saudi Arabia, Uzbekistan, Kazakstan. This made dates a lot more interesting as I was able to hook girls from showing exciting unique pictures from these places and showed I wasn’t just some average British chode who spent his summers getting drunk in Ibiza.  This will make you more interesting , make your dates more interesting in terms of conversation and make your emotional impact higher. You will find also that places people don’t usually go to are actually usually alot cheaper than the traditional British shitholes anyway. 
• Have a type? Then plan accordingly so that your interactions with set type of women go better. If youre into Chinese girls for example start taking Chinese lessons so you can hook them better in interactions and win trust quicker. If you’re into Arabic girls for example – travel to a Middle Eastern country , read history books of said country who’s women youre into. Its not that hard even, two audio books a month for a year and you’re going to have enough conversation points to at least hook most girls. Again if you’re young under the age of 25 you really should invest some serious time reading and listening to audio books. Especially if you’re reading this and you’re below age 21 Id actually spend serious time reading 20-30 books on history  , politics, health   etc. before you hit the streets , a common problem in young people is not enough subjects to talk about.  Nick Krausser for example read a lot of eastern european history books before his daygaming around Russia. The world is increasingly globalised and you’ll need to prepare for this adequately a lot of girls tend to open up more when you talk about subjects , hobbies and interests that interest them and you need to prepare for this. 
• Improve your dress. Probably the quickest way to improve your sexual market value is to improve your dress sense. Dating a girl who’d worked as a stylist really helped me in this regard . But make sure you spend at least some time getting 1-3 decent outfits. Poor dress can lead to blow outs and lower your chances with “maybe girls” so make sure you’re investing some time into bettering this. Make sure you choose an outfit that can show off your physical shape in the best way possible. 
• Sort out your mental problems in life- again this a broad general statement that’s somewhat vague advice at best but if you have mental blocks that are being caused by outside influences make sure you address them first before doing day-game interactions. If you underlying depression, or worries that need to be addressed first make sure you do something about them so your vibe won’t be dead during the interactions. Of course sometimes people can use “other problems” in their life as a barrier to taking proactive action and doing actually street approaches . So make sure you’re honest with yourself . If underlying worries or issues really are affecting your social interactions or not. 

Please note: I’m not a coach but am looking for Wings in London, Dubai Or Nice (South Of France) places where I’m usually based so please get in touch for networking Email: darrenpua1@gmail.com : 

This list for now is pretty raw and I will be looking to add to it more and more as I get new ideas.

How to Decide What to Do? 

Picking your date based on the person personality/ culture  who you’re dating may have a strategic advantage as opposed to just picking what’s convenient to you and your own time . When I started I just went to the same place over and over again without looking at other places that could’ve possibly made the date more exciting and could’ve made certain girls open up more. Try and induce variety in your dates can make the occasions more interesting for you and for the women you date. Will also let you realise what kind  of dates you yourself enjoy doing- mixing dates , locations can make the date more entertaining for both you and the girl so don’t be afraid to experiment and don’t get stagnant. 

 Obviously some locations will  depend on your personality/ habits like  if you drink or not. I personally don’t as I can’t handle my alcohol and after numerous health problems from it I gave it up so from my perspective on this list im leaning more to coffee shops and picnic places rather than areas for booze. If you’re dating a religious girl too or someone that doesn’t drink you may want to think more seriously about good places to hang at night that don’t involve alcohol , a sisha bar  or the Churchill cigar bar in Marble Arch can be a good substation for example .

Alcohol Or Not?   

Sober dates can be a good way to improve your verbal , sub-communication      , if you’re someone in the past that has done nothing but dates involving alcohol and getting fucked off your ass maybe up the difficulty level and try a sober picnic or a casual coffee.  This will help you to work on your conversation skills and put you out of your comfort zone and will also help you in the long run with your health and will force you to ram up your convo and general knowledge skills to induce longer , more interesting conversations without the need of alcohol  . Remember we are all getting older you can’t simply rely on alcohol forever as the older you get the worse the hangovers and toll it will take on you and your life in general. Also excessive drinking can harm performance in the bedroom and your productivity especially if you have big rotations or are seeing a lot of women at once you may want to axe the drinking alcohol dates for the cheaper coffee dates . Especially if youre stacking 3-5 dates a week continued drinking might drain you of energy and vibe for other dates so keep that in mind. Add sex into this and the impact on your sleep might drain productivity in other areas of your life too. 

First Date Types– 

These obviously don’t need to be done as one set individual location  and if you’re escalating sexually its ideal to keep moving to different locations to keep the sense of adventure running in the date. Try to choose 2-3 locations in one setting. So picking your area that you’re dating is extremely important, make sure this area has a mixture of cafes, bars and restaurants to keep things popping throughout the date. For example an area like High Street Kensington has picnic spots stacked with restaurants and bars which will enable you to do interesting bounces. Places like Marble Arch have unique hotels and bars all located near one another that can make for exciting bounces between each location.  

Picnics – Can create a sense of adventure and are a great opportunity to lead , pick wine, food together . Obviously weather dependant and isn’t really recommended to do in London in the Winter time. Japanese Gardens in Kensington, Wimbledon Common or Hyde Park are my preferred spots. 

Casual Coffee – London Is stacked with coffee shops ideally you want to pick ones with couches where you can escalate  , recommendations include Joe and The Juice and the new hot chocolate chain Knoops. 

Bar and Drinks -Can be easily stacked with other dates and are recommended for anyone who likes alcohol. Make sure you pick bars that are quiet and can enable conversation and escalation my personal favourite is the Nobu Hotel in Portman Road full of sofas and create a quite intimate experience that gives the opportunity for escalation. I would be against picking a loud pub or bar and in stead research for areas that aren’t so crowded so you can actually hear the girl speak. 

Galleries –  Art Galleries Like Saatchi Gallery , Tate Modern can be good spots to lead especially for students who haven’t previously lived in London. It’s recommended not to long it out in the galleries and try and bounce to a coffee shop or bar area after 1-1.5 hours 

Getaway Weekend – (Currently writing a separate guide for this)  For long term rotations, keeping interest and excitement high for the girls you want to keep around is key. After visiting lots of the major dating locations in London you might want to consider going to other parts of the UK and arranging getaway weekends with your girls. This will keep up the sense of adventure in the relationship . 

Straight to Your Place– I had previously written a guide about this that ill be publishing again, but there are techniques you can use to test to the waters to see if the girl w22ill go straight to your place on the first date. This has advantages in that you can get the lay quicker and for girls that are tourists you want to escalate as optimally as possible. However there have been numerous occasions were this has worked out badly for me. 5 occasions I had lmr which the girl never texted me back after- I also had one girl accuse me of just trying to fuck her as quickly as possible. A move of going straight back to yours on the first date might be deemed to quick and paint you as too much of a fuck boy for her early on. In my opinion its best to wait it out and take a couple of dates to build up some excitement – push pull etc. Then go back to yours, of course everyones opinions will be different on this so feel free to disagree. Of course this will partly be determined by how long that girl is in the city for . If they’re a student that just started a 3 year bachelors degree then escalating straight to yours will be risking a whole lot of lmr and gambling away potentially 3 years of sex if you played everything a bit smoother and more patiently. If they are a tourist on a weekend away In London then you need escalate as quick as possible while buying temperature is high.

Restaurant Dates: Very Difficult to garner success from restaurant dates they’re extremely difficult to sexualise and very hard to convert from, restaurant dates are more recommended when you’ve at least fucked the girl once or else its a massive cash investment for very little reward. 

Second Dates: You should aim to frame these straight to your place in the ideal world. So set the goal to at least cook for them before the date is set. I’ll be writing a guide about this shortly. But if they won’t come to yours at least frame the date in your location. 

After You fuck them : Make sure you take them out to a restaurant or treat them somewhere. Ive lost many a girl by treating them like shit after sleeping with them. You should make an effort to acknowledge them so they don’t believe they are being used just for sex and take them out at least once for food afterwards. Some People will see it as beta spending money on a girl but personally I think its ok after you’ve slept with them to treat them once in a while. The better you treat them the longer and better chance you have of the girl staying on your rotation 

Long Term- 3-5 Dates in : In order to keep the relationship fresh I recommend taking the girl to other cities- remember the more travel and adventure you have with a girl the more you will build a romantic  adventure in her mind which can help secure more of a connection and deepen the intimacy in the relationship. It can also help to keep the relationship fresh if you’re bored of London – I will be writing another guide soon but overall I recommend trips to : Cotswold, Bristol , Lake District as a few other cities and places you can take girls to keep the excitement and adventure high in your relationship. 

Trips Abroad: Never agree to a trip abroad with a girl unless you’ve at least fucked them once. You don’t want awkward pressure lingering on your date with someone.  Living in a city like London you can do easy cheap flight get aways to many European cities and it’s an easy way to keep the relationship fresh and exciting- I’d only recommend doing this 3-4 months at the very least , make sure you’ve taken them around London and lead them around the UK first before embarking on a trip abroad so you know you can at least trust them that they flip out or create an awkward situation for you. 

Ways to Keep Up to Date with New Date Locations: 

London is an ever growing city with new opportunities arriving almost monthly . In order to keep track of these new locations following instagrams of influencers that eat dine out regularly is a great way to keep track of Innovative date locations: 

https://www.instagram.com/dinewithfari/

Low Budget Yet Exciting Dates: 

Soho: 

The Positives of Dating in Central London: 

• Easy for most women to get to and relatable. Of course if you’ve just met a girl on the street meeting her somewhere relatable is always an easy way to usher in an element of safety rather then making the girl come all the way to your area which may be inconvenient for her. 
• Good atmosphere- Speaks for itself, many girls particularly those raised abroad visiting London for the first time as students or tourists should find Soho an enticing prospect.  

Negatives: 

• Loud and noisy especially on the weekends – this can make it potentially difficult to hear her if you take her to a bar that’s too packed. Which can make the romanticism and seduction a difficult task. 

Recommendations on a budget : 

Joe and The Juice Soho:

• Simple Cheap and easy date Joe and the Juice Soho is a basic dating spot to take a girl out in central London , if things are going well there are plenty of areas to go nearby for food and bars for the second bounce. 

After A coffee you can bounce to Chin Chin Labs which do marshmallow hot chocolates- a follow up to All Bar One is decent for another bounce location.

• Italian Bear Chocolate-Soho is another decent location to pick which does really entertaining hot chocolates – good cheap and entertaining for a first date along with couches that can be good for escalating. 

Bit Pricier: 

• Sketch Soho – Obviously more high end with drinks being a bit more expensive but it’s a unique experience with several bars in one location which can provide an opportunity to lead women you date. 

Clapham Park  – 

Picnic Date Idea – Whole Foods then Walk to Clapham Park for the picnic 

Simple Coffee Shop date- Knoops and Joe the Juice are both cheap and simple locations – Whole Foods Clapham Park has a new coffee shop too which can be stacked well with the All Bar One located just 5 minutes away from it. 

High Street Kensington – 

Picnic Idea Date Idea -> Whole Foods to buy the food  then Japanese Garden for the picnic  – Whole Foods itself can be a date location to grab a coffee with plenty of seating, quite busy during the weekends though. 

Simple Coffee Shop Idea- Knoops, Joe and the Juice , Street Food Markets to eat located opposite to whole foods.  Also some Iranian, Filipino and Iraqi restaurants located 10 minutes away from the station.  There’s also a Megan’s which can be decent for a coffee. Overall high street Kensington is a great place if the weather is good you can move the date quickly onto respective parks, bars etc. 

Fulham Broadway : 

Whole Foods is the easy options followed by several bars located nearby. There is a new food court located straight next to the station which is good for a cheap eat. 

Notting Hill – 

Recommendations on a Budget- 

Grab a coffee at Daylesford Organic – if going well there are plenty of ice cream shops around for a second bounce and bars nearby for a third.  Notting Hill is a great place to walk around with tourist girls or girls that are new to London for the first time so just grabbing a coffee at a Leon near the station then going for a walk around can suffice especially on the weekends with the markets on. 

Mayfair: 

Shot London : An instagramable  Coffee shop  with decent finesse , pretty packed with Arabs but nonetheless a unique spot in London . 

Marble Arch– 

Potential Date Plans: 

Selfridges- Selfridges has a decent size food court area with plenty of places to sit there are also many different restaurants and bars located inside so an ideal – there are literally new bars built inside Selfridges every 6 months or so 

Nobu Hotel: Now im not saying go buy your girl dinner at Nobu , but the bar on the downstairs area serves up relatively cheap small meals and does drinks, teas and coffee.With couch seating its the perfect place for an intimate date and really not that expensive about the same price as you’d be paying for a cocktail at All Bar One but far less louder. Also everyone loves Japanese architecture 

Churchill cigar bar: great place to wind down after a bar or coffee which delivers a real “London feel” perfect for girls who are tourists or living in London for the first time. 

Daylesford Organic is also Located here which is good place to grab a coffee although seating can be limited. 

Idea for Stacked date plan: 

Selfridges for a coffee -> Nobu for A cocktail Wine, Light snack -> Churchill Cigar bar for more drinks and a bounce home . Make sure you keep in mind the opening and closing times for these areas.

Or alternatively if the date is a late night one past 9pm you can just go and do the Nobu Hotel to Churchill Cigar Stack. 

Sloane Square/Knightsbridge –

Sloane Square is an excellent date spot as it has a sweet street food market on the weekends , loads of coffee shops, an excellent gallery and some intimate restaurants and bars. A perfect place to stack several bounces together and a ascetically pleasing safe area to hang around in.  

Joe and the Juice- JATJ downstairs can be a very intimate spot 

Saatchi Gallery – One of my favourite spots to take cultured girls great area for a date also right by it are many good restraint bars and coffee shops. 

Raw Press Juice Bar- Located between Knightsbridge and Sloane Square a beautiful little bar spot . Can be stacked with other areas easily. 

Pimlico: 

Daylesford Organic located on Pimlico is a beautiful shop for a coffee. 

Fulham Broadway: 

Whole Foods Fulham Broadway is a great place to grab a juice or a snack. There are plenty of bars nearby. Theres a food stall right next to Fulham Broadway station with plenty of places for eating. 

