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  •  Stefan Aarnio – Hard Times Create Strong men (2019) Book review

    oaklandgary12@gmail.com thanks – Article Written by Gary Oakland

    Writing a review of a dead 21 Convention speaker is pretty tough – of course, the arguments I make critiquing their viewpoints cannot be countered because they are essentially dead. Some things in this book have aged well; others have aged very, very badly.

    For starters, the argument “bad times create strong men, weak men create bad times” is a saying that’s passed around a lot in the manosphere – another self-help quote that people use to bolster masculinity and feel good about themselves. The reality is it doesn’t make sense. There are many countries that have been stuck in hard times, and men have capitulated or turned to pure despair – for example, the nation-states of Venezuela and Somalia. These nation-states have hard times, and the men then suffer from malnutrition. In fact, men born in poverty are statistically more likely to stay in poverty in the Western world. This lust for hard times making us strong actually doesn’t stand up upon basic examination. Good times lead to more economic opportunities and a stronger statistical likelihood of upward mobility, which the author conveniently ignores. What are we to define as a “hard time” or an “easy time”? From a dating perspective, the majority of my wingmen who succeeded were men from “easy times,” middle to upper classes, who were able to have more mental clarity, stronger interactions for dating women, and more wealth for dates, etc. In contrast, my working-class wingmen have struggled with alcoholism, gambling, and health/weight issues. For many of them, hard times made things worse. There is also no real classification of what a “hard time” is or what a “good time” is. By Stefan Aarnio’s vague definition, we could all benefit from being stuck in Mogadishu or Darfur because that would make us “strong,” and we shouldn’t live in the luxuries of the Western world at all because that would make us weak. You see the problem here – it’s all too vague, as is the problem with many self-help books.

    Stefan Aarnio also suggests he is self-made from nothing – that isn’t true. His mother was earning $80k a year back in 1980, and his father was on $30k a year. By my definitions, that’s far from working class. This is a middle-class man who moved to the upper class by selling property courses and high-ticket coaching, similar to Siam Kidd – he is not a unique entrepreneur by any means. It seems as though he coaches himself by buying high-ticket coaching and makes money by selling high-ticket coaching. I’ve seen a lot of people like this, and they’re not unique by any means. Stefan says, “men that lie are unmanly,” but Stefan lies a lot here in this book, both about himself and about Donald Trump and Bill Gates – again, another untrustworthy self-help guru.

    This book seems to be a combination of 8-9 other self-help books strung together, and there are very few unique thoughts from him himself. It seems to be a combination of Rollo Tomassi’s The Rational Male, Jack Donovan’s The Way of Men, Malcolm Gladwell’s Outliers, and Think and Grow Rich, even quoting Jordan Belfort’s The Wolf of Wall Street at one point. The problem is that very few of these philosophies are unique to Stefan alone; he’s simply a salesman who has read 10-20 self-help books, taken the best parts of these simplistic ideas, and put them into oversimplified conclusions.

    For example, when he talks about dating, he asserts that pickup artists are broken men and that their pursuit of women usually leads to sad endings for themselves, either in death or spiritual reform. This is true in some cases.

    Times when this was true:

    • Tom Torero – Committed suicide; his sex addiction could have been seen as a contributing factor, as he had a history of depression and anxiety prior to pickup.
    • Sasha Daygame – Had a spiritual awakening after overdoing pickup and then quit.
    • Roosh V – Had a successful career as a pickup artist and then became a strict Christian. It’s unknown whether his pickup artistry career contributed to this, but he did suffer the death of his brother.
    • Johnny Berba – Committed suicide after 10 or so years of being a life coach, coaching men to approach women. However, he also had a tormented childhood similar to Sasha and Tom; he suffered from mental illness before his pickup career.

    Correlation doesn’t equal causation, and even in these instances where pickup artistry was seen as responsible for these characters’ downfalls, there were other contributing factors. Stefan could try to balance the argument by including successful pickup artists on the list:

    • Liam Mcrae – An Australian pickup artist who ended up marrying a supermodel.
    • James Marshall – Married and divorced but ended up with a multinational business.
    • Dj Fuji – An American pickup artist who is in a full-time relationship thanks to approaching women.
    • Tony Solo – An African American pickup artist who ended up marrying.
    • Paul Janka – A successful pickup artist who bedded 300 women and ended up marrying and having a family.

    Not all pickup artists have bad endings, and it’s arguable that at least in their performances of pickup artistry, many of these people on the list had deep, intimate relationships as a result of approaching women. However, this doesn’t fit Stefan’s narrative; he simply uses Neil Strauss’s life as an example, but I was always under the impression that that guy was gay anyway, who took advantage of a fashionable trend to make book sales.

    Stefan Aarnio then tells men to ignore women and focus on making money and work. This may work for some, but for a lot of lonely men out there, the feeling of loneliness and not being in a relationship can harm productivity. Of course, it’s a man’s job to make the first move and approach women. If they don’t, chances are they won’t be able to date well in this world, which creates its own problems in the long run. The book’s lack of bite is really on display here. Does Stefan have a solution for men who struggle to date? There are plenty of men who are on their purpose, who work a lot, make good money, and are lonely—my brothers were two examples of this— which is why simply ignoring women doesn’t work. It can actually exacerbate the problem and lead to a lack of dating options and experience, which is necessary for eventually marrying a good woman. Stefan’s solution is “to marry a good woman but ignore women and focus on work and making money.” This requires the woman to hit on you, which is a very low-probability outcome. In my entire life, I’ve been hit on maybe four times, and they were all by women I didn’t find attractive. It’s not a good strategy; don’t do it, as it may lead you down a very lonely road.

    Stefan also claims that the secret behind Israel’s great success was the religion of Judaism. This seems again like some half-baked idea from a Daily Wire podcast, more than his own actual critical thought process. A lot of Israel’s success stems from donations from the U.S.—the most basic argument that Stefan chooses to omit. He then says immigrants in the Middle East want to come to the West because the economy is better, ignoring the fact that dollar debasement in countries like Syria, Iraq, and Lebanon is destroying these economies. The dollar standard itself represses all poorer nations, which seeks to move to countries with stronger currencies. Also, extreme income inequality, like in places such as Saudi Arabia, where power is so heavily concentrated among a few people, represses the majority. These individuals waste money on vanity projects like players’ salaries in the Saudi Pro Football League and vanity projects like NEOM. Additionally, America-backed Israel is the cause of a lot of the wars and tension in the region, but Stefan never blames them; instead, he just says that the way of life is what people want, ignoring the wars in the Middle East themselves.

    He also appears to promote semen retention, crediting it to his success in writing books and being creative. For me, semen retention makes it difficult to focus. Other dating coaches, like Liam Mcrae BroadingSea, have noted that semen retention isn’t beneficial. I believe it’s just trash that Napoleon Hill made up. As for helping Aarnio to write better, well, I don’t think it made him write well or be creative, seeing as this book is just a combination of quotes from 10-15 other self-help books. Very few of the ideas in this book are credited to himself directly; it’s really hard to find any.

    He also credits Donald Trump as self-made, despite the fact that he started with $100 million from his father and got into New York real estate after selling out to the Zionists. Trump’s relationship with Epstein is ignored by Stefan throughout the book. Yup, ignore the pedophilia your idol has committed—that’s fine.