London Bridge: Borough Market next to the station is a fantastic place to go and grab some coffee or some food then have a drink along the river

Islington:  In honesty I haven’t dated at all in Islington myself but have clocked a few good places for a drink – Jiji’s in a beautiful square which serves good drinks and with other locations good for a bounce. There are also several coffee shops in the same area.  Megan’s in Islington also has good outdoor seating good for first time round coffee dates. 

Shoreditch : 

• Box Park has several decent shops that can be used as date locations – Humble Dough being cheap cool ice cream spot. Plenty of good restaurants and ice cream shops that you can go to afterwards. 
• Another shop called The Grocery is a good spot for a coffee – Shoreditch itself is visually a very interesting city with plenty to see and look around at so just simply walking with the girl can suffice.  
• Dark Sugars- Another good location for a hot chocolate and a cool place for a first date- a bounce and walk around Greenwich park might be ideal. 

King’s Cross Station: 

• King’s Cross has a plethora of spots to date at with many new restaurants built near the UAL campus.  
• Area outside Google Headquarters is a decent place to go on a picnic, a good plan and set up for a date here might be to go to the Waitrose nearby – buy food then head outside the google headquarters and have a picnic- afterwards there are many places bars nearby that are good for drinks 

South East London 

Wimbledon: 

Date Ideas- Coffee , Bars Drinks , Picnics 

-Wimbledon Village is a prime date location with plenty of small coffee shops a great area to walk around with a nearby park perfect for picnic dates. 

• Demitasse – Good coffee shop in the heart of Wimbledon Village and equipped with couches an ideal first date spot. 
• Megan’s Wimbledon- Not as good seating wise as Demitasse but an interesting second location option if need be. 
• A coffee shop followed by All Bar One can be a good date plan. 

Picnic Idea- Go to Bayley and Sage buy some wine , cheese , sandwiches and other alcohol and then walk to Wimbledon Park which is around 10 minutes away , again said before when buying food for a picnic with the girl make sure the girl feels included in the decision making process. 

Putney: All Bar one and several other bars located along the river serve as decent date spots. Overall not the best location to date someone and only really advisable to someone living in the area or in a nearby town like Wimbledon. 

Kingston Upon Thames: A different sort of location in London located along a river it can be a unique town to take a girl out in. Cote Brassier located next to  the river does decent drinks and is a romantic setting if the weather is good. 

Why Good instagram photos are key to men’s seductive success

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Before I digress into the world of photography and how it can influence a man’s life I would like to first of all state that nothing is more important than continuous approaching for a man as he tries to progress in the world of dating. Indeed great photos do matter a lot as I will make points in this blog post about and it’s important as a man that you look after how you present yourself online. But don’t let it serve as a distraction away from the hard craft of approaching and meeting new women. I’ve found that great photos can serve to support good/strong approaches and reduce my flake count. 

I’ve been in the “pua community” as an active “daygamer” for around three years now. I’ve seen many faults with my wingmen. Some are overweight, some fail to approach, some have bad posture etc. But a common problem with around 90 percent of my wings was a failure to project their lives on instagram in an attractive and admirable way that will be attractive to top quality women. It’s a common problem and one which many men fail to fix. Either because they feel their “alpha” approach will be enough to attract the girl into their life. A concept which maybe true back in 2006-2010 when day game was starting to gain traction and social media was no where near as important as it is now.  Or because they are simply lazy, unwilling to adapt and change things to fit into their favour  because they are too inexperienced to see where their weaknesses lie. 

In 2017 I watched a video by TNL instructor Liam Mcrae in which he goes through men’s facebook photos and judges them. Why does he do this? Because he knows that poor photos can put a woman off dating him as which happened to him as one of his tinder matches declined to meet up with him in real life because his facebook had so many weird photos of him that he forgot to untag which the woman saw and was consequently put off by. These videos are vital to watch because it shows the sheer amount of shit , invaluable stuff that men post on their social media accounts that will put off women from meeting up with them. These include: 

• Poor quality photos.  The mobile phone era has really proved destructive to men’s instagram pages as men aren’t posting photos of any quality . Mobile cameras may seem convenient but almost all bar maybe the iPhone 11 have bad light quality and portray images in not enough detail. 
• Too much crap posted on their social media. Get rid of self help quotes, political posts and other crap. Post things of real value of you in a good light. 
• Photos emphasising one thing too much. Photos in one city, too many topless photos, photos showing off something like a good car, too much of you doing one hobby. You need variety to show that you’re someone who has a sense of adventure and purpose beyond just one thing. So if you have a good body don’t post constant gym selfies, if you live in London don’t have all your pictures in London make sure you have them take in a variety of cities across the globe which shows you’re sense of adventure. 
• Posting photos with a lack of variety. Similar to my last point re;ally but photos should show a variety of high quality high value friends, other women (this will make the woman aware that you have “options in your life” and are trusted by other females. Photos should have a range of poses too, ranging from very masculine serious looks that can portray your strength and confidence as a man to photos of you smiling that show your feminine side. Too many photos of you smiling and you look quite simply gay which will put off women from more conservative backgrounds who lust for more masculine men. These are more dominantly from peasant societies like Russia, Kazakstan etc. Too many photos of you looking alpha may cause you to have no fun or feminine side which may make put off women especially the incredibly beta ones from China and south east Asia. 
• Immaturity or feminine photos:  too many photos of you drunk, partying, doing stupid shit or seen as a desperate attempt to make you look funny can really put women off . By all means have a funny photo here and there. But too many will put off serious corporate women or women from traditional conservative masculine societies. Photos of you partying maybe good for the 18-21 year old frat party girls but if you close a corporate girl or a career minded girl it may serve as detrimental in leading towards a date. Be very mindful as certain photos may block out certain types of women from your life. Why would you want to do that? Keep your options open have pictures that serve all types of women not just the frat party goers and the beta asians. 
• Scarcity of photos full stop. Most men have one or two photos on their social media, or just not photos at all. There is therefore no proof to the women that they approach that this man has any life ,friends or family full stop. 
• Photos with poor quality dress. Aim for at least one professionally taken photo for you in a suit. This will show some serious side and show that you care for your dress sense.  

What good photos can do for you as a man in your dating life: 

• Increasing your tinder matches. I fucking hate online, its shit and degrading as man.But if you want better matches then by all means get better photos. They’ve done experiments with a male 7 with great quality photos  v a male 9 with poor quality photos. The male 7 with great photos achieved better matches. 
• Will create a sense of adventure in the woman’s mind. This is quite simply invaluable seeing as women are far more attracted to life experience than men are (men’s biggest attraction will always be fertility) Its no big surprise that women are attracted to older men and this isn’t based on looks but rather the life experience that older men have been through. They’ve done a lot more interesting shit with their life. Photos can be a way of instantly portraying to a woman the interesting things you’ve done with your life so that you can stand out amongst the 1000s of men who don’t have any high quality photos of themselves doing interesting shit. 
• Will stop you looking like a rapist or a loner. Women want high quality men in their lives this doesn’t mean you have to be perfect in every-way possible but it does mean you have to portray life in an interesting light that can stop making women think you’re a rapist. One of the biggest concerns women have of dating men on the street is whether or not they’re going to get raped or if the guy is a psycho killer. Having good quality photos is an effortless way to build trusts and reduce your flake count. Ive approached countless women from day-game who’ve said that the photos i had on my Instagram provided them with proof that I wasn’t a serial killer. Even my most memorable lay from day-game was told by her friend not to meet me (for fear that I was a rapist) but she pushed towards meeting and sleeping with me because I had great quality photos. Its a fine margin between success and failure why make something as difficult and challenging as pickup that bit harder by having shit photos? 
• Can provide lasting benefit, one great shot of you can help you in your dating life for years to come. 
• Serves as a tool to attract hypergamous girls. Say you approach a lot in universities and you have great photos of you traveling around the world doing interesting things those photos will stand out a lot to a woman’s eye especially if she’s around immature punks as I’m sure she would be if she’s at a university which are often full of guys playing Fifa and doing not much else. 
• Appeals to different sides of female attraction effortlessly. Photos of you well dress and well organised appeal to one side, photos of you in dangerous places or unique places show good leadership and knowledge. Photos of you in high value areas like 5 star hotels can show a lot of value in resources , photos of you making a speech or doing something artistic on a stage like stand up comedy or music show leadership and creativity. Great photos can really deliver all sorts of different attractive traits of masculinity to the women which on top of a solid approach can serve to maximise your value to her. 

Instagram Close V WhatsApp Close which is better? 

The answer is “it depends” on the situation nearly all the time. If you’re approaching a high end model girl with 100ks of followers then I’d go for the personal WhatsApp close as your Instagram is unlikely to impress her as she’s “seen it all before” high end women get their dms absolutely flooded with tonnes of men chasing after them so its no point competing in that level  .In short to summarise if they have more than 2k followers i’d just go for the WhatsApp close first. If they have a low follower count I’d go for the Instagram close as it will be easy to build value with high quality photos as most likely she’s around immature men with no  interesting life experience if she has a low follower count.

 If you genuinely desire the WhatsApp over the Instagram then I’d just ask for the WhatsApp (make sure you have a good WhatsApp photo to make a strong impression when you message the girl) If the girl is uneasy to give you her WhatsApp just say you  understand and say “let me take your instagram you can see pictures of me and my friends realise I’m not a rapist and then we can go for coffee” 

If the woman is a student or seems a bit on the immature side id go for the Instagram Close, showing off your photos to her can be a fantastic way to show value and life experience that her friends will unlikely have. It gives her a concrete reason to date you that you’re offering value that guys her age can’t. 

Of course I believe WhatsApp is the more personal way to text someone. But the huge disadvantage of WhatsApp is that its hard to build comfort in the same way an instagram close can. Instagram or facebook you can have the girl see your life and how interesting you are as an individual , it can help build interest etc. in ways WhatsApp can’t. Instagram has the big benefactor that if the lead flakes you can re-engage her by adding high value stories that stimulate her interest. You simply cant do this via Whatsapp, on WhatsApp once the lead is dead its dead…. 

Always Look to Preserve your Brand: 

Your photos are your brand. They are how you advertise yourself as an individual, if they are poor quality people wont be excited by what you have to offer as an individual and will look elsewhere to find mates. Make sure when you travel you’re constantly taking good photographs that can enhance your profile 

Steps to go about getting good photographs: 

• Delete all low quality/immature/creepy  photos. Get rid of them this is the way you’re presenting yourself as a man to the world. Get rid of low quality crap, the photo of you holding your thumbs up etc.  Have female friends look over and decide which ones they like and don’t like it can help a lot. Take a look at your photos and honestly ask yourself would you date yourself? Get opinions from your male friend’s who have better photos of you. Ideally high quality wingmen who have self awareness of the importance of this side of your dating life. 
• Ditch the cell phone camera. Yes , just do it. I don’t give a shit what make or model the camera phone is nothing beats a high quality mirrorless camera. Give yourself the best pictures possible 
• Invest in a high quality camera and decent portrait lens. I personally purchased the Panasonic s1 but there’s a range of  camera’s you can buy that can help towards your image.  The Sony A6300 is a good starting point. People will spend £1000s on a holiday but won’t invest a penny towards a good camera that can help 
• Invest in a professional photo shoot. Do it, these pictures can last a lifetime and you want the best chance of you standing out. A lot of men will appear to proud to put money on the line the extra £50-100 to take good photos but will plow £100s into unsuccessful dates with women seems a bit ridiculous. But of course most men in the dating world are naive and illogical . 
• Travel a lot, take a good camera with you and have good quality photos of yourself taken constantly to make your instagram and social media look like you have a fabulous life. Make sure you travel with people that ideally have a knowledge of photography too to get the very best pictures of your trip. Take lots at different angels, try and perfect the way your portray it seems pretentious and stupid but however obsessed you may seem to be about your appearance just remind yourself that this shit will pay off a lot in the long run. Always keep an eye out for high areas that portray high value. If you stay in a 5 star hotel for one night make sure you take a tonne of photos during your stay so that you can show your value and resources. 
• Try unique shots in unique places. The more unique the shot the more value it adds. Avoid pictures in cliche places that have already been instagrammed a tonne of times . Try and travel off the beaten path. The most interest I got from girls were from my pictures in unique areas like” Kyrgyzstan  , Tajikistan and Uzbekistan  (in central Asia) these were places that most men usually don’t go to. This can build a lot of attraction to the women if they see you doing things that people don’t normally do. It can depict courage , discipline and adventure without you having to do it yourself.  
• Invest in good editing software like adobe Lightroom or take a photo editing course. 70 percent of what makes photos good is good in the editing. Avoid over saturation and over editing of photos it can come across as needy and try hard. 
• Get high quality photos of you with male and female friends , women don’t want a loner creep and thats one of the first things they’re worried about when they get approached the fact that you maybe a loser with no friends. It’s therefore paramount that you get high quality photos done with your friends and have a few with your female friends to win additional rapport. 
• take photos of other men who are serious about posing in a masculine way. It helps to have people on the same path as you and in photography its no different. 

It’s a competitive dating world out there and men have really far less maturity and common sense to navigate it compared to women. From my life at the age of 16/17 women around me were already taking high quality pictures and investing in model shoots. I had no idea why they were doing it or how come. Till I realised that they themselves were doing it as a portrayal of value to attract the highest quality mates. While men around me were bleakly doing fuck all about their dating lives just jacking off and playing call of duty. Most Puas and men have no real self awareness about how shit their photos are and its a massive shame as they missing out greatly. I mean look at Johnny Berba’s instagram for example a “leading UK dating coach” absolute trash with no real value conveyed. Be self aware of the way you present yourself as a man. It may sound cheesy and corny but it makes a real difference. People ask “but why can’t my approach just create the attraction” in 2020 and in an age of social media and Instagram it’s all about how your portray your life now that’s about it. It seems corny and pretentious but as a man it’s your job to be organised and adapt. 