    He appears to hate travel despite traveling himself to Costa Rica to fast and calm the mind. He then credits this as helping his creativity, which is borderline hypocritical. He berates men who want to travel, saying they should focus on just working all the time and not on women. Never mind the fact that this could lead to a lifetime of stress and loneliness. His promotion of fasting seems excessive; bear in mind that he thought he’d cured his cancer after a fast, when in fact he simply had not. Fasting can be dangerous for a lot of people, and it’s not universally useful to every human. I believe he overemphasizes its importance. For me, fasting just caused me to lose excessive body weight and look unwell—it didn’t really cleanse my mind or boost me in any way. It could be his belief in working hard and his drive to see that fasting cures all that could have ultimately led to what killed him. He’s dead now, of course, and can’t acknowledge this, but he is “dead proof” that his ideas of fasting for curing cancer, at least in his case, didn’t work. The unhealthy, excessive hard-working lifestyle may have contributed to him getting cancer in the first place.

    There are some good points in this book, however—most notably on porn addiction and video games. They are a drain on young men, and I appreciate that fact; they have definitely damaged relationships and male/female sexual dynamics. I believe more so that, on top of this, online dating has created a huge imbalance and damaged relationships between the two sexes. Stefan has no real solution to this other than guiding men on their purpose and using semen retention, but these ideas pale compared to what has happened in the online dating scene. Post-Stefan’s death, the rise of TikTok and Instagram has driven the inequality in the sexual marketplace deeper, with women garnering more and more power. I’m not bitter; it’s just what it is. Some technological innovations benefit one gender and crush the other, and in the case of online dating, it has obliterated the value of the average man and skyrocketed women’s status.

    Stefan doesn’t seem to take much issue with this, but he should if he is indeed giving dating advice to the masses. He believes this “tough time” for men will just lead to good times, but I don’t see a reversal. If anything, everything has gotten worse since Aarnio’s death. The situation has not improved, and there’s no going back. Women aren’t going to give up their gender and their sexual market value by ditching the apps, TikTok, and OnlyFans—why would they surrender their cash flow in the name of fairness? The hyper-capitalism of the dating market is what’s destroying it, and it’s sure to continue.

    His point on currency devaluation in relationship to gold since the 1960s is also interesting, but rising real estate prices are in part due to real estate gurus like Stefan hogging supply—selling to foreign nationals who bring their own ideologies to these nations, which governments and realtors don’t care about as long as they pump their own bags. Overpriced real estate is a contributing factor to the struggles of the working class in America today. Is he part of the problem and won’t admit it? Most likely.

    He looks at Donald Trump, Bill Gates, et al. as self-made billionaires and great people—ignoring the damage Bill Gates has done with his vaxxxxines, glyphosate, GMO crops, his push for digital IDs, and forcing people to put poison in their arms to satisfy billionaires’ commands. Donald Trump, who belongs to Israel, and Bill Gates, who is just a bad human; if he were alive now, maybe he’d change his mind—in fairness, he died before the Epstein files were released. But really, he should have the common sense and self-awareness to know that these guys suck donkey balls. Then there’s Jordan Belfort, who manipulated and scammed many—just throw in a quote from him for good measure. Having seen the damage sales cults can do to people, I think it’s evident from the information provided in this book that Stefan clearly is in charge of a sales cult.

    A potential Scamming History 

    The 21 convention speech itself its a field of cringe it starts with a sentanec “buy my sales course bro its not a scam and if you think its a scam you’re a scam”. This is self help sales guruiship that a salesman like Siam Kidd would be proud of . If you question me as a scammer then you’re the scammer could be seen as more of a admission of guilt then anything else. Why Anthony Dream Johnson agreed to invite someone with such a sketchy past is questionable.

    https://www.reddit.com/r/Winnipeg/comments/lvps7r/done_business_with_blackcardu_attend_a_blackcardu/

    I mean even the name “blackcard university” is just questionable  – classic case of a sales guru selling high ticket courses who learnt to sell the high ticket courses buy buying a high ticket course himself. No unique ideas just knowing how to make cults and sell the dream to desperate suckers. 

    One point I’d agree on is hiring a mentor- I learnt languages faster hiring a 1 on 1 mentor than simply going to school – I agree with Stefan that the schooling system is outdated, slow and inefficient that goes with the majority of university courses too. He’s right in this regard – also the muslim immigration in Europe and the fact that certain ethnic minorities in Europe, America and Canada is causing the destruction from this – but who is responsible? Is it the jewish NGOS who want to flood our countries with third worlders , the greedy coroporations who want the cheaper h1b1 South Asian workers  and so lobby for these applications to go through ahead of the natives. He doesn’t elabroate on the ideas because if he did he would expose the people (Trump)  or nation states ( Israel)  that are at least partly responsible for these problems and that free market capitalism and the consolidation of power also contributes to this societal decline  . Example real estate developers sell property to any culture – it might be middle eastern muslims, Chinese, Indians, Albanians they don’t give a fuck they just sell to the highest bidder to get the real estate profit the result is a societal decline look at areas in  Stefan’s native Canada in Vancouver where property gets hoovered up by Chinese in the end these become ghost towns as people keep these properties empty and prices rise and there’s no demand to sell the result is a bubble fuelled by economies in Asia which have higher proportions of millionaires and billionaires like China , Qatar, UAE  Saudi Arabia , Russia,  Iran et  al. which causes higher housing prices in the Western Cities most notably Vancouver , Toronto , San Fransisco and London again Stefan just doesn’t discuss this but I believe the real estate industry , investment visas etc. are part of the problem. There’s no real proactive solutions for these problems just the “hard times are coming” and that all make everything good again but from what covid has shown inequality just continues to grow in the world economic system today and those who have the power will use the mass media to control to greater increase their wealth and influence like Bill Gates did during Covid. 

    Stefan argues that the biggest problem in the western world today is atheism I’d argue against that – religion is a represser of the working class , it divides people and causes a lot of societal harm just look at the pedophiles in the catholic church, Brunei banning Christmas  or the reduction of the age of marriage in Iraq for example . Ironically Stefan really fails to grasp the actual things in the modern world that are causing an actual repression of masculinity. For example blue light toxicity causing men to have lower testosterone , plastic BPAs, emf radiation damaging sperm, lack of sunlight and bad modern diets are all contributors to men being emasculated that are actually backed by science – yet Stefan goes into none of these – not to mention social media addiction which should be up there with porn and gaming.

     I do agree with him that comfort in of itself causes a lot of problems , the argument of wealth lasting two generations two is one that I’ve definitely resonated with but its not a very expanded upon argument, its simply there for a few lines then disappears much like a lot of the arguments in this book do

    Concluding Thoughts

    In the end I don’t see anything unique about this book – Its merely as I have said repeatedly a combination of other self help books mish mashed together – for every 1 good Idea there is 4-5 poorly thought out ones – even the good ideas aren’t really properly expanded upon and lack directions. The poor ones are even more one dimensional and easy to dissect but that’s the underlying problem of many self help gurus or people who write self help books many are simply a jack of all trades master of nothing types – they don’t know enough about politics , economics , history to make real proper fully organised arguments. Stefan’s past was questionable, a sales cult high ticket course seller is already a questionable past but this book further rectifies he’s nothing unique. A self help guru raised on self help books , half baked ideas and self help quotes that bear no real world application and arguments that offer very little solutions to the modern world and sometimes miss the issue altogether . Its just too much of a mish mash with no real identity – even the book cover itself looks like a stereotypical self help guru sales book with little uniqueness . Ironically Stefan complains of the “sameness between women and men” but he himself suffers from the “sameness between him and other self help gurus” if you read the likes of ” The Rational Male,Outliers, the way of the superior man , think and grow rich you will unlikely find anything new here there’s nothing else unique about this or Stefan’s entrepreneurship or “innovated” writing style- its all be done before. I see him as a sales guru who overworked himself was over confident in the wrong ideas about health quite clearly and as a result is now dead . According to Stefan we should work 20 hours a day, 10,000 hours , not date women and wait for them to come to us, never travel just work no one needs to travel, never date just work , embrace the pain because that’s when strong men come even though Stefan’s pain in his life ultimately killed him , we should also fast , if you come from a family worth $100million you’re self made- if your parents earn $110k a year you’ve come from nothing etc. you catch my drift these are all notions with no real back bone yet they unfortunately last throughout the book.

    Score: 3/10

  •  Which Dating Coaches do I actually Recommend – Featuring- Nick Krauser, James Marshall , Dj Fuji , Tom Torero , Alex León,BroodingSea and Liam Mcrae 

    oaklandgary12@gmail.com thanks – Article Written by Gary Oakland

    To begin with, I want to make it clear that I have no financial ties with any of the coaches in this post. Apart from a brief conversation with Tom Torero back in 2019, I have never had any other interactions with the coaches on this list—they don’t know me, nor do they care about me. However, I believe their work has the capability to help men improve their dating lives.

    Dj “Darren” Fuji

    American-born Asian dating coach Dj Fuji released several 21 Convention speeches during the early 2010s that effectively outlined the basic concepts necessary for success in dating and PUA (Pick-Up Artistry). His advice was straightforward at the time, but it was solid. The reason he didn’t become more mainstream was that he was displaced by less reputable marketers in the space, such as John Anthony, David D’Angelo, Yad, Adam Lyons, and Tom Torero. These individuals likely overtook him because they were more in tune with dishonest, abhorrent marketing techniques and were willing to deceive their audience; for example, Adam Lyons with his “I’ve never been rejected” quip or Tom Torero’s fake kiss closes serve as examples. These marketers dominated the high-ticket sales to individuals who bought into their marketing narratives, but ultimately, it worked to their detriment. In the end, honest coaches frequently get consumed by the dishonest ones, as the latter often utilize fake lay reports, ridiculous marketing, and sweeping statements like “looks don’t matter” or “money doesn’t matter.” The reality is that all these factors do matter to varying degrees, but marketers downplay them in an attempt to upsell their nonsense. The result? Honest coaches struggle against the bullshitters in most aspects of the “self-help” industry.

    Why Do I Recommend Him? Because his speeches actually outlined what was required to improve in the dating world. Unlike many during that era, like Adam Lyons, Gambler, and Ross Jeffries, who posted non-quintessential nonsense, Dj Fuji was at least honest about what pickup entailed. His advice was not overly complicated; in fact, it was quite basic—find wingmen who approach a lot, have good photographs, open many sets, lose weight, dress well, etc. When I first heard this advice in 2014, it went over my head, and I didn’t take any action. Again, good advice is not enough; taking action repeatedly is the most important thing. However, I think Dj Fuji outlined the core fundamentals quite well, which many beginners and intermediates often lack.

    Where Can His Material Be Found?

    Nick Krauser

    I confess I’ve probably read 6 out of 7 of his books and really enjoy his work. His book “Balls Deep,” despite having a ridiculous title, was actually a deep read (no pun intended) and described the difficult transition from regular life to daygame—his first daygame sexual encounters, the mental battle with divorce. All in all, it was an inspiring read to see a regular Joe in his mid-30s dominate the dating game. His journey from being divorced to hooking up with Uzbek models in the span of a couple of years is an inspiring story, regardless of whether you agree with his personality traits, which may come off as excessively right-wing to some.

    Why Isn’t He Bigger? Well, he’s honest, which again might be detrimental to his marketing. A common flaw among many dating coaches is their honesty; they showcase a lot of the bad dates and last-minute resistance (LMR) they encounter, and as a result, this can put potential clients off from seeking coaching from them or implementing their ideas. Visually, he isn’t the most marketable character, which probably works against him, along with his right-wing political beliefs that might alienate some of his audience. However, I’ve always seen him as one of the most honest characters in the business. With numerous free podcasts available, alongside good interviews with Tom Torero, he certainly has the experience deserving of a bigger following that never quite grew to the heights it probably deserved. Either way, his interviews and books provide great insights into how an ex-divorced man became successful at dating—how he picked himself up from the mental battle and pushed through to become a better person.

    Why Do I Recommend Him? Simple—he offers a realistic vision of the daygame model, a true OG day gamer who doesn’t sugarcoat it. A more honest version of Tom Torero, even though Torero had the acclaim, it was Krauser who fundamentally showcased a more genuine conviction regarding dating, sex, and relationships, emphasizing sexual market value (SMV).

    Where Can His Material Be Found?

    BroodingSea

    I don’t know much about this guy. However, for a man in his 30s/40s who’s bald and from Newcastle, his blog does help those who are older and looking for inspiration in the dating game. He is a man who leads by example and frequently blogs about the advantages and disadvantages of dating when you’re older. He deserves a lot more praise than he currently receives. Similar to Dj Fuji, I don’t think he gets the attention he deserves, possibly because he’s not making outrageous claims all the time. He’s from Newcastle, which proves he isn’t perfect, but nonetheless, I’d recommend him for all beginners, especially if you’re in your 30s.

    Where Can His Material Be Found?

    Alex León

    There’s a lot not to like about this guy; I don’t think he’s honest about the impact of wealth and money on dating. However, I believe he offers genuinely good advice regarding social media, and he is the most current coach in that regard. For this alone, he deserves some recognition. A student of James Marshall and heavily influenced by 21 Convention speaker Liam McRae, Alex León left The Natural Lifestyles to establish his own PUA coaching business alongside Liam, specializing in social circle and Instagram game—a good example for guys with weak social media influences. His Instagram was recently deleted, so he has become a target of cancellation from Meta, along with many controversial videos on YouTube that have been removed.

    Where to Find Him:

    James Marshall

    To this day, I believe he has the best 21 Convention speeches that had a powerful impact on me. For beginners, intermediates, and advanced learners, there’s something for everyone. He is a wise man, someone who provides great inner game advice and has built up a reputation over decades as one of the all-time greats. Collaborating with the likes of Liam McRae and Alex León back in the day, I still consider him one of the greatest dating coaches of all time. Although he may not have the same aura he did back in 2017/2018, in my opinion, he remains one of the finest in the field. Watching his free 21 Convention speeches alone is an excellent starting point.

    He possesses decades of experience and knows what he’s talking about; it’s easy to see. He also has experience across numerous countries, including Eastern Europe and Australia, collaborating with Anthony Dream Johnson, Sasha Daygame, and forming business relationships with Liam McRae and Alex León. He has faced his share of controversy, particularly concerning dating coach John Anthony Lifestyles—a beef that extended over several years.