Photos ranked in terms of “value”

Different photos convey your value in different ways and you should be aiming to provide a wide range of photos to convey your brand properly, I’ve arranged them in order of importance : 

1. Photos of accomplishment- These are by far the photos that tend to get the most likes from girls I’ve found , these photos are perhaps the most important in showing your value and showing off your SMV. Photos of you achieving things in life that other men have done can create a lot of interest and build trust . A photo of me signing shares for a company Im a stake holder in got more likes than any other photo women love accomplishment and its important any time you do accomplish anything that you have a photo taken of it. 
2. Photos with family. Women love a man who values his family and your instagram should show pictures of this to some extent. 
3. Travel photos to exotic destinations. Shows your sense of adventure and are very important in terms of building comfort to girls. For example when i stay at 5 star hotels i ensure that my wingman takes pictures of me at that hotel, uploading that picture then shows a lot of interesting traits. That I have enough money to afford staying at  a high end venue ( so I’m not some broke ass loser on the street) , that i have a degree of class and that I’m adventurous.  It immediately deals with a lot of problems the girl might be questioning about you when you’ve approached her. 
4. Pictures with puppies and kittens. An instant winner and something that girls love , try and get a few high quality pictures with cute animals.
5. Photos that show a broad range of fashion senses that show your strengths and understanding of good quality fashion.  
6. Baby Pictures- Always try and sneak a few of these in. Photos of you when you were young can be used to build rapport and play to women’s mothering instincts. 
7. Pictures with other girls , again this can build rapport to some degree but too much of this makes you come across as a fuckboy. 
8. Model Shots – one or two of these are fine and should always be done and used as your facebook profile picture and your WhatsApp profile picture. A strong WhatsApp photo is key to making a good impression on girl’s who you’ve number closed. You really don’t want this photo to be a bad or it may give a reason for her to flake on you. 
9. Pics Surfing or Skiing – I upload a few pictures of myself surfing but no more than that, these two types of sports are pretty saturated on Tinder/men’s dating profiles so make sure you don’t over do it. 
10. Sports/Yoga or Gym shots- 1 or 2 of these are ok anymore and it may seem like you’re showing off your body to excess. 
11. Photos of food- other things you do at work etc. These are not so important but may add value if they’re interesting and high quality. 

What NOT to Upload: 

• Poor quality  photos, any of these just don’t bother. If the picture doesn’t look nice don’t bother with it . More is not necessarily better , aim for quality over quantity . Delete any poor quality photos off your instagram or facebook now. 
• Excessive amounts of the same accomplishment or the same thing. For example if you go to the gym a lot excessive photos of you topless or showing off your body may make you look like a one trick pony who’s only goal or asset is the fact that they gym a lot . Too much of anything is a bad thing .
• Photos with nothing interesting going on, again think of it from the woman’s perspective do you honestly want to date someone who is doing nothing interesting in their life. A complete lack of interesting photos is highly likely to diminish your value. 
• Shit selfies, i see this a lot on people’s profiles, why? It looks terrible and makes you look immature don’t bother with it. 
• Not enough pictures with friends. You need photos with other male friends who are also good looking and well dressed to ensure to women you have a social circle that’s worth getting involved in. 
• Excessive photos with females, as I’ve said before too much of anything is a bad thing . Too many pictures with females will make you come across like a fuckboy and is likely to ruin the romance of the initial approach that you made. It’s best to keep female photos limited. A small amount to show that other females like you but not too many to make the woman think that you have 1000 other women on the go. They want to feel special and appreciated not one of 1000 other women that you’ve approached that week. 
• Self help quotes – I see a lot of day gamers do this I personally think it comes across extremely immature and bit weird. 

Instagram Stories: 

Instagram stories are the number one way to resurrect dead leads you’ve closed from daygame it’s helped me rein-gage maybe girls . You should aim to make your Instagram stories interesting and insightful , some that can easily grab a woman’s attention and should of course be conveying some sort of interesting hobbies or activities that you’re personally doing. 

Good things to put on your instagram stories (in no particular order) : 

• Stories of an interesting event or festival you maybe a part of 
• Stories of you traveling in exotic interesting places
• Stories of you cooking (can be extremely useful if you cook good food and the woman comments you can comment back saying “i need to make this for you sometime) 
• Stories of you in high end/ high value places. 
• Stories of you with cute animals like puppies, if you have a cute pet i would personally put him in your stories all the time it can be a wonderful babe magnet to re-hook dead leads into your life. 
• Stories of your friends doing interesting things. Shows you have a social circle and aren’t a loner freak. 
• Stories of your family, always great to have some in there to show that you’re a family man. Plays to women’s mothering instincts. 

Things you shouldn’t upload stories of 

• You and girls you date. This is a controversial one but i don’t think its beneficial to other leads to actively show them that you’re dating other women it may ruin chances of getting them out, making the woman feel like second choice or that you’re just a fuckboy. I avoid posting other women at all in my stories unless they’re relatives (and I specifically say they’re relatives in the post, for example if Im with my female cousin I post a picture or story captioned with “hanging with my cousin” . 
• Anything political or religious , honestly its not worth going into political conflict over instagram and its just going to kill off potential leads . Avoid posting slogans preferring one political party to another it just serves to create conflict or divide between you and girls before anything has even started 
• Boring stories of you doing boring shit. If you have nothing interesting to post then just don’t post it . It’s that simple, posting consistent boring stories will potential lead to girl’s thinking your life is boring and then offering them no incentive to date you in the long run. 
• Low value places or drug taking, just photos of you doing shit things like drinking at a pub isn’t interesting to the majority of high value women. 

How to use pictures on a date? 

Instagram pictures can be used quite easily to build rapport and trust on date without much effort . I always bring out the pics to show the women when Im telling travel stories, describing what I do during work, talking about history (as i have a lot of pictures about the history of certain areas which serve a political undertone) showing my family and friends and what they do. It can be a fantastic way to build trust and build a sense of adventure. Particularly if you have pictures of the places where the girl you’re dating with is from e.g. when I date a Chinese girl I always show pictures of my time in China.  Usually however the further a picture is taken away from where the girl is from usually correlates to gleaning more interest. For example a girl from Hong Kong might find a photograph from Norway very interesting however a girl from the UK may find pictures from Norway to be very boring. 

Good Camera Set ups for your Travels: 

Investing in a good quality camera, lenses etc. is vitally important as you really want to show of your brand as much as possible online. Think about it to the big fortune 500 companies like Apple or Google use half assed technology to show of their brand? No they don’t and neither should you . 

Follow some youtubers like art of photography to get a more interesting understanding into lens types and understanding the variations of lenses and models. Join facebook groups about the lenses and cameras you have to give yourself a better understanding about how to get the most out of your camera or do what I did and just take a photography course at Jessops. It takes time to study photography but it’s honestly worth its weight in gold in the long run. 

Good value starting point Sony A6300 

Sony have the cheapest range of mirrorless cameras and this one certainly is the best value one out there and good for beginners starting out in Photography. 

The most advanced and expensive setup I use is the Panasonic S1 and 1.4f Lumix Pro lens , its a pricey set up but has gotten me many invaluable shots that I can continue to use in terms of my brand. 

https://www.jessops.com/c/brand-shop/panasonic/lumix-s1

Which I take with the 1.4f Lumix F Pro Sense 

It’s been expensive but massively worth it in the long run to have this set up for me during my travels. Its also enabled be to do model shots of girls Im dating and add direct value to their life as well 

I usually use the best camera phone out there iPhone 11 as of time of writing this blog post this gives me the opportunity to post high quality instagram stories which can increase my chances of resurrected leads and building intrigue. 

Also using a GoPro can help for vlogging and capturing travels from a more adventurous angel. 

How to get good photographs?

• Travelling is a great way to make yourself look more adventurous on Instagram its one of the easiest and most efficient ways but you need to make sure you’re travelling with people who take photography seriously and can also use your camera well.  Some men think taking good photos is seen as “gay” but fuck those guys you need good photos in order to build your brand and image up. Make sure you surround yourself with wingmen who take photography seriously too . 
• Taking model photo shots, aim to this a couple of times each year. Make sure you do your research as some model photographers can be woeful and rip offs. 
• Having an easy to use high quality phone camera at hand so you can get strangers to take photos of you easily. Having a camera too complicated to use (like the one I actually suggested) may make it difficult to get good photos on a whim . 
• Make sure you have a good quality camera at hand for key points in your life like signing a contract, winning an award etc. It looks like you’ve achieved things in your life and builds intrigue. 

Other Platforms to Store Photos and Value: 

WeChat 

 Download WeChat which is the social media platform that is extremely popular around China, Hong Kong ,Taiwan  Macau and is used all the time by Chinese students studying in the UK. If you’re into Asian women you really want to  upload high quality photos on there. We chat is the form of communication in China and its best you use that rather than going for a “whatsapp” or instagram as Instagram/Facebook is not as popular amongst Chinese students as WeChat is  . It’s all in all better to use a mode of social media where you can upload photos win rapport and prevent the girl being scared of you or thinking that you’re a rapist.  WeChat has similar picture upload functions to Facebook and Instagram and when closing a Chinese girl you can simply ask for their WeChat “QR Code”.

Youtube:

 I do a lot of standup comedy performances which I record using a high quality Sony and Canon Cam-recorders store a lot of them online on a youtube channel. This is great for rapport building when I have women back at my place I can playback the stand up videos. This adds value, shows the woman I’m a talented individual who can make people laugh and have confidence enough  to go on stage. Sometimes I send the stand up videos to girls before I date them if they’re still nervous about me and need more rapport. Once they’ve seen that my Youtube channels have a few thousand views its likely to build trust. I also run a health blog and store instruction videos on there that also have a few thousand views. Again anything that helps to build rapport is worth doing as it results in less flakes in the long run. Make sure to link your creative Youtube projects in your Instagram bio.

Personal Blogs/Photography Projects:

If you have an interesting blog or photography project its best to upload a link to the URL website in your Instagram bio which can help greatly with your brand 

Personal Business: 

Again the same thing as personal blogs  if you run a business make sure you but that in your Instagram bio as it can help entice more interest.  Make sure your Business website is attractive etc.

Whatsapp: 

Having a good WhatsApp photo is crucial to make a strong first impression. Please don’t use shit quality selfies it just makes you look like an absolute creep. Same rules of WhatsApp and Facebook stories apply to Instagram stories. 

Differentiating between good and bad quality photos: 

Didn’t include them of me on here as i don’t feel comfortable sharing my face on a men’s dating guide .. thats just me but heres a few travel photos that help build up rapport and interest. Here’s a guide of how I coached one of my Wingmen into getting better photographs: 

For a lot of guys my friend Steven was a very handsome looking guy but was unable to convey his looks in photos properly and it was causing him a lot of problems, note these following two pictures: 

Examples of bad and good pictures: 

These two pictures have obvious problems and are similar to a lot of the ones I see “Rookie Puas” Posting . For one the camera used (a mobile phone) is unable to give us good detail about Steven’s handsome looks which is a shame, the area in the first pic looks boring and the caption seems a bit immature. The second pic inspire of his great body you can barely see him. Not showing off his plus points to the best of his ability. These pictures make him seem a bit clueless and immature along with showing girls he clearly doesn’t care how he presents himself despite having an immaculate body

After some revisions with his photographs and taking them with a high quality lens we were able to display increased SMV by just having a better quality camera and some organisation and planning over how the photos were taken. These pictures took several attempts but all in all were very much worth the desired outcome of improving his sexual market value 

This picture above was taken during our day-game trip to Hong Kong at the Mandarin Oriental Hong Kong, a very high quality classy venue. He’s dressed in a suit displaying self awareness of fashion and the high quality lens brings out his facial features in a way most phone cameras cannot. As a man you have to be aware that the way you present yourself matters a lot to women so you 

should do your utmost to present yourself in the best possible limelight and to do that you need a good lifestyle as well as someone who is willing to take good pictures of you. 

Next up we have a better quality beach photo similar to the one in Barcelona but you can actually see him this time. It also brings out his body far far better than before which is a huge plus in terms of displaying his physical traits to the best of his ability. It also is taken in Hong Kong which shows he travels, can be used to build rapport on dates with travel minded girls whilst also offering a degree of comfort by showing he’s an adventurous person. 

Here above we  have a pic from a high end hotel in Guilin South China, this picture is good for a variety of reasons. 

1. It shows that he’s staying at high end places which displays value to women that he’s not broke. 
2. Shows that he’s adventurous going off the beaten trail in the not too popular Chinese cities 
3. Shows off a strong physique but not it too much of an obvious way like a Gym selfie would . 

All in all this picture serves to build a lot of comfort in many different ways.  These were just a few examples but its clear to see of how pictures can impact your brand and how you put yourself out there to women. 

This picture again above is also a high quality photo taken with an immaculate quality lens , its taken at the Harbour Grand Hotel in Hong Kong, shows a huge amount of value and prestige and shows off his body in mature way. A photo like this can build a huge amount of trust. 

Pictures don’t necessarily have to be of you they can be of places you’ve been on holiday , historical sites etc. But just make sure they’re taken with a quality lens and can make some sort of emotional impact on the people that are looking at them , here are a few pictures from my trips to Chengdu (City in China) and Macau. These pictures can also be used to hook girls and tell them travel stories on dates. It instantly gives people the impression that you’re proactive in your life which is always good to establish early on. 

As you can see from both of these pictures, theres a high quality artistic feel to them which shows that I’m a good photographer and shows I care about the presentation of how things look both attractive traits. Also the fact that I’m travelling “off the beaten trail” can be seen as an attractive asset as it comes across adventurous. 

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darrenpua1@gmail.com  for networking only I’m often in London,San Fransisco , Nice or Dubai for those interested. I am also not a coach/not selling any programmes and have no interest in live events or podcasting – thanks 🙂 . All this is free and my insight over 3 years of daygame and a further two of night game.

Why meet wingmen? 

The Classification  of Social Circles post university: 

 After I left university things in my dating life turned woefully low , I had little self esteem or self confidence after everything plunged into disarray as I had 0 women in my life and nothing but my uni friends and my old school friends to keep be company. As I attended parties and social events everything seemed stale and boring. I knew there had to be a way out of this rouge way of living as I needed to find new people to meet with and bond with that could redefine my life in a more positive light. Unfortunately life was not giving me any new social circles that could inspire me to make the change that i really needed. All I had were friends that weren’t interested in moving in the direction I wanted to. They thought day-game was creepy and unjust ironic seeing as most of them were approaching girls drunkingly in night clubs ( i cant think of anything creepier than that to be honest) So i took the plunge and met wings online. Around circa 2017 3 years after i left university i realised i could no longer carry on the way I was without daygame. Tinder and online were proving to be very shit ways to meet women , my social circle had calcified (all the women in it had long term boyfriends) there was nothing left for me to do but to go out and find what i needed for myself on my own. I then went on the wingmen forums like Simple Pickup looking for wings, although this was far from ideal it was a good start to meeting new people. It gave me a good insight into new friends I could make from doing this. Initially i started out meeting low value guys who even though they weren’t going far in life were still at least approaching women. They were still testing the boundaries of what i thought at the time to be incredibly difficult things to accomplish , just the simple act of approaching women was tough enough from my perspective and I’m glad that I finally at least had met some people that were capable of doing that. 

Friendships for the sake of friendships: 

When I was at school I had sort of friends not because they offered any real intrinsic value to me other than talking about football and playing football. Then at university i had “friends” but these “friends” never bypassed any level of value beyond being drinking buddies. There was nothing I gained from these friendships outside the stuff we’d do together, drink, do drugs, creep around girls in an informal inauthentic way….and thats about it. Uni ended in 2014 for me, but the habits of my friends from university continued. The friendship circles have stayed the same SIX years on. Six years, plus the 3 years at uni thats an eighth of your life with the same friends and relationships. Of course then theres work. I made friends at work but then again beyond drinking and talking about sports and the same old crap that men talk about these friendships weren’t creative at all. They weren’t inspiring they didn’t offer anything for me and its the sort of shit men get into and get stuck into all the time and its awful. They’re unable to be self aware that to attract women who will stick around they need to build dynamic and interesting lives which includes having friends and other men that they can build with. Unfortunately most men aren’t self aware of this at all. They just make friends with people at school not because they could build a business, or build something with those individuals but because those individuals were there at the right place at the right time….thats it. Just “Friends” because they stood next to one another at the correct time of place. In my opinion if you want to get good at seduction, day-game you will need real friends and a real social circle. This takes times as with anything in life but as I will say many times over that this is worth it in the long run. 

When social circles end you must move on and be proactive about it.

The biggest problem I see with guys at the end of university is they cling on to friendships with nostalgia of what that friendship gave them in the past.  A classic case scenario was at university a guy at my school was extremely popular in the “A” team at rugby. He was top of that social  hierarchy and thrived of it. He got a whole lot of women due to being the alpha of the pack. Then university ended thus the rugby team ended and everything he’d worked hard for during those three years condensed into nothing . This is nothing new it is inevitably going to happen when you move jobs , universities , schools that your social circles will dismantle and you must be proactive in creating new ones or else your life will hit brick wall after brick wall. Which is what i found happened to me after uni was finished i was annoying the same old leads from university, I was needy over a few girls that meant next to nothing to me (because I was unable to create new options myself) . It all in all was just not working well for me.  It wasn’t sustainable and i had to be proactive about it. No one is going to change your social life for you except you. And unless you become Dan Bilzerian or Drake you must work hard to build that social circle because lord knows its not coming for you out of thin air, you must proactive about it. 

Of course the question is never really set in stone but daygame, social circle building and “social dynamics” is rarely something that can be accomplished on your own the fact is that building an attractive and seductive life that women will want to be apart of having good wingmen that are socially calibrated and good friends with you are vital to keeping women in your life for the longterm. Accomplishing big things on your own is tough and day-game , social interactions etc. are difficult to do on your own. If you try and do it all on your own i don’t believe you will be able to reach your potential than you could do if you had solid wingmen. I’ve found that many wingmen I’ve met have gone on to be close friends of mine, potential business partners, travel buddies and have kept life feeling fresh. It’s also made the daily habit of approaching women much easier when I’m around people who just encourage me to do so. Im not around my uni friends who think its weird or creepy but I’m around my solid crew of wings who encourage me and have my back and thats worth its weight in gold in the long run. 

Modern Day Puas approach to Construction of Social Circles

Ironically (leaving RSD out of this equation because I’m not a fan of the way that organisation is run) few famous Puas ever talk about having a seductive life social circle that women will want to be a part of. Its a common problem I see with young seducers that enter the seduction scene at 18-26 they have no idea at all about how to create a mature social environment which women will enjoy being a part of. I actually see it being a problem in older Puas or men in dating too, they have no interesting friends for the women he’s trying to seduce to be enticed by.  They are  lacking complete self awareness about this and have no idea what to do about it. Of course can you blame men? I most certainly wont as most people are completely oblivious to how to make friends outside their social circle at school and their work place. Men need to learn how to do this quick…except we were never told and by day-game coaches we are rarely told how to build a genuine circle and what to do to maintain friendships long term. Much PUA content is focused on approaching, analytics of the sexual market place  or just red-pill reddit shit about some 45 year old American’s bad divorce, little is focused on cultivating strong real friendships. Even in the high end scene you will find a lot of fake non congruent people , in the PUA scene you will find a ridiculous amount of these people, its important to learn how to ride the tide and deal with these people effectively and productively or longterm you’ll burn out and it wont be very fun. 

There is little guidance about it bar the odd Tom Torero wing manning infield video, a few RSD “social circle” game videos that to some degree miss some key points that i would like to address. 

James Marshall made some decent speeches here and there about it. Dj Fuji also mentioned in his 21 convention speeches that you must find wingmen who open lots of sets. At the time when i first heard this aged 21 i had no idea what “finding someone who opened a lot meant” now i understand and completely agree. You need wingmen who take action and thats one of the key most important factors because as the modern self help phrase goes “you’re the average of the 5 people you’re around the most” if you’re around people who approach a lot you will pick up their positive habits and influences. If you’re around people who get angry, stall and get negative you will pick up their habits too. So its vital that you pick wingmen who’s habits are worth emulating. Pick your wingmen wisely as  you will most likely (because thats how human nature works ) do what they’ll do in the long run. So if you’re around a lot of people who are anxious as fuck and make excuses you’ll sure as a hell do that too. 

Even after having some success from Daygame, a few lays here and there and some success on day-game trips I realised how important wings were to the equation in terms of lifestyle design . You need a team around you at some stage thats going to be reliable and will help you become a better man and you’re going to have to add value to those in your team . Without doing this things are going to get lonely and maybe even feel a bit pointless. After all what is the point in success if theres no one to share it with. 

Men’s addiction to fraudulent social circles, how it can ruin your life. 

Men are idiots, they either have no real social circles or are addicted to ones where they are either addicted to one which they are high up in that might end or wont last its course, like the boss at the workplace or the alpha rugby team captain. 

Incidentally it was Rollo Tomassi who wrote in his book The Rational Male warning about the harms of “false alphas” He was correct in a lot of assertions , men cling on and seduce women in these false alpha environments where they’re the alpha due to the something that isn’t a sustainable social circle then when that circle goes what was attractive and seductive about them is gone.  Men can get addicted to what makes them alpha even if it causes their life to be distorted. Like men who choose to because diving instructors on tourist resorts so they can sleep with women they teach or men who constantly go to where they are alpha in Thailand and Philippines where their sexual market value is infinitely higher to that of a city like London. I saw it a lot in my social circles with my rugby friends being addicted to hanging out with their old rugby friends at university not because anything spectacular was accomplished in their friendship groups besides drinking excessively and chanting lad stuff at girls. If anything I believe these friendship groups stayed together due to an appreciation of a happier time back at university when they were “the  alpha”. Most men haven’t got the confidence to step away from what makes them falsely alpha and move onto a path that can show them real alpha like finding a good social circle in a city where approaching is tough which will require them to have seductive skills. 

What good wingmen can do for you? 

• Help you be more productive in Daygame sessions. A proactive full energy wingman can help you reach your day-game potential more effectively and efficiently they can provide that push and accountability resulting in far less strain on your mind and far more being achieved . 
• Can help you in group sets.  A good wingman can bring out the best in you when it comes to gaming groups and can be invaluable in this regard, approaching sets can be extremely mentally exhausting as you’re dealing with more than 2-3 different women’s emotions at anyone time, thoughts and feelings ranging from joy to jealousy will occur  this requires a huge amount of mental energy and strong game to combat. A wingman will make this infinitely easier and can buy you time to close the woman you want by distracting the friend and helping avoid the friend getting bitter and jealous. 
• Can help create a decent social circle for you that women will want to be a part of. Though some people enjoy being a lone ranger a far more efficient and seductive method is to have a social circle that women will want to be a part of thats interesting enough so that a woman would want to bring their friends into your group and circle. This makes it far easier to hold the frame. Think about this theoretically having attractive and interesting friends make it easier for the woman to build trust with you , makes the woman more interested in your life as a whole and can make it easier for help to contribute to you by having you meet her friends. 
• Can offer support throughout relationships. When i was going through difficult breakups with girls whom I had met via day game it was the supportive wingmen that helped me get through them the most , wingmen can share knowledge and ideas about how to keep relationships fresh and interesting. I’ve learnt a lot about textgame, instagram game and dating from my wingmen, a constant value exchange and knowledge can be made between the wingmen and you that can add a huge amount to your life. 
• James Marshall’s 21 convention speech about having a good social group   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pfR3gsc_YNs 
• Men need other men around them. You’re far better off with hard working men around you than you are on your own provided you have the similar hard work ethics and desire to get good. I approach far more when I’m with friends than without, I do better in set when I’m with friends than without I’m all together a better more social person when i have high quality  people backing me up . 
• I’ve rarely seen people keep women , long term without friends and a social circle to back them up. The more lone wolf seducers I’ve seen i don’t seem to be too impressive with their long term results. Men are under the delusion that they can do every single thing optimally in their life on their own are just living in a state of delusion. Does a person who owns a restaurant  cook the food, clean the kitchen, wait the tables and organise the kitchen out? You’ll need to build a social crew thats dynamic and this will take a lot of time but it will be worth it in the long run.  
• As I said before you will most likely gain your wingmen’s positive habits, if your wingmen are hard working you’ll be hard working, if your wingmen take risks you in turn will take risks .
• Can be the start  of learning how to coach people. Who better to start coaching than your wingmen? If you bring the best out of your wingmen and they develop well from your guidance you could be suitable for starting to charge for coaching. 
• Save you time , this is the most important commodity by far that you have and I’ve found my sessions with wingmen to be overall much more productive and they’ve helped me in other ways to secure lays quicker and build rapport with women faster. This overall has had a net benefit of saving me time in my life. Of course there are wingmen that do drain you of your time by turning up late.. Chatting shit, lying , backstabbing, and doing all sorts of illusive shit habits but overall your wings should causing you to be more productive and more efficient leaving you with more time to do other things that you, yourself desire and want to do with your life. 
• Can be the start of new things for you beyond women. A lot of people you wing with can grow to be business partners , future close friends and people who you venture with to start projects out of daygame. After university finishes it can be immensely difficult to find social circles or new friends so wings can be vital in keeping your social life interesting and unique. I’ve seen many men who fall into a post university rut due to not having new friends to add to their social circle or to improve their life with. 

Things to look for in the characteristics of a good wingman:

1. Not overweight – Think from the woman’s perspective especially when it comes to the group sets dynamic that women will often judge the way your friends are far more harshly than how you judge their friends. The reason being for this is that women want to be around cool attractive social circles. So when picking your wingman make sure he isn’t over weight or has obvious character flaws. It reflects badly on you in interactions if you’re hanging out with someone thats low value. Ideally you will want to be with wings who are in good shape and take care of their physique and health properly. This can include eating clean as well. 
2. Poorly dressed. As with the weight issue , a poorly dressed wingman is the sign of someone with very little care or self awareness of themselves. Think about this figuratively for a minute if a woman sees you being unable to care about your appearance or the way you present yourself then she will instantly think that you’re someone who’s unable to look after her or serve as a proper partner. If you’re approaching women with someone who doesn’t give a fuck about what they’re wearing then once again it reflects badly on you. 
3. Isn’t autistic/retarded. Again hanging out with guys who say weird shit or scare off sets by saying stupid things once again reflects badly on you . A lot of men in the Pua community have high levels of autism its advised you avoid gaming and hanging with these individuals. 
4. Make sure that they’re proactive, you do not want to be with someone who constantly has self doubt or judgement, its not worth it. It will drain you, anyone who’s repeatedly negative is not worth your time. Neither is someone whose unhelpful and isn’t helping you out in your sets.
5. Presents himself well on social media: As i stated before in my other guides about instagram and social media. Its important to wing with someone who takes how they present themselves on social media seriously, good pictures and an adventurous life are key to displaying sexual market value. Increase the likelihood of double dates and of girls liking them in set. Remember women often see wingmen as a reflection of you and your social circle so make sure you pick good ones who are mature and attractive. 
6. Passionate to get good at this, they don’t necessarily have to be perfect no one is but its important that they’re out regularly and taking action far too many people in the community lounge around trying to create boring chit chat without taking any steps to get good at this , which means they’ll never be skilled at conversation or at making a good scene its a shame but  thats how most people who roll and do anything do, few can handle or persist to get good at anything and day-game is another one of those things. 
7. Hasn’t got too many bad habits that will infiltrate and disrupt yours, i.e. he doesn’t drink excessively , doesn’t talk rubbish during interactions constantly that will put girls off, isn’t immature, is mindful of others and is genuinely a “giving person”. 
8. Similar to the point i made before someone who’s open to meeting up people . In the long run if you’re socially proactive you’re going to need to meet people who are genuinely “people persons” 
9. Someone who isn’t too intense. I’ve met some men who are hyper approach machines who’s over intensity can be too much to deal with for a lot of people 
10. Doesn’t get easily frustrated , approaching is something that will be frustrating, someone with a low mental capacity for rejection and getting hated is probably not suited to doing this. Ironically I believe the better looking men on average actually take things a lot more personally than the less good looking or less accomplished men do. 

How do i know if I’m a good wingman?

• Do you work hard in your sets? Do you open and engage people correctly? 
• Are you well dressed mature, interesting and with enough conversation to keep things going in set for a good period of time? 
• Are you interested in everybody and every person? You are going to have to help keep conversation going , even with the fat girls and the girls you aren’t physically attracted to in order to be a good wingman you really have to have passion for everyone you talk to. 
• Are you consistently adding energy to the sets that you’re in? 
• Are you pushing wings so that they can be better and enjoying themselves more?