    Where to Find Him:

    Liam McRae

    Australian dating coach Liam McRae was extremely popular during the heyday from 2015 to 2020, before drifting into a remote lifestyle away from YouTube. He wrote some successful books on rapid escalation, Tinder success stories, etc. Based in Budapest with James Marshall, he became a three-time 21 Convention speaker before requesting the removal of his videos from YouTube and deleting all his content from The Natural Lifestyles YouTube channel. Perhaps he feared facing public backlash. He has been routinely criticized by another one of my favorite dating coaches, Nick Krauser, but I still hold a great appreciation for both. Liam has a solid understanding of fashion, finance, and social media, and I believe his mentorship can genuinely help people get the most out of their dating lives.

    He still conducts business today through Alex León, but it’s much harder to get hold of him.

    Where Can He Be Found? Tough to get coaching from him now—you have to go through Alex León: https://www.alex-leon.com/

    Tom Torero

    The only deceased person on this list, but he deserves to be mentioned. He was not perfect by any means and had a history of scamming people with ridiculous fake infields and questionable marketing choices. However, his podcasts can still be downloaded for free or via Torrent. He remains the most marketable dating coach, with his blog posts garnering the most views on this website—only surpassed by James Marshall. Despite being dead for nearly five years, he still has global pull and good advice for beginners . He was still an Oxbridge grad an intelligent person having worked as a high school teacher and travelled the world coaching clients- he brought an incredible amount of wealth and experience in his podcasts which are available for free- majority of his books can be utorrented.

    Where to Find Him:

    Gary

  • Dating coach Alex León has three Instagram Accounts Deleted by Meta + John Anthony Lifestyle and Anson Bros Consulting Also Censored

    oaklandgary12@gmail.com thanks – Article Written by Gary Oakland

    Dating Coach Alex Leon Had his Instagram Account Deleted after 9 years a long with the deletion of two other business instagram accounts

    Austrian dating coach Alex León, once of James Marshall’s infamous “The Natural Lifestyles,” has had his Instagram account deleted by Meta. The nine-year-old account was permanently suspended, along with two other business Instagram accounts that the dating coach used to foster sales leads. The coach will now focus purely on YouTube, which, as far as I’m aware, hasn’t been deleted as of yet. This comes as part of a significant crackdown on dating coaches, with many critiquing “rizz” videos on the platform, with Meta Glasses, for example, being viewed as an invasion of privacy. Although Alex never used Meta Glasses, he did post “infield” videos of him approaching women, which could be a reason for his deletion.

    In the same month, the Instagram account datingbyanson deleted all its content, perhaps in an attempt to protect itself from the onslaught from Meta against dating accounts. Similarly, John Anthony Lifestyle’s Instagram account was removed, along with his YouTube, after Ice White used his insider links with the company to get him banned from YouTube.

    The crusade against Alex León appears to be quite intense, as Meta simultaneously banned two of his business accounts and one private account in a single action. This shows a clear “zero tolerance” policy. The cancellation of dating coaches on Instagram has not been as significant as on YouTube, but perhaps now, with the public outrage over Instagram rizz videos, Meta thought it best to act drastically and completely cancel some dating coaches to set an example.

    Nevertheless, it’s a shame for Alex León, a former coach of The Natural Lifestyles, who left to form an independent business with ex-TNL coach Liam McRae. This will undoubtedly hurt their business; they essentially lost their entire Instagram audience in one go, along with the links and connections on the platform that Alex would have gained in his seven years coaching for James Marshall. The aggressive stance being shown toward dating coaches is somewhat expected. This has happened in the past on YouTube with numerous accounts like the 21 Convention, John Anthony Lifestyle being demonetized, and Tom Torero’s YouTube account being deleted. Who knows if tougher action may be taken on YouTube? However, Alex had a tendency to upload videos attempting to achieve clickbait, including one entitled “Attempting to Rizz an Arab Girl,” which also got deleted by the platform.

  • John Anthony Lifestyle Launches Criminal Lawsuit Against Ice White – The Full Picture

    For for those who want to network in the future please email: oaklandgary12@gmail.com thanks – Article Written by Gary Oakland

    Bear in mind this saga has been going on for the best part of two years and seems to be continuing well into the next two, considering John is now launching a criminal lawsuit against dating coach Ice White. Ice White appears to celebrate victory, which is odd as everything has just begun both in America and Peru. John will launch two criminal lawsuits against his rival dating coach. This has got to be the first time in history that a dating coach has launched a criminal lawsuit against another one.

    The saga began when John Anthony refused to appear on Ice White’s “Game Global” Channel in 2024, resulting in Ice White discussing with his dating coach panel about the “Problem of John Anthony,” which John clearly wasn’t impressed with. He then made several expose videos of Ice White, claiming the guy had sold dating ad campaigns and marketing featuring other women who had boyfriends—along with claiming Ice White had 0 daygame lays—which in turn turned out to be true or at least not denied by Ice White in the last 2 years, so we will assume it is true.

    Ice then used his insider connections to delete John’s YouTube channel, which in turn led John to launch a criminal lawsuit against Ice White, both in the US and Peru—seeking legal damages. Ice White has acted “cool” about this situation but then launched a GoFundMe page, putting his wife after a cancer operation picture on the page: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-cancer-family-defend-against-legal-harassment-youtuber. This all seems weird for a guy who sent my co-writer of this an infield of him approaching women while he was married with a kid and claimed it was “infield” when it quite clearly wasn’t. There have also been numerous situations of Ice White deleting comments off his YouTube videos, which leads me to believe we don’t get the fair viewpoint of what is really going on in this situation nor what the masses really think. This is similar stuff that John Anthony has pulled before, where he’s deleted a bunch of YouTube comments and has had heavy moderation of his YouTube channel. Both sides seem keen on censoring, and in this modern era where content creators have full control of the comments on their channels and can visually suppress likes and dislikes, it’s unknown what really the general public thinks when negative comments are actively suppressed by both sides.

    I don’t believe Ice’s claim on his GoFundMe that he’s been harassed really—it was Ice who made the first video critiquing John Anthony. It was Ice who sucked up to him early in his career and went on his channel and spilled the beans on RSD. It was clear as day John Anthony was a suspicious guy way before this, yet Ice seemingly ignored all this and simply just went ahead with it and tried to get him on his channel. I’d never ask John Anthony for a podcast interview; it simply isn’t worth it. Anyone with half a brain about self-help gurus should really know better than to suck up to this guy. Given the sheer amount of beefs he’s had with other dating coaches and fallings out, Ice should really have known better.

    Ice went on an uploading rampage on YouTube, making 10-20 videos about John Anthony. He seemed hell-bent on pursuing the guy—that’s a lot of videos and could be seen as harassment too in some regards—but the info on some of them was interesting, including this one:

    Which got 5.8k views and shows John clearly grouping a woman— I guess this is probably what set John off to pursue such direct legal threats against Ice White. Ice also did an interview with an ex-client of John Anthony, who claimed to have been scammed on his $3k course. Altogether, it’s an interesting chain of events that looks set for another 2-year legal battle. If Ice was so confident, then why would he be seeking to raise money from others? I’m not so sure—I have no idea who’s gonna win the lawsuit. I didn’t think John would beat Modern Life Dating, but he ended up doing so with a huge settlement, something which MLD and Ice seemingly ignore. The whole thing reeks of both sides claiming, “We got this in the bag,” when in reality, it seems that neither can be certain.