When i started out on the day gaming journey i wasn’t doing any of this. I was simply standing there not doing anything or opening conversations. I wasn’t adding value. ONLY offer to wing when you are ADDING value to someone first. Or else you’ll come across as selfish, weak, draining and all together you will have wings flake on you. Ask yourself how many wings are coming back to work with you? How many are genuinely interested in being your long term connection or friend ? These are all reflections of your character that you should consider. Don’t be a selfish individual , make sure you’re the one bringing energy and enthusiasm  first and foremost.  It takes time to get good at day-game like anything else and there will always be people at different levels. It’s not your job to coach people but try and offer guidance whenever you can but not too much to the point where you’re essentially offering free coaching. Value your time and the things you do in life don’t stay with wingmen who you believe aren’t calibrated, are poorly dressed , aren’t giving any value but purely taking it form you. Its not worth your time to be around these people. 

Online Dating and the destruction of Male bonds and friendships

I often get caught up in debates with people online over the pros and cons of online dating. With many swearing by it and believing its the best way to meet women especially during Covid 19 . But I feel online has left a plethora of harmful side effects that will come back to haunt men in the future. Most notably the lack of real world intimacy with other men as well as women. One of the most positive aspects of online dating was that it bought men together to take action on their lives and on their problems , some of my best friends now are from day-game and those friendships even to this day still yield massive returns both in more relationships/ networking and other adventures. I wouldn’t have gotten any of this had i stuck with swiping on tinder. I believe dating apps further isolate men and can cause real long term problems which don’t serve as adequate solutions to their dating troubles. If men are stuck in their room swiping and fucking the occasional girl on tinder it isn’t leading them to come together and forming real solutions to their dating problems. Far from it, they’re just stuck in bad quality dating habits, unable to really put their neck on the line or create a true tribe of men and friendship circles that women will want to be a part of. Which is why I’m so against online, it stops men from picking up that vital skill of actually putting themselves out there which is so crucial to the development of themselves. I honestly think men would be a lot happier though the daygame and wing-manning path than from isolating tinder and hinge matches and trying to get them in bed with little else interesting to offer the women. Not to mention that day-game wings can build rapport themselves to increase the likelihood of women staying in your life. 

What to do if you enjoyed your wing manning session with someone? 

Tell them you had a good time and would like to see them again. Try and find a way where you can constantly add value to them by helping them in their group sets , pushing them into harder sets , mentoring them a bit and offering them support. Maybe seek to make the relationship deeper into a full blow friendship outside of day-game . Offering value in terms of adding them to your social circle ( a good one which has interesting and dynamic people in it) Remember that real friendships are a value exchange this is presented well in the James Marshall video “The Seductive economy” 

Start by first and foremost however by criticising yourself, was it you or was it your wing man that was making the mistakes in this session. Always criticise yourself first and argue with yourself about what you could have done to make the session more productive. Theres no point in blaming anyone else really but yourself . The action comes from you first and foremost and when you’re walking down the streets of London it should be you thats opening not anyone else really.  If you didn’t enjoy your vibe with him and you were working hard and bringing good energy and value then ditch him. You owe him nothing he’s just a guy you met online after all there will be others after him . Try and offer constructive feedback as to what you didn’t like about him and watch how he responds if he takes things personally then he’s most definitely not the wingman for you.  If you find your wing inept then just say to them that you think its best that you guys see other people its usually quite easy after one session to tell whether someone is right or not to go out with you. 

Ask yourself the following questions about your wing:  

Ask yourself did your wing help you in difficult sets or when you needed help? If he repeatedly doesn’t then it probably means he’s a selfish character or not really social enough to get the ball rolling on the difficult sets.

Was he positive and proactive or draining you with consistent questions? I meet a lot of wings who do nothing but drain, just ask questions, offer no mature value or have any real self awareness . 

Is he draining or adding? Thats the big question you gotta ask yourself, you cant keep carrying dead weight all the time its not your duty at all to do this you’re not a servant to your wings but its meant to be a value exchange in which you’re constantly helping each other. 

Did you guys cause more procrastination for one another? This is another common problem I see in wing manning that both people come together and just talk a lot rather than being proactive about the approaches and taking action which makes the situation sometimes worse than before you guys met. Try and avoid this from happening by making sure you yourself are entering difficult sets at all times and not letting the comfort of your friend cause you to not perform to your best. 

Positive Characteristics you should look out for in your wing:

If your wing shows 4 or more of these characteristics  that i have listed above then you should keep strive to keep them. Because from my experience in meeting wings online the majority of them wont be very good. Its like anything in life , there will be a percentage of people that you don’t have chemistry with and don’t vibe with. Its like dating, you go on 10 dates there might be around 7-8 of them that aren’t a good fit for you and this is fine. You cant get along with everyone in life nor should you. You should play the field and go out with as many wing men as possible to get a good feeling of who you build a bond with. This will enable you to find new friends, get a good idea of what you really want in your wingmen and build a social circle. But remember things like this take a huge amount of time to work out properly. Its not going to happen over night. Anything thats worth having in life takes time and failure to build as does with building a seductive social circle that women will want to be a part of. Think of it like building a house each person you go out with could be possible foundation, I know people from pickup forums who i met 2-3 years ago that ended up being some of my closest most valuable friends today. If you find yourself going years without making any decent wingmen or friends in the PUA community you need to really look at yourself , analyse what are you personally bringing to the table? And from that personal analysis seek to change yourself for the better so people will want to hang out with you more. 

Are your group sets hooking or getting bored of you? If they are read more books, watch more documentaries , watch  more stand up comedy shows and/or routines so you have interesting conversation to hook people with. Meditate and do yoga more this will help your mind be more in the moment and an energy and presence that people will really and truly feel. 

Are you well dressed? Be honest look in the mirror and ask “would I fuck myself?” As immature a question as this is you need to present yourself well for girls to win trust with you and for your wingmen to win trust in you as well. A poorly dressed/poorly groomed individual looks like he doesn’t care about life and will lose trust in his wingmen and women around him. 

Do you have hobbies and are interesting? If not then get some 🙂 

Are you part of an interesting social circle that can add value ? 

Do you have skills and interests that are captivating enough to add value to a social circle that you’re in? I once winged with a saxophone player who was able to get me on the guest list to major clubs in London because he’d played at them before. This is an example of adding value based on the skills you have. If you have high level values and skills , show case them and give to your circle remember it should always be you giving first if you can, if you see that a person is worth while holding and keeping into your circle then seek to help them in ever which way you can. This said saxophone player also drove a very nice convertible and used it to help drive my second ever day-game lay straight back to my house for me . I returned the favour my letting him use the spare room in my house  for him to use to fuck his girls in . This sort of exchange can help build a friendship over time and build rapport more easily with women. That one wing had done more for me in terms of getting laid than any of my friends at university did. Shows the strength that good wingmen can add to your arsenal. 

What if the person who I’m winging has more value than me? I’ve been around a lot of wings who’ve had more value than me and thats ok. As long as you systematically think of a way in which you can add value in them in return. For example i had a close friendship with 3 wingmen who were all high achieving impressive individuals, on a business and entrepreneurial level I was unable to add any real value to them but i made sure on their birthdays that i got them special presents. One of them was Ghanian and into history so i bought him a book about African politics, he was also into tech and  ai so i bought him a book about the future of Ai. This shows that you value your wings beyond daygame, that you value their friendships beyond simple chasing of women and making the gifts and contributions more personal shows you care about the individual. it also leaves opportunity for that person to be in your social circle for a longer period of time and they will be more likely to return favours to you in the future. In a more simple way you can add value to your wings by bringing a load of energy in field and ensuring to wingmen them at any given opportunity. I once was invited to a house party by a high valued social circle, there was little I could do to add value however i bought a girl a long who I had no feelings for the owner of  the house party fucked her. I was pretty satisfied after that night we went and enjoyed a club night together which i got free entry to and was invited out to future parties in which i was able to contribute to by bringing women i’d seduced from Daygame. Again it’s important to think about a value exchange between those who you really want to keep in your social circle I made sure that the owner of this said house party knew I had at least some seductive skills because I was able to contribute to the party with a girl , I wasn’t some random immature lonely “pua” as a lot of people from forums can be. I was able to actually contribute with something dynamic and real. 

Problems I see with wingmen today in London Day-game: 

• Immature wingmen who offer little in conversation skills 
• Poor Dress and grooming which will lead to more blow outs in the long run.
• Not pushing into hard challenging sets. 
• Takes criticism too personally and gets reactive when you criticise them. It’s important for anyone who’s into improving themselves in day-game to be open minded about their strengths and weaknesses. 
• Critiques you but doesn’t take any action himself . See this a lot with wingmen on forums and chat groups. Constantly criticising and mocking others but not actually taking actions themselves. These people are to be avoided in the long term as they’re most likely delusional. 
• Complete Inaction and overanalyses coming from wings, remember day-game is fundamentally about taking action and getting shit done, if a wing is overthinking and not doing anything then you will inherit his bad habits. 
• Autism and a complete lack of self awareness or maturity. Some people in this community are severely autistic and really won’t be of any use in daygaming with. Their lack of self awareness and complete stupidity may see their value to be less than 0 and should be avoided. 
• So into “self development” that there is no actual self development happening. 
• “RSD fanboys” that watch all the videos but have too much personal pride to ever do an approach, the day-game community is full of people who want to look cool, look like they never fail etc. But when push comes to shove there’s no real action or open mindedness there. There’s just fear of failure and try hard attempts to “look cool” 
• People with confidence issues and over analytical minds. 
• An aura of self entitlement purely because they approached, seen a number of wings get frustrated and angry very easily at  even the slightest rejections. 
• People who study too much and have no self awareness of how to implement ideas properly. People who read a lot, watch a lot, but when push comes to shove they do next to nothing in field. 
• Men who cant deal with the actual responsibility of relationships. This is an interesting one but I find that many wings actually blow themselves out or prevent themselves from acquiring any real true relationships it’s a huge shame but many men are actually so use to failure in this area of their lives that when successes come they self sabotage and ruin it for themselves. It’s a sad reality but it’s sort of our habitual nature as human beings to sometimes act this way. Similarly dealing with the expectations on date’s of having to act charismatic and having to bring something to the table in terms of dynamism or interest seems a bit too much for a lot of men who would prefer to be at the pub with their friends or watching sports than deal with responsibilities of women. I’ve personally found that dealing with the success of daygame to be a lot harder than dealing with the failures.
• Wingmen who burn out due to being unable to manage the workload – this is something i saw in me when i started game and during my day-game career. But i also see it as a problem with day gamers and wings 2-3 months into their day-game careers. Men who are unable to deal with the mental drain of approaching women , the emotions involved of managing numerous different relationships  which can be extremely burdensome for men especially for new day gamers who are not used to this phenomenon of having to date many different individuals and dealing with the insecurities and emotions of the women themselves. Dating is hard, its tiring , it’s confusing and so much random shit can happen at any time so you should be prepared for a lot of failure. Sadly a lot of Daygamers cant deal with the mental drain and you’ll find some mentally aren’t cut out to do it repeatedly. 

Good wingmaning in field: 

Great video from TNL:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ytDXI_-p9-g

Do the hard sets, do the groups that test you and make you strong, you’ll feel happier at the end of the day knowing you did something that well and truly tested your social calibration skills. 

Pre-Approach: Decide which one is going in first and open up first with one person going in. Don’t go two or three at a time over a group it can look a bit like a mugging go slow and calibrated instead. If the women are hooking for 1-2 minutes  then join in.

Things to do in set: 

A decent wingmanning video can be watched on TNL video here: 

• Always give energy to the whole group never make any girl feel like they’re left out . 
• Even if you’re winging a fat , unattractive girl make sure you’re still giving her interest and passion the same you would do for someone that you’re interested in , its vital. You must spread positivity in your set even if you don’t like them.
• Make sure you close the girl you want and the wing closes the other girl , even if you’re not interested in the girl you’re winging you must still close her you don’t want to make her feel left out. If she feels left out she’s likely to say to her friend “ don’t text him he’s a dick” 

Things not to do with your wingmen :

• Walk excessively without approaching anyone, then this really becomes a walk in the park with friends rather than a day-game  session.
• Wait for them for ages when they’re in set. Come on he’s a grown man he can look after himself its your job to be proactive and approach other sets. 
• Drain him with excessive questions and rubbish that isn’t worth talking about, don’t wear out your friends they don’t deserve it ! 

Post set: 

• Try and give each other feedback , praise first before critiquing
• Keep on approaching with huge effort and energy try not to let the positives or negatives of the previous approach get too much to you.  Some men get over excited when they get numbers or Instagrams which causes them to lose focus. Whereas others let rejection to them so much that they just kill the day with negativity. 

Ways to meet Daygamers: 

Posting for wings can be done on the following two forums, i’ve met men through all three , simply post a passionate message looking for mature wingmen and 

• Pua forums: Simple Pickup forum- This is highly internationally recognised (although is currently down at time of writing) 
• https://www.puaforums.co.uk interestingly ive met my most interesting wingmen through forums these seem to be the most seriously dedicated and mature men. 
• Telegram RSD Chat – probably the most effective way to find wings although many can be of poor quality. There are also a good number of fake individuals here who seem to talk the talk but never walk the walk .  Try not to immerse yourself in discussions too much. Your time is precious and shouldn’t be spent trying to convince some noob end in their mother’s basement on your opinions on day-game or relationship dynamics. Getting into spats online is just a waste of your mental energy so try and avoid too much conversation and try and see who’s being proactive and taking action. You can only solve this issue by taking action yourself  in the first place of course and “leading” others to do so with you. 
• SoSauve Forum –  This was the forum that got Rollo Tommasi his fame in the book The Rational Male Although this is far more international than puaforums.co.uk that tend to be more localised to the UK .  Be aware that in certain muslim countries sosauve forum is actually blocked I was actually denied access to it while travelling in Kazakstan  . 
• If you watch and see someone else stopping a girl on a street and you liked his approach go and speak to him be upfront with him about what you liked. Make sure you add value to him first by giving him honest compliments and ask in a forward manner to exchange numbers. 

Meetup groups: Tom Torrero Frequently holds meet up groups that he talks about in his podcasts as do other London Puas like James Tusk . 

Further Commitment with your wingmen : 

Gaming Trips: Before you commit to a gaming trip make sure you’ve at least had 10 or so days out with your wingmen before committing to a gaming holiday. This will be a great way to enhance your relationship with your wing and you’ll be able to pickup on his good and bad habits that can make you realise whether he’s worth of starting a hustle house with or not. Be sure to pick someone who’s open to new things , who can offer value and insight . Make sure you bring a top quality camera and take photos of one another to enhance your Instagram profiles and show off your value to women.  I recommend low investment gaming trips to begin with to a nearby city or country. If you’re UK based a trip to Ukraine or Albania will be very cheap and affordable to do so if things were to go wrong it wouldn’t matter that much as the trip wont have cost much to begin with. Only after you’ve built some long term trust with your wingmen should you big longer distance areas and more expensive holidays like to South East Asia etc. 

Hustle Houses 

Having a hustle house is a great option but make sure before you choose your wings carefully. Make sure you’ve spent time gaming with your wings for at least a month to get to know their flaws and their strengths. Its important you find someone you vibe with well , who girls enjoy being around . Remember women will judge your friends almost as much as they judge you. Make sure you’re loyal to those wingmen who you choose to room with in the same way that they should be loyal to you. Hustle Houses can make maintaining good daygaming habits a lot easier to do and will make your daygaming journey altogether more efficient.  Maybe start off with a day-game holiday first to see if you can cope with your close day gamers habits first. Don’t rush into a flat share with some random chode from a Pua forum you really need to pick your team wisely and take your time deciding who’s good to commit to. 

Tips for a good Hustle house: 

• Make sure you can absolutely trust the  wingmen you are with. I’ve said this twice and repeated it but its just really important. You don’t want fights , conflicts over girls etc. to occur a few months down the line. 
• Pick a good location one which you’re near to areas of large footfall for example in London somewhere near Soho will be a good idea.  This will avoid procrastination that comes with moving to desired daygaming spots. 
• Make sure the house is clean and tidy at all times. 
• Make sure the house is stacked with food, wine and other alcohol for potential same day lays and parties . 
• Make sure your wingmen have good conversation skills and are genuinely “people person’s” this is probably the most important thing to have in a good wingman. You don’t want your girl or her friends to be put off by retarded things that you and your wingmen are saying to them. You want to make sure that your wingmen are providing mature conversation as women will often judge your friends in a similar way to how they judge you. They don’t want to date someone who has loser friends. 

Things to do to enhance your hustle house’s relationship with your wingmen 

• buy birthday presents for your wingmen to show you appreciate their value – this may seem like I’m joking or being childish but showing appreciation to your wingmen is crucial for maintaining a proper friendship and relationship with them. 
• Cook for them occasionally 
• Contribute to their parties they host by bringing a camera to take pictures or alcohol or something which they will appreciate / bring women along to prevent said parties from turning into a cock fest. 
• Show respect towards their woman, never insult your wingmen in front of their women
• Obviously never hit on a wingman’s girl. 
• Be clean and show strong habits that can improve day-game regular meditation and yoga being two i love to do. 
• Always try and add comfort by listening and being attentive to your wing’s women. Add maturity to the situation by asking questions to her and showing respect towards your friend in-front of her. 

Good quality wingmen last a life time most women ultimately won’t 

This is one thing I’ve certainly noticed having done day-game for a period of 3-4 years. Women will come and go especially in busy cities like London which has many tourists and students coming in and out of it all the time . Building a solid social base is crucial and much more sustainable than relying on women to for fill that with you especially as overtime these women will have different goals and aspirations as you. I’ve held at kept a good decent 10-15 wingmen in my social circle through time and this has been vital to my growth as a human being and honestly the new friendships I’ve made from doing this have been far more valuable than the women themselves that I’ve met. The men themselves have definitely added more long term value to my life than the women have and this has made me realise the importance of a good , strong social circle hence why I wrote this guide. 

Conclusions:

The ideal self help guy , as James Marshall put It in his speech “The Tim Ferris” Fan boy is one who is constantly obsessed about being the best person he can be, optimising his health , smashing it in business dating relationships, working out at the gym , eating 2 grass fed steaks, working 12 hours, then learning languages for 2 more hours , then learning to paint for another 1 hour before optimally approaching 5.6 girls and doing it all on his own before going to bed thinking he can constantly do this for the rest of his life without getting worn out. As I’ve said before this is an unrealistic goal yet one many men try to reach for some reason, maybe its an ego thing maybe its a negative by product of excess self help reading but nonetheless its a byproduct and it seems to be ever present in our society of self help gurus that really think we can work 20 hours a day by ourselves and achieve everything all at once its laughable the amount of men who honestly think this to be the case . I don’t blame them, i blame their lack of self awareness when they grow up. As we are not told about these things at all, I blame self help books a lot and see them as a forefront of the issue of our lives. All in all i just want to say to people reading this that i hope you’ve decided to go out and make some friends who have the same mission as you whether that be in seduction or something else. Having strong responsible men around you makes everything in life just a whole lot easier and saves you a huge amount of time and effort. 

 A lot of wingmen suck but that’s life, a lot of people suck at a lot of things. A lot of bankers suck, a lot of teachers suck, politicians bar maybe a few in Iceland suck hopefully after reading this you’ll be inspired to find some girls who suck 😉 just kidding . On a serious note my journey getting into this was a tough one as the first 8 wingmen I met were extremely weird, not very social , didn’t have much going on in their lives and were extremely toxic. It was only until six months in my journey that i actually found wingmen that were worth hanging around with long term and many of them became some of my best friends. The thing as I’ve said before and ill repeat again this shit is hard and you cant do it all on your own. You will need support to do well in this because no one can do it on their own… well a few can but most I’ve seen that have garnered long term genuine success did it because they were part of a team. it can be frustrating gaming with people who have no social awareness, or any self awareness about how they act or offer value to people. Indeed this has been a frustration of game has been meeting too many people who were totally inept at offering any value to women or to their wings and of course its frustrating being around these people but you gotta go through it. Finding wingmen is almost the same as finding good quality women to date there are loads that aren’t good enough, loads that wont like you or wont vibe with you but in the long run you’ll find those who are worth it and who make everything seem worth it in the long run. 

Additional Recommendations: 

DJ Fuji 21 Convention speeches :  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wMBsUbZoiuo

James Marshall 21 Convention Speeches:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pfR3gsc_YNs

Areas around London to game, a full analysis by Darren PUA 

Disclaimer: I’M not a dating coach I’m not trying to sell any services or coaching . This blog is just a few of my experiences in London . Im based predominantly in London, Nice/Monaco/Cannes ( South of France), Dubai, San Fransisco  or Dallas. If you’re in any of these areas feel free to email me or hit me up for networking at darrenpua1@gmail.com No complete beginners or time wasters please must have some degree of maturity and value.

The importance of continually moving around as a PUA

London is a packed place and its important to innovate and move around when doing day game here, make sure you are constantly moving around and gaming in different spots. Making yourself open to new exciting relationships with a variety of women. Don’t make that beginners mistake of getting bogged down in one area. Its terrible far too many people start day gaming by going to Oxford Street and staying there till they die. This is the worst most predictable way to do your game. Move around constantly and try your day game techniques in as many different places. Its possible to get laid everywhere. Here contains the best times and worst times to visit the top places to do day game in London its still possible to get laid during the worst times and its still possible to get blown out like a motherfucker during the best times. Don’t let this install unrealistic expectations or limiting beliefs.  I’ve also laid out additional information for where to go during bad weather and chains of shops you can target to meet high quality women. I’ve adapted this guide following the 2020 Covid Pandemic to give people ideas of where to go and game even in this current situation. Please note that women are still extremely friendly and upbeat most of the time and there’s very little to worry about. 

Getting noticed: Its important not to spend too long in one university area , I’ve gamed a lot in south ken and started getting noticed by the same girls there, nothing wrong with this but you don’t want to constantly be in the same area everyday especially a uni campus as you don’t want to build a reputation . Do one university campus one day and don’t come back to it the following week. Keep it fresh 🙂 You also don’t want university staff to notice you in the long run, avoid approaching near guards and uni teachers that work there. Its fine most of the time, but if you’re gaming somewhere 40 times a year you want to avoid approaching near staff.  Likewise for shopping areas  you really want to avoid constantly approaching infant of security guards or approaching people who work at areas you like to go often in order not to risk yourself getting banned.                                  

Getting outside of your comfort zone by reframing in a positive way .This I find to be so important a lot of people I meet that approach in the same place mainly in central because they are comfortable with it. They never branch out for fear that the girls in an area will be weird or will be low quality, this is seriously limiting your chances for meeting a variety of women, London is a big city don’t just stick to Leicester square like a basic bitch pickup hoe. Ive been around a lot of PUAs that have approach anxiety in certain areas because they believe women in one area are too good for them compared to women in another e.g. one wingman had approach anxiety in Canary Wharf because he thought the corporate girls there were too good for him this was a limiting belief set by the area of London he was actually in.What you should look for is a positive reframe. Think to yourself girls in Canary Warf are corporate girls looking for more intimacy than their job in the investment bank provides them. Not all rich girls in Harrods are basic bitch instagram hoes, some of them are normal girls looking for intimacy. 

Don’t let rejection in a certain area make limiting beliefs about a certain area that you are gaming in . Just because you got 2 rejections in Knightsbridge doesn’t mean that every girl in Harrods is a spoilt ass gold digging hoe. You need to do 40-50 approaches in an area before you can give rise to judgement over the women there. 

 Maintaining a positive attitude during Covid- Focusing on the Positives: 

Whilst Covid 19 has made some things a lot harder it’s important to maintain a positive attitude during your Daygaming experiences in London. Start looking at the positives and there are many: 

• People’s continuous reliance upon technology will lead to them yearning for more intimacy giving day gamers a huge opportunity to provide people with real intimate contact.
• 10000s of Students have moved into this city looking for people to meet and have new experiences who’ve had limited opportunity to meet people at their universities due to Covid thus giving day gamers an opportunity to make an impact on people’s lives
• People are currently lonelier than ever now giving those who approach during day-game an advantage 
• London will always be a city full of individuals flowing in and out. Whatever happens in the near future there will always be opportunities there and you must be open minded about them
• Always remember as a famous PUA coach James Marshall said “youre only one approach away from a relationship that can change your life” and you need to be open to these opportunities as they can happen at any time anyplace. Don’t use Covid as an excuse to stop being social
• “But she’s wearing a mask” Is a shit excuse, talk to her and try and connect with her anyway , being proactive is way more important that making excuses and doing nothing. 

Picking a location to game based on what you want in your women in your life: 

• Make sure you sit down and really think what you want in a woman then go there and be proactive and try and get it. Many first time PUAS simply just go to Oxford Street or Central with no real plan of what sort of girls they want . 
• Like sports girls for example? Approach outside gyms, preferably high end gyms like Third Space look for where the women with the habits you want are. Im very into health and fitness and run a fitness blog so for those into healthy foods i recommend approaching in shops which put a huge emphasis on Health and Wellness like Daylesford Organic Chain or Whole foods/ Planet organic. There are literally 100s of places that can fit the habit demographic that you want so think clearly about what YOU , yes the YOU the person who is reading this wants in his life. 
• This also reaches into nationalities what nationality are you into and pick locations you want to approach them in based on that.  If you’re into Arab women for example Kensington outside of Harrods is the ideal place. Similarly if you’re into Eastern Europeans High Street Kensington and Knightsbridge are two great places to game for them or if you like Iranians then West Kensington has a high Iranian demographic. 
• Picking university sites maybe of interest to what you’re passionate about . Like Sciences then approaching outside of Imperial college might be your best bet or outside of UCL’s engineering facility in Russel Square. Into more arty girls or passionate about things like Drama,Fashion etc. then approaching outside UAL will give you a better chance of forming the connections you want. 

This part of the guide i haven’t had much type to upgrade seeing as my knowledge is limited but I’ve put a few places 

High End Places to Approach and meet interesting women into fitness and health:

• Outside Equinox gyms -high end gym chain full of high quality women all around London 
• Third Space, another high end gym chain that has a large group of quality  girls into fitness and wellbeing . 
• Any of the Daylesford Organic foot shops (the most expensive organic food shop in London) with locations in Sloane Square and more . 
• Whole foods  – Chain of health food stores usually have a large amount of people to approach in  
• Planet Organic- The Tottenham Court shop used to be packed full of students but due to Covid 19 its now shut. 

Eastern European Women: 

• Huge Demographic in High Street Kensington and Knightsbridge 
• Sloane Square 

Arab Women: 

• Knightsbridge 
• Marble Arch/Selfridges 

Latino Women: 

• Holloway Road 
• Elephant and Castle

Asian/Chinese/ Korean/ Japanese : 

• China Town
• Wanyoo – Gaming Shop  (has a surprisingly large amount of Chinese girls coming in and out of it) Chain in Charring Cross , Canary Wharf and Leicester Square. 
• New Malden/Wimbledon highest Korean Demographic outside of Korea. 

Long term versus short term-University Students V Tourists 

Day game is capital intensive and exhausting on the brain, its also immensely rewarding but you must be self aware of where you’re spending your time. If you spend your time on tourists and you are working a hectic career think is this date worth your time? A date takes a lot of time and tourists more often then not disappear forever after they leave London so think with yourself is this tourist worth my time? If your time is limited it’s better to be around in places where there are university students because picking one of them will result in 1-3 years of sex in comparison to a tourist which will be a week of sex at most. The time you spend in student areas will yield you more sex over a time period.

Universities also have fresh students each year and every 6 months on exchange programmes. Also during summer time summer school opens up a window to gain access to other new women as well. 

Recommended Walking Routes for day-game 

South Ken ——>  Knightsbridge —-> Sloane Square 

This is my personal favourite recommended walking route starting in South Ken then walking to Knightsbridge and Sloane Square. Lots of uni students, high end shoppers and rich locals. 

Kings Cross —-> Russel Square —> Tottenham Court Road 

This is a fantastic route which can again be covered at all times of day  which i recommend from doing from September to October when Universities start . Packed full of students walking on this route you’ll have no trouble meeting a wide array of students.  Recommend doing this until around 7pm after which it can get quite dead in Russell Square and Tottenham Court Road. 

Shoreditch High street —-> Liverpool Street then train to Mile End . 

Both Shoreditch High Street and Liverpool street have a great young crowd and a tonne of students to game 

Covid 19 Spots – 

During the Covid 19 pandemic its been harder to find good spots for foot flow, I therefore have decided to update this guide to include a few places you should target when doing daygame to optimise your results. Theres still plenty of opportunity’s out there and although some places have gotten worse a few have gotten a fair bit better. Even if some places are a bit emptier you should still reframe it as a positive opportunity to stop people more easily and efficiently . 