    One thing’s for sure: both dating gurus have suffered damage to their reputations. Ice White for fraudulent advertising, no doubt—John Anthony for weird in-field footage and other claims made by Ice, including the interview with one customer, as mentioned. Who will win? It will probably take until 2028 before we have a firm conclusion, but I have no clue. I see both individuals as manipulative and vindictive people that the “self-help” industry would be better off without. Ice White plays the victim even though he starts beefs with other dating coaches like James Tusk all the time and continually mocks him, too, even though he is a much more successful individual. It’s hard to find likeability or anything positive to say about either, other than they are both scammy marketers—but I will be posting more to keep you updated.

    Either way, it’s strange to see both sides seemingly destroying their own personal brands for the sake of this conflict. This is the first time I believe that a dating coach has launched a criminal lawsuit against another one, and probably the last time I suspect something of this magnitude to happen again. Both have likely taken a loss of revenue as a result of this beef. John Anthony has lost his YouTube audience, although he has retained some following on Rumble, a platform that I’m not really bullish on as it struggles to garner viewers. Still, he’s getting something from there, and I’d say a couple of thousand Rumble subs still shows he has some pull. He’s also unlikely to get canceled on Rumble, which means he will always have something to cement his brand with. Ice White continues to do well on YouTube, garnering nearly 20k subs, which for a dating coach in this era is a lot. Had he started 10 years earlier, he’d probably be at the 100-200k levels. Still, it’s good work to grasp that sort of audience in an era where dating coaches are often canceled and have their subs pretty easily removed.

    Having said that, asking your followers for cash is already a bit suspect—maybe he sees this escalating. Making meme videos against John Anthony and James Tusk does little to really showcase much confidence. The collaborations with Modern Life Dating, who lost a significant court case to John Anthony, seem confused. Why celebrate an obvious defeat? With a lot of the YouTube comments by Ice White deleted, it’s hard to see which side the mainstream is really on. He continues to attack John Anthony’s previous affair with a transgender woman, which again is old news at this stage. Other dating coaches, most notably Anthony Dream Johnson, spent a lot of time doing the same, and at this point, it’s the same things going over and over for the past 2 years.

    All in all, who the fuck knows is the conclusion. I predict John Anthony may actually win this case, seeing as he has more financial muscle than Ice White, and Ice White’s crowdfunding campaign is probably a sign of weakness at this stage. But time will tell. The video below is quite interesting; however, it claims that Ice used fake statistics to damage John’s reputation regarding YouTube. This is clearly not the case, as his arguments showed statistical data taken from John’s YouTube videos themselves, so I believe Ice’s side will be able to at least defend themselves on this standpoint. The other parts regarding Ice using insider links to delete John Anthony’s channel could be a bit hazy, and to be honest, I have no idea how that pans out.

    In the end though Ice White’s actions in reaction to this lawsuit continue to be questionable recently inviting controversial pickup artist David Bond on his channel Game Global despite allegations that he has been convicted for 17 years in Brazil for the sexual exploitation of minors.

    Evidence of David Bond’s alleged conviction in Brazil
    further evidence of David Bond’s conviction
    Ice white interviewing David Bond after his conviction in Brazil

    Despite the controversy surrounding David Bond, Ice White was happy to host him. Despite showcasing John Anthony’s court cases and past infields, he seemed okay with David Bond’s questionable past and didn’t seem to care. I guess his hatred for John Anthony is so strong that any enemy of John is a friend of his, regardless of what that person has done in the past. It seems somewhat hypocritical from Ice, to be honest. I imagine if there were a Brazilian CNN article that had sentenced John Anthony to 17 years in prison, Ice would definitely use it against John, but when it comes to his own guests on his channel, he doesn’t seem to care.

    Comments on Ice White’s streams about John Anthony don’t often agree with Ice White’s perspectives and are often deleted.

    But the controversy with Ice White doesn’t end there, as he simply deletes comments that seem to disagree with his narrative. One YouTuber commented on Ice White’s video, “Move on to something more important, like showing your infield.” Ironically, Ice White has no daygame lays and no infield other than when he was married with a kid, asking another female for her Instagram. Additionally, any comments that critique Ice White get deleted, so no one really knows how many people agree with his motivations or his abilities.

    Of course, people have the right to question someone who claims they are good at something when they have no actual evidence that they are. In Ice White’s case, that’s precisely the situation—there’s no real evidence he’s good at anything he says he is. This has always been a valid criticism. He doesn’t seem to differentiate between people who are good and those who are bad. If he did, he would have invited James Marshall or Nick Krauser. Instead, he asks John Anthony for interviews, interviews David Bond, and other scammers like Arash Dibazar or Ross Jeffries, who obviously have no ability, just by listening to them. In the case of Arash, how can you trust a guy with ridiculous tattoos like that?

    Anyway, with a balanced perspective, it will be good to see how this case pans out. I will be providing updates on it in the future.

    John Anthony confirmed on Rumble that he will pursuing a criminal court action lawsuit against Ice White

  • Ice White Exposes John Anthony Lifestyle as Ex-Student interview reveals the problems with dating coach John Anthony

    Disclaimer: I am not a dating coach nor am I selling any dating products or services this blog is really for recreational usage to reflect on the dating/self help gurus and to share my insight. I have no affiliation with any of these coaches in question – For for those who want to network in the future please email: oaklandgary12@gmail.com thanks – Article Written by Gary Oakland

    An interesting video appeared on my feed which exposed John Anthony Lifestyle- an interview with one of John Anthony’s former students seemingly a homeless doordash driver – firstly in terms of sexual market economics this idea that “anyone coached can win” needs a bit of common sense – if you’re homeless dating is going to be a tougher game . Of course this guy appears to be in his 30s a virgin, neurodivergent ( just judging by how the interview goes) a door dasher i mean this is a tough case. If I had this many disabilities I would have no success – I haven’t tried dating whilst homeless but I can’t imagine it going well, add to the additional financial issues this guy John Anthony is then taking $3k from him is just exploitation .

    I’m not trying to turn this blog into pua hate – some dating coaches are good people , some self help gurus can help- but there are people that have very little hope and shouldn’t have their money taken away from them. Of course with this interview we don’t really know the full picture from John Anthony’s side but at the end of the day it’s clear just looking at this guys’ fashion, his general voice tonne the fact that he’s a 30 odd virgin this is a tough case. Something i’d not know how any coach would solve – this is clearly a bottom of the run man. This guy highlight from John bad service which isn’t a surprise as there are others that have complained on Reddit but I think the student in fairness is a tough case -.

    Ice White is enjoying the interview as it’s his chance of exposing John Anthony but even he must be thinking this guy is missing a brain cell and there was no shot at success for him. Of course I believe there’s a moral issue here of taking money from a person with obvious neurodivergence . I sorta do believe the guy’s story though – removing the rut of the litter from your dating course to increase success rates is a believable tactic John Anthony is using – advertise 99 percent success rate by banning the failures before they have a chance to complain.