Places id target during the pandemic: 

Soho -6pm 10pm 

Knightsbridge from 12-7:30 pm on weekends and 5pm-7:30pm during the weekday. Due to Covid 19 Harrods is closing earlier but still has fantastic foot flow 

Selfridges- Not as good as it used to be Pre-Covid but still interesting nonetheless and still with a decent foot flow especially on the weekends. 

Canary Wharf – Has picked up a lot in terms of foot flow with a large amount of students and finance workers here . 

University Campuses: Most universities will be restarting as normal from September 20th onwards and they represent a great opportunity to meet women who are new to the city. Also women are in general attracted to life experience and maturity so if you’re a man with good SMV you can really trump the 18-21 year old beta uninteresting/ immature males that female university students are around. I tend to get by best successes around September/October time around unversity campuses . 

University Campuses I’d recommend: 

• Queen Mary’s -Mile End 
• Imperial College -South Kensington 
• UAL -King’s Cross 
• SOAS/UCL/ Birkbek University  – Tottenham Court Road 
• North Greenwich – University of Greenwich 

All these areas will be packed and with Covid 19 there will likely be less social events at these universities giving more opportunity to men who game around them to meet women who are lonely and bored. 

Soho

– In-spite of there being a current Covid19 Pandemic Soho is still very active on Fridays and Saturdays and even during weekdays with a variety of people eating out. 

Pros: 

• Large footfall of people including new students who are coming to London for the first time 
• Huge array and variation of women . 
• Women can be very up for meeting here at night and can be a great place for instant dates with women drunk and more socially open. Of course some might be less socially open and be hyper defensive due to them being approached non stop in this location .  

Cons: 

• Difficult to stop people in packed areas especially the small roads. 
• Security can stop you sometimes if you’re approaching women that are eating at the restaurants there. 
• Very little narrative. Because there are a huge array of Puas there it can be extremely difficult to create a romantic impact on the girls there given that there are so many guys approaching therefore your approach no longer seems to have that “ alpha” impact that it would have in an area in which people don’t normally approach in. 
• Women can be excessively open here not because they like you but because they’re just drunk, can be difficult to vibe with someone when they’re intoxicated. 
• Without a wing its going to be difficult to garner interests from groups and lone walking on a Friday or Saturday night isn’t really depicting much value. Make sure you get a wing before you chose to approach here.
• Can be very dead during certain days. 
• Large crowds usually require a strong stop or people will treat you like a beggar etc. 
• With drunk women you’re going to need a lot of energy to make an impact on them so an introverted individual might struggle in this environment. 

Best Times: 

Friday-Saturday Night 

6-10pm 

Monday-Thursday 

8-10pm 

Worse times : 

Monday to Thursday 

9am-4pm 

Ways to enhance your experience in Soho: 

• Get wingmen as I mentioned earlier  I’ve always been in favour of wingmen but in soho in the night having wingmen is much more optimal than doing it on your own. It just is .  Especially with the party atmosphere to win time you really want to be in a group of men that vibe socially well with both you and the women 

China Town : 

Another place which during Covid  is actually more packed than usual in some sense. China town has great foot flow during the weekend with a lot of people going out to eat also during the week days between 7-10pm 

Pros : 

• Large Asian foot flow if you’re into Asians then this place has a constant stream of Asian students coming in 
• At the end of the road where the restaurants finish in China town there is a section of desert and ice cream shops which are often packed on the weekends with people students. A great opportunity to flex your skills with group sets. 
• A lot of groups of people walking around with so a great opportunity for double dates or to catch girls that haven’t decided where they’re going to eat yet. 
• Korean supermarket and Sainsbury’s nearby which are both open to very late offer a good opportunity to game in bright light. 

Cons : 

• You really need a wing to make the most of this place as there are large amount of groups hanging out here. 
• Can have a weird vibe with the prostitutes and sex workers that hang around here.
• Very close to the “Pua laden spots” 

Instant Date Spots: 

Numerous Ice Cream spots and bubble tea shops make for nice “low investment” dates. 

Shoreditch High Street 

Pros: 

• Very young crowd here a lot of people working for startups and various “millennial” companies 
• Good percentage of people who live here are students going to Universities like UAL. 
• Lots of great instant date spots , coffee shops, doughnut places, bars etc. Shoreditch offers a fantastic variety of things to do . 

• Cons: 

• Can be surprisingly empty at times in the weekend and weekday . 

Best times to go : 

After work hours

5-8pm Weekdays 

Notting Hill 

Pros:

• If you’re into your high status and highly accomplished women here is the place to be. A large amount of celebrities live and work in this region of London and it can be a great place to game mature and sophisticated individuals. 
• A lot of high status and sophisticated shops, Planet organic , high end gyms etc. Make for a good consistent footfall and mix between tourists and locals.  The more high status an area the increased likelihood you’re going to find mature women who have a lot going on in their lives and therefore increase the probability of interesting dates. 
• Huge amount of coffee shops and places to go for an instant dates leaves you with a tonne of options .

Cons: 

• Not that many young people 
• Can get quite dead after 6pm 

Good Instant date locations : 

• Daylesford Organic Notting Hill 
• Leon Coffee shop next to Notting Hill Station 
• Planet Organic 

All fantastic places for a coffee. Notting Hill is a very attractive and unique place to go for a walk with girls too. Just for simple dates its a lovely little spot. 

Best Times :

Weekdays 11-6pm 

Weekends 9-6pm 

Notting Hill Carnival ( Though this can attract a lot of drunk individuals. ) 

Worst times: 6-10pm at night  on a weekday 

Sloane square 

Pros:

• Everyone here is BEAUTIFUL . Even if you got high standards Sloane Square is too high for you including the hottest English girls. The area with the old English money has migrated too Sloane square is full of high quality women probably the best looking in London. 

• Unique art expeditions on Friday and Saturday mean unique high quality women will be there too.

• The Saathchi art gallery is a great place to game tourists (also a good place for dates) 

• Theres a joe and the juice there amazing date spot

• Generally a good spot for high quality classy women to be around in . 
• Also has a Daylesford Organic food shop which attracts a number of women. 

Cons :

• During working days it gets really quiet Monday to Friday after 7pm,

• Egotistical rich kids might be too much for inexperienced day gamers to handle 

Best times :

Monday to Friday 4-7pm (after work rush) 

Worst times: 

Monday to Friday After 7pm 

Instant date spots: 

• Joe and the juice. 
• The square itself has lots of coffee shops and restaurants.  
• Saatchi Gallery can be a good place to walk around during a date 

Knightsbridge: 

Pros:

•  Full of high quality women in Harrods and high end retailers throughout the place. 

• Rich girls all over the place so no need for the provider frame 

• Excellent around Christmas time, girls love shopping in Harrods for their relatives. 

• Iconic place where tourists and women love. 

• Close to imperial college University and good museums. 

• The road outside Harvey Nichols is full of rich girls with amazing fashion senses. 

• During University weekends a lot of students come and shop here so its a good place to get long term leads from women who might be bored at isolated universities outside London .
• Great mix of women, if you love Asians this place is packed with them if you prefer Eastern European or Arabs Knightsbridge has them too. 

Cons : 

• Arab women may be alienating to some individuals. 

• Too many families at certain points might get annoying

• Only one street, the conservative Arab influence might get annoying

• Streets outside harrods can be narrow 

Best times 

Monday to Friday 6-10pm 

Worst times: 

Sunday after 6pm when Harrods shuts it can get very quiet and is there is no reason for anyone to really be there. 

Good date spots:

Cafe Nero and Costa both great for instant dates.

El and N Coffee place right next to Harrods is a fantastic spot for a nice coffee.

South Kensington (University campus area) 

Pros: 

• Imperial college is a great place to game women as the boys who study at the university often do a very analytical degree meaning their game will naturally suck. Therefore if you date someone from there you don’t have to deal with much competition since everyone is beta as fuck there. Imperial college is seen as a nerdy uni as its one of the best in the UK but is still full of hot women and the plus side the women who get in are probably intelligent and high quality . 

• You can actually get inside the uni , unlike the King’s and UAL, imperial’s security is far less stricter to get into , you can go inside the food court area and game people there and no one has confronted me about anything as of yet.  (Although since Covid has happened this has been a lot harder to do) 

• Great museums near by mean you get a mix of high quality tourists also the luxury shops in the area give rise to high quality women. 

• The walk from South Kensington to Knightsbridge is usually fairly full of good high quality women . Also the large roads make stopping people pretty easy compared to otther places. 

Cons: 

• Imperial college is still quite a male dominated uni (70:30 percent)  Boy Girl ratio

• Quality of females isn’t as hot as other uni campuses. 

• Can be full of families and school trips although at the time of writing during Covid these groups are now a lot less. 

• Women in science unis can be over analytical and quite sexually frigid sometimes, especially at a university like Imperial which is prestigious this can lead to a few issues of women being egoistical and lacking a sexual spark because they are very focused on work. 

Best times: 

9-6pm Monday to Friday the uni area is good all the time 

Worst times 

Saturdays can be packed as fuck 

Instant date spot: 

• ILY cafe next to the pret opposite the station is the best most intimate spot 
• Leon Cafe shop.
• Starbuck’s next to South Ken Station  

Kings Cross Station / University of Arts London 

Pros: 

• Full of variety. amazing place to game women, many different types of women coming from all types of backgrounds using kings cross. 

• If you get blown out women change often because they are catching trains therefore you’re unlikely to “be seen” by the same women

• Always packed even on Sundays, Sundays can be a difficult place to game as most areas are empty even uni places with shops closing early it can be difficult to find a good sport to game. 

• Near UAL which is 92 percent women and 8 percent men, of those 8 percent of men 6 percent of them are gay. Which is fantastic for game. You will have no local competition for the women you wish to date , the women you date will also lack options which is great for the long term dating plan, even if they flake on you they might change their mind afterwards and come round duets a lack of male options.

• Wide open roads that make it easy to stop women, no more barging in the way of people on oxford street. 

• Markets on the weekend and during the weekday mean a variety of tourists and people will be around

• Amazing spots for instant dates, lots of grass near the google building leading to a naturally peaceful place for an instant date

• University halls for King’s and UCL students are also nearby. 

• People at this uni are arty fashionable and usually rich. 

• The Walk from King’s Cross station to Tottenham Court Road is usually full of students and has tonnes of opportunities to approach. 

Cons: 

• A high discography of asian women at UAL, in-spite of this there are many women at UAL (University arts London) from a variety of backgrounds but id say its around 70 percent asian. This still leaves 30 percent non asian women a lot of them are very fashionable and great to approach. 

• You cant get into the UAL campus unlike Imperial.

• At peak times people are often rushing for trains which can make it difficult to stop them. 

• Since Covid the campus has been a little more quieter however this disadvantage has been outweighed by the positive of more people than usual actually drinking outside the bars. 

Best times 

Weekend: Anytime is good 

Weekday 9-5 pm 

When bars shut during the week at around 10pm  theres great opportunity to approach people now due to cover

Worst times

Weekday:5-6:30 maybe too packed 

Instant Date Spots: 

• Joe and the Juice King’s Cross
• Cafe Leon opposite the Google Headquarters 
• Outside the big Waitrose next to UAL there are lots of places to sit
• Numerous coffee shops around UAL. 

North Greenwich 

Pros: 

• University of Greenwich campuses and Ravens-borough University  are here providing a lot of brand new students 
• Good atmosphere with a lot of students drinking in pubs near North Greenwich Station. 
• Close to Canary Wharf easy to do both big spots in the same day game session. 

Cons: 

• Other than students theres not much in the part of London 

Instant Date Spots: 

• Costa Coffee right next to the station 

Mile End 

Pros:

• Queen Mary’s university is there and the volume of students that haven’t been approached. The uni accommodation halls are nearby which is also a possibility for a same day lay.

• Very near Liverpool Street and old street so it’s a good place to approach in and move on to other places 

• Very large amount of students and a good diverse range of females. 

Cons

• After 6pm and the classes finish during the day it can get absolutely dead 

• If you work a Monday-Friday 9-5 job this place is going to be difficult to game in as most of the footfall is actually during working hours due to the heavily student orientated population. 
• When there is reading week and term stops the place can get pretty dead. 

• It’s pretty grimy and polluted

Best times 

Monday-friday 9-5pm 

Worst times 

Monday -friday after 7pm

Saturday and Sunday can be tricky

Reading week

Check term dates if Queen Mary’s is on holidays then you’re fucked here 

Best place for date : 

Starbucks near the uni 

Uni Campus does coffee 

Westfield’s/shepherds Bush

Pros 

• Large amount of women on the weekends and during the week after 5 

• The extension  of John Lewis leaves people with a lot of room to hide away if you get rejected. 

• Popular place with tourists shopping there 

• Protected from the woeful weather in winter time , this place is excellent in the winter with the warm condition makes it the perfect pickup place, added to the fact that many people are Christmas shopping at this time

• A new imperial college campus is here which means a lot of new students will be about 

Cons: 

• Can be absolutely packed on Saturdays and Sundays really hard to approach with the families very hard to open sets particularly on the weekends although since Covid 19 the numbers have gone down 

• Shuts early on Sundays and can get really dead 

• Monday to Friday before 5pm it can be really dead. 

• Can be awkward if it’s empty to run away from girls who blow you out you out it maybe tricky to open again in the shopping mall . 

• Quality can be quite working class/lower middle class I tend to find Knightsbridge or Selfridges to be better. 

Best times 

Monday to friday after 6pm-10pm 

Worst times 

Saturday and Sunday its absolutely packed although due to Covid this is now not the case. 

Instant date spots: everywhere all over the Westfields mall, outside there are plenty of coffee shops and places to eat too. 

Fulham Broadway station.

Pros: • The station has alot of foot traffic and is very bright with a lot of light which in the dark winter time makes for a good place to approach. . 

• A lot of famous high end gym spots which celebrities use could be a good opportunity to get a high status girl . 

• Whole foods with tonnes of beautiful  high quality women 

Beautiful places to go for instant dates. Lovely newly built coffee shops

• A lot of high end clubs and gyms there were high end celebrities do hang out in. Definitely a lot of interesting women around here. 