    Then there’s accountability the student should never have given his money to John Anthony himself – a little bit of due diligence would have been enough but men with no experience in the dating life . Ice White again shows his inexperience – interviewing the rut of the litter who have no results when Ice White himself has no results in the dating world himself yet he is a dating coach- he doesn’t seem to be able to note this guy’s obvious disabilities – being a homeless door dasher with 5,000 cold approaches and no results shows he’s obviously got a serious mental issue. Ice White himself has no experience and has never had any successes either so the fact that he’s trying to help when he himself has 0 lays according to John Anthony also is a bit fraudulent and fake. There’s a lack of common sense from him but he’s not experienced enough- has 0 daygame lays and 0 successes himself so him interviewing someone with 0 lays seems a bit pointless . A homeless guy working on doordash is low smv – these guys shouldn’t be exploited for money. Ice White omits these two facts to his convenience- maybe to incriminate John more – it would be an even argument if these two facts weren’t committed but then again I don’t really expect the full picture from either side . It’s also clear from the way this guy dresses that he isn’t really fully there in the head, I’d also critique Ice white’s grooming and self care too which doesn’t look very impressive either. All in all this is a case of the blind leading the blind – as so often is the case in self help guru land.

    Also admitting you’re a virgin to the internet is something I ‘d clarify as “over sharing” probably unnecessary- seen as brave but i think some things are best kept a secret imo. I feel sorry for this guy essentially embarrassing himself once by being coned by John Anthony and two being embarrassed in front of the internet for this interview that benefits Ice white a lot more than the guy in question .

    All in all this is a sad tale of neurodivergents being exploited by the self help industry. An obvious case of a low iq man being exploited for cash and then embarrassed by the internet . A sad outcome – but extra ammunition for Ice White to fire into John no doubt this could be one of the reasons why John is so passionated and eager to sue Ice. The key lesson here is to do your due diligence – don’t just throw money at any coach with good marketing and trust no one. The problem with the “high ticket sales” guru era is that people are often exploited for cash and then thrown out when they are sucked dry. In this guy’s instance he should never have signed up with John he should have gone to professional help not dating gurus – he should also have fixed his most obvious problem – his homelessness! Not peddling from guru to guru when it’s clear Ice White or John Anthony aren’t gonna fix the problems of this man nor should they be expected too – in-fact if anyone believes that anyone else can turn a homeless door dasher into a stud with the females then they are really mistaken.

  • Nick Krauser- A Deplorable Cad (2018) Book Review

    Disclaimer: I am not a dating coach nor am I selling any dating products or services this blog is really for recreational usage to reflect on my previous experiences in daygame and to share my insight. I have no affiliation with any of the authors on any of the books I’ve reviewed on this website Nick doesn’t know me and most definitely doesn’t give a rats ass about me – For for those who want to network in the future please email: jeremysergent361@gmail.com thanks – Article Written by Jeremy Sergent

    This book follows on from the previous autobiography, Balls Deep, as Nick Krauser embarks on a journey to enhance his pickup artist abilities. Moving in with several wingmen in a cheap former Jewish care home in North London, Nick documents his successes, trials, and tribulations with daygame in London, as well as in various Eastern European cities, Cuba, Mexico, and Thailand.

    The Good

    The book shows a great deal of flexibility, covering both the highs and lows of the lifestyle, including LMRs and emotional setbacks. However, there seems to be less emotional development than there was in Balls Deep, perhaps because Nick appears more focused after moving on from his divorce in his early thirties and becoming fully committed to the pickup lifestyle.

    There are several notable “guest appearances,” most prominently Tom Torero, whose secret sauce appears to be simple: “just approach more women.” He confesses to Nick that the key to his success during the Belarus daygame trip was simply approaching far more women than anybody else, solidifying his reputation as one of the hardest-working pickup artists in the scene. Tom joins Nick on trips to Norway and Belarus, and throughout the book demonstrates his strengths by accumulating large numbers of dates and phone numbers. Now that Tom is dead, this book serves as a rare insight into his life and personality.

    Nick Krauser’s A Deplorable Cad is the second entry in his autobiographical series on daygame. Krauser’s experience is extensive, and the book covers everything from online dating and social circle game to cold approaches. Stories range from Tom Torero handing him his “sloppy seconds” in the form of a Russian girl, to foursomes, wingman betrayals, Cuban, Spanish, and Thai prostitutes, and countless daygame encounters. The sheer variety on display highlights Nick’s adaptability as a daygamer, and he comes across as both honest and surprisingly likeable.

    Unlike some figures in the scene, Nick does not come across as someone who relies on fake infield footage, endless theorising, or empty talk. He actually gets involved and accumulates a broad range of experiences — some genuinely impressive, others borderline repulsive. Much like Balls Deep, which included stories about dating a Turkish Bond girl, this book balances glamour with darker, seedier experiences involving Thai and Cuban prostitutes. The variation makes the book consistently interesting, and it demonstrates that even in his mid-thirties, Nick was capable of dramatically improving his dating life.

    The PUA House

    The book begins with Nick moving to North London, where he documents the process of finding new wingmen and creating a proper pickup artist dormitory. PUA houses are fairly rare phenomena. I have personally flat-shared with other PUAs before, and personality clashes and inflated egos can quickly ruin these arrangements.

    Although Nick’s wingmen do not possess the charisma of someone like James Marshall and the The Natural Lifestyles crew, Nick still manages to achieve a remarkable amount with limited resources. An overweight Australian guy and a regular lad from Burnley hardly seem like a team destined to conquer London, but Nick consistently demonstrates an ability to make the most out of average logistics, average wingmen, and average looks.

    Despite this, he still manages to build an impressive roster of lays, continuing the momentum established in Balls Deep. Later in the book, Nick forms stronger bonds with more successful wingmen like Steve Jabba and Tom Torero, whose successes speak for themselves. Steve in particular benefits from strong looks and a powerful physique, often getting laid within only a handful of cold approaches.

    By comparison, it took me eight months to get laid from cold approach, so I know I will never achieve the same effortless results that a naturally handsome man like Steve Jabba manages in this book.

    Tom Torero’s Manipulative Side

    One of the stranger moments in the book occurs when Tom Torero attempts to steal Nick’s long-term girlfriend through manipulative behaviour. This shocked me, though in hindsight it was perhaps not entirely surprising.

    After Tom Torero’s death, I read far more about his behaviour — recording women without their permission, allegedly releasing fake kiss closes, and accusations of plagiarism. Still, attempting to sleep with a wingman’s girlfriend is a particularly low blow, especially for someone who already had a very high lay count.

    The moral here is simple: do not blindly trust gurus in the dating space, and do not assume that results alone make someone a good person. A high lay count does not equal integrity. The fact that someone who was supposedly successful with women would still betray a friend and business partner says a great deal about character.

    It also made me question Tom’s judgement. Releasing fake kiss closes damaged not only his own reputation, but also the reputation of Nick Krauser and everyone associated with Andy Yosha’s brand. For an Oxbridge graduate, these decisions seem bizarre. Then there was the incident of messaging Nick’s girlfriend and allegedly inventing stories in an attempt to sleep with her. I genuinely struggle to understand what he hoped to achieve.

    I met Tom once in 2019, and he came across as charismatic in person. I also winged with one of his students in 2018, though that guy failed to approach a single woman during the six hours we spent together. It goes to show that talk is cheap.

    I was heavily obsessed with Tom Torero during 2018–2019, but the more I read from other people’s perspectives, the stranger the entire story becomes — particularly after reading Nick Krauser’s accounts. His obsessive, “win at all costs” mentality may well have been both the reason for his success and the cause of his downfall.

    A similar situation happened with Simple Pickup, when Kong allegedly stole Jesse’s girlfriend, damaging the group’s image permanently. The lesson is clear: never idolise internet personalities to the point where you see them as flawless. Eventually, you discover that they are deeply imperfect people.

    Years later, I also became disillusioned with figures from Simple Pickup after Jesse began marketing unrealistic Tinder courses promising overweight men unrealistic results. It became obvious that many of these personalities were ultimately marketers selling a fantasy.

    Reading Nick Krauser’s diaries years later reinforced that feeling. Much of what I admired about Tom Torero now appears exaggerated, misleading, or morally questionable: manipulative behaviour, plagiarism accusations, recording women without consent, exaggerating lay reports, and collaborating with known scammers despite apparently understanding their reputations. Everyone has flaws, but newcomers often get so caught up in the marketing hype that they fail to see the problems beneath the surface.

    Roosh V’s Appearance

    The infamous Roosh V also appears in the book, though he comes across far more ordinary than his online reputation might suggest. He does not behave like some larger-than-life mastermind — he simply seems like a fairly normal, somewhat one-dimensional guy.

    That said, it is impossible to deny Roosh V’s impact. Generating millions of blog views during the height of the manosphere era was no small feat. Still, the contrast between the online myth and the reality is striking. Perhaps our idols really are just ordinary people after all.

    I was personally disappointed by Roosh V’s eventual religious transformation, which reminded me somewhat of Sasha Daygame’s spiritual turn. You could argue that his abrupt conversion to Christianity reflected a search for meaning or escapism following personal trauma, especially after his sister’s death from cancer. I cannot really judge him for that, because I have never experienced anything remotely comparable.

    Nick later critiques Roosh V for failing to evolve his brand beyond pickup. That criticism feels accurate. Roosh spent years positioning himself primarily as a pickup artist, and when people finally encountered the real man behind the persona, they discovered someone fairly ordinary.

    Cuba, Thailand, and Flexibility

    The Cuba and Thailand trips feature numerous encounters with prostitutes, which some readers may view as a questionable inclusion in a pickup book. Still, Nick also demonstrates legitimate successes outside prostitution, including sleeping with a Chinese tourist and earning a “new flag.”

    The book highlights his adaptability across online dating, nightgame, social circle, and daygame. There is no strict instructional structure to these stories, but they effectively demonstrate flexibility across wildly different environments — from difficult London streets to the “shooting fish in a barrel” atmosphere of Cuba and Thailand.

    One of the more depressing moments occurs in Thailand, where an Italian man training at Nick’s gym murders his Thai wife before killing himself during a domestic dispute. It serves as a grim reminder that “passport bro” relationships are not immune to dysfunction or tragedy.

    Simply having a higher SMV or financial advantage does not guarantee successful long-term relationships. There are countless examples of failed marriages involving Western men in Thailand and other developing countries.

    The Turkish Bond Girl

    One of the book’s highlights is Nick dating a Turkish woman who had apparently turned down a Bond girl role. Nick travels from London to Turkey to spend time with her, though he ultimately fails to sleep with her.

    Even so, the story demonstrates how powerful connection and strong daygame can be. The idea of a balding thirty-five-year-old divorcee dating a woman of that calibre would seem absurd to most people, yet Nick manages it through sheer persistence and social skill.

    Some people might dismiss the experience because it did not end in sex, but I still think it is a remarkable accomplishment — bigger than most achievements in the dating space. It also challenges the idea that life is over once you reach your thirties. Here is a bald man in his mid-thirties, fresh from divorce, dating Bond-girl-level women and sleeping with Uzbek models through daygame alone.

    Nick’s Adaptability

    Later in the book, Nick secures a well-paid finance job in London despite being unemployed for three years. This demonstrates that he is not merely obsessed with pickup, but is also intelligent and adaptable enough to reintegrate into conventional society when necessary.

    Unlike Tom Torero, who appeared increasingly consumed by the lifestyle and eventually ended up living in a van, Nick demonstrates far greater balance and adaptability.

    Final Thoughts

    A Deplorable Cad is best suited for beginners and intermediates, though advanced readers will still enjoy many of the stories. For readers curious about now-retired or deceased figures like Tom Torero and Roosh V, books like this provide some of the last grounded observations of these personalities and reveal them as flawed, ordinary human beings rather than mythical gurus.

    For anyone struggling emotionally with the transition into daygame, A Deplorable Cad is definitely worth reading. I would not rank it above A Natural History or Rapid Escalation, but Nick is unquestionably a stronger writer than Tom Torero and deserves credit for that.

    Nick never achieved the same marketing success as The Natural Lifestyles or Tom Torero. Even today, years after his death, Tom Torero still generates huge traffic and attention online. Nick’s YouTube channel, by comparison, remained relatively small despite his obvious ability.

    I would argue that Nick was a far better seducer than Sasha Daygame ever was, though Sasha’s upbeat and positive personality naturally appealed to a broader audience. Nick comes across as more realistic, but also more cynical and nihilistic, which likely limited his mainstream appeal. His right-wing political leanings probably also alienated some viewers.

    Still, his achievements deserve recognition. Despite being bald, divorced, and often surrounded by mediocre wingmen, he consistently created memorable and impressive dating experiences.

    Score: 8/10

    To Buy a Deplorable Cad:Nick Krauser’s A deplorable Cad

    To get Coaching from Nick:Coaching from Nick Krauseer

  • Roosh V’s 30 Bangs (2012) Book Review

    Disclaimer: I am not a dating coach nor am I selling any dating products or services this blog is really for recreational usage to reflect on my previous experiences in daygame and to share my insight. I have no affiliation with any of the authors on any of the books I’ve reviewed on this website- For for those who want to network in the future please email: jeremysergent361@gmail.com thanks – Article Written by Jeremy Sergent

    In terms of cultural impact, few figures in the world of pickup artistry have had as much influence as Roosh V. At his peak, he claimed millions of monthly views on his dating blog while also building the infamous Roosh V forum. His impact on the online seduction space was undeniably huge and, despite his later conversion to Christianity and departure from “game,” his influence will likely always be remembered as significant.

    30 Bangs is essentially a collection of lay reports documenting his experiences with daygame across the United States. The book gets straight to the point: there is no emotional backstory, no traumatic childhood narrative, and very little introspection. Instead, it reads almost like the detached diary of someone clinically documenting seduction encounters. There is little emotional depth or tactical analysis throughout the reports. Most are extremely short, often only one or two pages, and there is almost no emotional connection established with the women involved.

    Roosh V comes across as an honest person. He is one of the few pickup artists whom I genuinely trust to write accurate and truthful lay reports. He never struck me as the type to fake results or aggressively sell questionable boot camps and low-quality dating products. His eventual conversion to Christianity and abandonment of seduction may have been connected to the death of his sister, or perhaps it reflected a deeper dissatisfaction with the lifestyle itself. Such a radical shift toward religion can sometimes suggest a search for meaning or refuge from the emptiness of hedonism. Alternatively, he may simply have reached a point where he thought, “enough is enough,” and walked away from it entirely.

    Regardless, it is difficult to overstate the scale of his influence. At his peak, he was generating millions of views as a pickup blogger, which is an extraordinary achievement. To put that into perspective, I have accumulated roughly 50,000 hits over five years, and it would probably take me decades to match the traffic Roosh could attract in a single month during his prime. That level of reach may never be replicated, especially in today’s fragmented social media landscape, where it is far harder for a pickup artist to build such a concentrated audience.