Cons:

• During Chelsea matches it’s absolutely packed with fat guys , geezers and is an overwhelming place to approach. (although during Covid this hasn’t been a problem)

• On weekends can be a bit boring but still many good quality women around 

Best time to go 

Monday to Friday all times has decent footfall 

Weekends are good too 

Worst times: 

Don’t go when Chelsea FC has a home game it’s not worth it it will be packed 

Instant Date Spots: 

• Whole foods does decent coffee 
• Theres a dele market near the station with a variety of small eateries 
• Plenty of Coffee Spots inside Fulham Broadway Station. 

Wimbledon : 

Pros: 

• During the Wimbledon Tennis Championships it has probably the highest influx of tourists outside anywhere in London 
• A few art colleges with the Wimbledon College of Art being the obvious famous one and campuses in the area also a popular destination for students to choose as their residence when they study. 
• Wimbledon Village can serve as a cozy date spot with plenty of coffee shops to chose from. 
• Quite a good Middle Class/Upper Class demographic to choose from .

Cons: 

• Can be quite empty during the weekdays , due to Covid a fair few shops in the area have sense closed. 

Best Time to go: 

• Wimbledon tennis championships every year this place is packed due to them. 
• Weekdays from 5-8pm usually quite good
• Weekends

Worst times: 

• Weekdays during work hours 10-4pm

Instant Date Spots:

• Joe and the Juice Wimbledon is a good starting point. 
• Numerous ice cream places around the station 
• Coffee shops and bars all over Wimbledon village makes for a nice walk too. 

London bridge 

Pros: 

• Great student area full of new king’s college students great for approaches. 

• Alot of rich accomplished girls visit the shard. Minted high end tourists also hang out here going to places like the Shard etc. There are also numerous high end hotels at the spot . 

• Station is huge and is alight at night giving amble places to approach even in the dark cold winter weather 

Cons: 

• Uni campus gets dead after 6pm 

• Streets can be quite narrow outside the station 

Best time 

London bridge has good footfall all the time 

Worst time: 

Uni campus is dead after 6pm but the station is still very active and full of people coming from work 

Instant date spots:

Leon cafes everywhere all around and inside the station. On the weekend there’s the food market which might be a cozy place to grab something to eat . 

Canary Wharf 

Pros

• Shielded from the bad weather great to approach in all situations weather wise and with winter approaching this place is great as you’re protected from the woeful weather. 

• Full of clever accomplished corporate girls 

• Guaranteed footfall every weekday due to people working here

• Good tourists footfall at weekdays as it’s a connector station to the DLR. 

Cons 

• Gets absolutely dead after 7pm on week days 

• Shopping mall is a bit dead on weekends 

• During peak working hours its extremely packed although due to Covid this hasn’t been the case as much 

• Corporate girls can be intimidating 

Best times 

Monday to Friday 4-7pm 

Monday to Friday lunch times (many girls going for lunch in the Waitrose 

Worst times 

Monday to Friday after 8pm

Instant date spots

Many coffee shops inside the shopping mall , street places to eat outside of the station. In winter time they usually have some Christmas lights which can make for a cheap romantic date.  Also next to the Third Space Gym there are many restaurants that make for romantic spots to eat and drink with great views. 

Liverpool Street /old street 

Pros :

•  Young vibrate area packed with students and gluten free women 

• The 24/7 light coming from inside the station means you wont have to worry about scaring girls due to low light. 

• Edgy and artistic people great for those who want to attract young women in their lives 

• Plenty of places for instant dates 

• Walk between here and Shoreditch is packed full of students 

Cons 

• Can be dead during the week before everyone has finished work 

• Can be dead on weekends before 6pm

• Very dead after 8 on weekdays  

Best times

Monday to Friday 5-7pm

Saturday and Sunday after 6pm 

Worst times 

Monday to Friday 9-5pm 

Saturday and Sunday 9-5pm 

Instant date spots 

Coffee shops all over the Station, also consider taking the woman to Soreditch for some unique and hipster joints. 

London School of Economics (Holborn Station) : 

Another great spot to meet aspiring universities students Holborn Station can be easily walked to from Russel Square 

Pros: 

• Large amount of LSE students provide a solid opportunity  to game Freshers and Masters students. LSE has a massive influx of masters students each year so this serves as a good opportunity to game them. 
• Good foot-flow of other people also walking down this road especially from 5-7 there is a decent volume 
• Even during summer time there are still a large volume of students studying for PHDs and Summer schools here. 
• You can get into a lot of the student Cafe Areas without being from the uni itself. 

Cons: 

• Footflow can die out drastically after a certain time. 
• “Nerdy” Orientated women might not be for everyone 

Oxford Street /Piccadilly/ Leicester Square 

• Pros : full of women all the time 

• Variety of nationalities from around the world

• Whole Foods and Selfridges have a good quantity of high quality women . 
• There’s volume here all times of day probably one of the few game spots in London where this can be considered the case. 

Cons: 

• full of other Puas all the fucking time 

• Annoying to compete with other puas , can make you look like a spammer. 

• Women may not see your approach as alpha If they’ve been approached before hand this damages the alphaness of the approach but is retrievable every situation is retrievable . 

• Full of tourists which means getting a LTR (long term relationships)  will be difficult tourists can be time Intensive for someone working a long hectic job with limited time to game I would actually spend the least amount of time. Remember approaching is capital intensive students and people living in London give you more long term fucking for your limited time.

• People can think you’re selling them something when approaching them 

• Streets are narrow and packed especially on weekends although since Covid 19 this has not been as much of an issue. 

Best times: all the time it’s packed Monday to Friday 

Worst times : Friday and Saturday 5-10pm here is absolutely packed and difficult to approach

During a holiday season. 

Best date spots: Joe and the Juice Soho, China town is packed full of Ice cream places to eat. Whole foods in Piccadilly is good to grab a health conscious drink like green tea and has actively available out door seating (as of writing October 2020) 

Earls court: 

Pros: 

• Station connects a lot of people many people working in London use this station to at least transfer from the district to the Piccadilly line. 

• No one approaches there my reactions personally have been great. 

• Good variety of girls from 5-7pm

• Connects to other great pua places nearby 

• University halls are here great amount of students 

• Constant stream of new people can be good incase you’re worried about the person you’ve just closed “seeing you approach others” 

Cons 

• Limited places to go 

• After an hour or so it’s best to go elsewhere as the area is quite small .

Best times 

Monday to Friday 5-7pm 

Worst times 

Monday to Friday before 5pm 

Instant date spots 

There’s a Starbucks and Costa coffee nearby the station 

Russell square (three universities SOAS/Birbeck/UCL)

Pros : 

• Lots of students good for long term “friends with benefits” and long term relationships 

• Three different universities , SOAS, Birkbeck and UCL all within a few feet of each other 

• Bookshops packed full of students 

• Lots of introverted girls looking for more intimate connections, SOAS is quite arty. 

• Due to Covid people seem quite upbeat and even more willing to meet people here. 
• Planet Organic nearby where students often go to drink coffee is a great place to meet health conscious students. 

Cons: 

• Absolutely dead on the weekend

• During reading weeks and when terms end it can be absolutely dead. This place ride and dies on students. 

Best time 

Monday to Friday 9am-9pm 

Worst time 

The weekend 

Instant date spots:coffee shops in the Waterstones book shop by the university campuses is great although Planet Organic is still a good choice. 

High street Kensington 

Pros : 

• Whole foods full of beautiful women is always packed . 
• High quality women everywhere 
• Good long street to approach and move around .
• Three story whole foods plenty of places to go to if you get rejected. 
• Equinox Gym near the station for many fitness minded students.

Since Covid 19 the whole foods has gotten emptier however emptiness does not necessarily mean that there wont be opportunities , theres also less security walking around since Covid so its still an ideal game for interactions also footfall is great here on Sundays as it’s the day many people leave their foodshopping on until. 

Cons : 

Security in whole foods can be intimating 

Not many students 

High quality women might be intimidating for beginners 

Instant date spots 

Joe and the juice High Street Kensington is the ideal spot although Whole Foods High Street Kensington is my personal favourite spot to buy food with girls before I  cook for them at my place. The heavily stimulated food has a great variety of foods for all nationalities of girl and can be a great place to trigger excitement before the date. 

Putney bridge : 

Pros 

• High quality middle upper class women 
• No one approaches there , competition is low 
• High return rate per approach 

Cons 

• After 6pm in the winter time it can get extremely dark 
• During the day it can be empty  try and aim for 5-7pm 

Best times to go 

The weekend 

Monday to Friday 5-7pm 

Best Date Spots 

Numerous coffee shops all over putney high street 

Richmond 

Pros: 

• During the summer time this place can be amazing to walk round with women everywhere. 
• Whole foods which is packed full of high quality women and is very large giving ideal space to move around and do multiple sets in one session. 
• Many bars and restaurants with romantic views a good date spot for those living far from central. 

Cons: 

• Empty during the weekday after 7pm 

Best time to go : 

• Weekends especially Sunday Whole foods 

Worst Times to go : 

• After 7pm on a weekday. 

Instant date spots: 

• Walking Along the river 
• Juice at Whole Foods. 

 Waterloo

Pros:

• Great place to game even during the weekday late at night its still full of people 

• Great variety of women all the time

• Next to a Kings college uni campus so ideal for gaming students as well 

• Many different people pass waterloo each day

• Shielded from the shitty weather and cold 

• light during night, less creepy approaching girls during the night 

• Great at all times of day 
• Easy to close girls and not have to worry about them “seeing you again” as with stations its easy to close a girl and having them catch a train thereafter making it hard for them to see you picking up girls . A problem with shopping malls and areas alike to them is that you can run into the problem of re seeing the people you’ve approached and closed which may cause them to loose attraction to you once they notice you approaching other girls. 

Cons:

• Some Individuals maybe hard to stop as they’re catching a train 
• Approaching in masks maybe seen as tricky for some people but I think you should just bite the bullet and do it regardless. 

Best time: 

Monday to Friday 9-4pm 

Monday to Friday after 7pm 

Worst times 

Saturday  all day 

Monday to Friday 5-7pm 

Best date spots 

Pure coffee next to Foyles book shop , alternatively going for a walk to London bridge there are many street food joints on the way. 

Victoria 

Pros 

• Many tourists and high quality women  pass by

• shielded from the rain and bad weather 

• Light all the time in the station make it great for approaching women. 

Cons 

• Can get busy during 5-7pm after work 

Best times:

Monday to Friday 9-4 

Monday to Friday After 7pm 

Worst times 

Monday to Friday 5-7pm 

Best date spots:

Coffee shops everywhere 

Clapham junction 

Pros:

• One of the busiest stations this place is packed full of women throughout the day. 

• A whole foods nearby is full of beautiful women too. 

• A large street nearby is perfect for approaching 

• constant footfall and the station is big enough to stop women

Cons:

• can get busy after work 5-7pm 

• Can be dead during the weekday

• Charity workers can get irritating 

Best times:

Saturday and Sunday all day 

Monday to Friday after 6 

Worst times 

Monday-Friday 5-6pm 

Best date spots 

• Joe and the juice 
• Whole foods can be a good place to grab a drink and they’ve recently built a coffee shop inside the area. 

Hammersmith 

Pros: 

• A lot of students live here who go to imperial college and UCL

• Great place to approach at night as the station is still full of light

• Many people go here for nights out to go to gigs and drinks etc.

• Not many people PUA here, reactions are often good. 

• Not too crowed after work times 

• Good connection to other good PUA spots like South ken 

Cons

• Limited During the weekday 

• Few annoying Charity workers 

Best times: 

Monday to friday after 5pm 

Worst times 

Monday to Friday 9-4pm 

Instant date spots: 

Theres a león right in the station 

Paddington station 

Pros: 

• Very popular station full of students 

• European Business school there is also student 

• Good footfall Sunday evenings where everywhere else is usually dead

• A lot of international people rent near here when studying in London as rent is cheaper. 

Cons

• Narrow streets outside make it a bit annoying to stop people 

• A little bit too touristy at times 

• quite a limited area around the station 

Best times 

Sunday after 6pm 

Worst times 

Monday to friday 5-7pm 

Instant date spots: 

Lots of coffee shops 

Other Gaming Opportunities Festivals : 

Whilst festivals have been all but cancelled during the year of Covid 2020 there will be opportunities in terms of festivals to maximise your daygaming potential. Festivals like Yoga/ Fitness festivals are a great opportunity to meet high value women who look after their health.  Find a festival or event that matches what you’re looking for in a woman. 

 Shit Weather: 

As weather can get worse in London it shouldn’t be seen as an excuse not to day-game. Women are still women and they will still be attracted to you regardless of weather. If anything approaching in bad weather can be seen as a more courageous and romantic act if done right of  course.  I’d recommend sticking to shops on certain days and have found the following to be good: 

• Whole Foods on a Sunday Is prime time in fact any supermarket is usually more packed on a Sunday than any day of the week. I find especially when it rains any of the whole foods in these locations can be packed with women : Piccadilly, Clapham Junction , Richmond , Fulham, High Street Ken can provide great opportunities. 
• Organic Food Shops like Daylesford Organic in Sloane square and Notting Hill are also good spots to game .
• Fortnum and Mason- Another chain of shops extremely popular during the poor weather absolutely rammed with students from LSE and people new to London as everyone seems to desire to shop like the queen. The Fortnum and Mason in Piccadilly is three floors giving you plenty of places to open sets and to move if you’ve been blown out.  Quality tends to be high as the products in this shop are quiet expensive. 
• Canarf Wharf Shopping Mall- Yes you have to approach in masks but still the foot flow is excellent here leading to many opportunities  , the mall has plenty of room to manoeuvre 
• Westfield’s shopping centre either in Salford or Shepherd’s bush these areas can have great foot flow. With the only downside being that they can be very packed with other people doing daygame. 
• Harrods or Harvey Nichols – Knightsbridge. Always great foot-flow in these two shops all the time , fantastic places fro meeting high quality women. 
• Stations: Train stations offer a large amount of light all the time which can stop girls getting creeped out also makes it easier to see people in the dark (sounds obvious but still a big plus side) I’d recommend a station with a good foot flow like Kings Cross, Victoria, Canary Wharf,  Liverpool Street , Earl’s Court and Waterloo all 5 have constant footfall all the time. 

Hope you enjoyed the guide for networking , coaching and other queries email me at  darrenpua1@gmail.com 🙂 I shall be updating my blog often with more spots in London and writing about gaming in other countries soon .