    Many of the encounters described in the book take place in oddly old-fashioned circumstances. Around 75 percent of the book is set in the United States, with the remaining portion taking place in Latin America. There are numerous long drives, AIM messages, and forum-based interactions that feel very much of their era. One particularly unusual example involves Roosh sleeping with a woman he met through a seduction forum after corresponding with her online.

    The emotional emptiness Roosh later discussed in interviews after retiring from the game is already visible in this book. Most of the reports are written in such a detached and clinical manner that it is difficult to imagine him genuinely caring about the women involved. It often feels as though he is simply going through the motions. He appears unwilling—or perhaps unable—to add emotional depth to his writing, similar to the issues Sasha Daygame had in The Direct Daygame Bible. This is one reason why I personally rate writers such as Nick Krauser, Liam McRae, and James Marshall above him; they were far better at bringing emotional nuance and storytelling into their work.

    There is also very little discussion of technique or systemisation. The book mainly consists of short lay reports describing nights out, interactions at bars, and sexual encounters afterward. Beyond that, there is not much instructional value.

    One of the more memorable moments in the book occurs when Roosh meets one of his female blog critics and ends up sleeping with her. That is a fairly remarkable scenario, and one that feels difficult to imagine happening today. Personally, I cannot picture engaging romantically with a blog follower, though Roosh operated during a very different internet era. By 2012, he had built a substantial following, and his criticisms of feminism appeared to attract a surprisingly large female readership, some of whom were evidently interested in him romantically.

    The latter half of the book takes place in South America, particularly in Brazil and Colombia. Like many figures in the seduction space—such as Tom Torero, Nick Krauser, John Anthony, and James Marshall—Roosh gravitates toward regions where the dating market appears easier and where lower social value may still yield strong results. I also found Latin America noticeably less demanding than Western cities in terms of dating expectations. Some of the Brazilian women I met would likely have had dramatically different dating lives had they lived in Europe or North America.

    One particularly bleak encounter involves Roosh sleeping with a Colombian woman who appears to be living close to poverty and still resides with her mother. After several more encounters in Brazil, the book ends rather abruptly, closing with only a couple of pages of underdeveloped advice.

    In Deplorable Cad, Nick Krauser described his frustrations with Roosh as someone who could have become much more than he ultimately did. Krauser portrayed him as honest but lacking the unique charisma and emotional energy that distinguished the very best daygamers. After reading 30 Bangs, it is difficult not to see some truth in that assessment.

    Overall, I am not sure there is much even a beginner can truly learn from this book. Roosh’s rise to prominence was undoubtedly interesting and, in some ways, inspiring, but he lacks the writing ability necessary to become a genuinely memorable author. He is simply too emotionally detached. Reading the book, it is difficult to reconcile its flat tone with the enormous audience he once commanded.

    If Roosh were starting today, I doubt he would attract even a fraction of the audience he had in 2012. His style belongs to a very particular internet era that no longer exists. Ultimately, I think 30 Bangs is a disappointing book by a considerable margin. When reading authors such as James Marshall or Nick Krauser, you often find yourself emotionally invested in their journeys and genuinely wanting them to succeed in relationships and dating. With Roosh, however, the experience feels closer to reading an American Psycho-style account of casual sex devoid of emotional substance.

    That emotional emptiness leaves the reader unsatisfied. The book neither inspires deeper connections nor offers meaningful guidance on how to create them. At the same time, it is worth remembering the context in which it was released. In 2012, Roosh was near the height of his popularity. He probably could have released almost anything and still sold copies successfully. As a result, there may have been an element of complacency—simply releasing products because the demand existed.

    Today, Roosh V lives as a dedicated Christian and openly criticises the pickup lifestyle, claiming that it left him feeling empty. Yet, regardless of how he now views that period of his life, pickup artistry undeniably gave him unique life experiences and a legacy few others in the niche achieved. I simply think that, in the decade following his peak, more talented writers and speakers emerged whose work largely surpassed his. For beginner seducers, I would recommend the works of Tom Torero, Liam McRae, James Marshall, Nick Krauser, and DJ Fuji long before I would recommend Roosh’s emotionally detached lay reports.

    Score: 3/10

    For more on Roosh V’s legacy: https://rooshvforum.org/

  • John Anthony Set to Sue Alex Ice White

    Disclaimer: I am not a dating coach nor am I selling any dating products or services this blog is really for recreational usage to reflect on my previous experiences in daygame and to share my insight. I have no affiliation with any of the authors on any of the books I’ve reviewed on this website- For for those who want to network in the future please email: jeremysergent361@gmail.com thanks – Article Written by Jeremy Sergent

    John Anthony has declared he will launch a law suit against Alex Ice White  following the deletion of his Youtube channel  the conflict between the two dating coaches has been going for the best part of two years and the legal dispute has seemingly just begun. 

    This follows a successful lawsuit and legal campaign against Modern Lifestyle dating whom John Anthony successful sued in a defamation lawsuit – the campaign found modern life dating guilty which lead to him being sued for upwards of $700,000 with 8 percent reoccurring interest. Modern Life dating seemingly denied this on his podcast with Ice White even though the evidence suggests he actually lost the case.  

    John Anthony stated that his channel was deleted in a “ai ban wave” however Ice White went on record to say his insider connections were what got John Anthony banned – there has been an on going conflict between the two for what seems like an eternity and this lawsuit seems to be in full motion with John Anthony hiring a legal team in Lima,Peru ready to sue Ice White. 

    Ice White could potentially be looking at up to three years in prison if found guilty by a Peruvian court – although its unclear with as to how serious Ice White’s acts of defamation are against John and whether they will hold up in a Peruvian court in contrast to an American one (where John Anthony and Modern lifestyle’s spat occurred) although John seems confident he will win. It seems he may have exaggerated the extent to which Ice White could be penalised for the lawsuit – with Ice and Modern Life Dating claiming that the 3 year sentence that John Anthony is claiming Ice will receive is exaggerated and is a highly improbable outcome.

    John Anthony was deleted off YouTube and has since moved to the free speech video sharing platform Rumble – he has done a one interview since on YouTube most notably with bulldog mindset in which he blamed the ai ban wave for his channel being deleted – YouTube restrictions means that banned accounts can only do one interview per content creators channel following their bans. John Anthony is optimistic the channel will come back although his second backup channel has also been deleted  with the reporting of said channel encouraged by his two nemesis’ Ice white and modern life dating who coincidentally did a celebratory live stream after his second channel was banned. 

    John Anthony did a rumble live stream explaining the legal situation he was in with Ice white before making another rumble video to document the legal procedures and criticism against Ice White’s lack of daygame skill, having an ugly wife and 0 daygame lays. The usual criticism that John had posted in the past on his now deleted youtube channel – plus he revealed he had sent two cease and desists to Ice along with one letter of intent to sue. With Ice White insisting that John can do nothing as John is not based in Peru- according to John this doesn’t matter and he will still be suing anyway.  John Anthony claimed he had a 2 hour consultation with the Peruvian council – reiterating that Ice White has allegedly committed crimes , with a criminal investigation taking place.  Ice then posted a picture with a police officer in Peru- logically speaking i don’t know how that helps his case – but I’ve always viewed Ice as an illogical individual to begin with – how can you be a dating coach and have 0 daygame lays at the same time. I’m not so sure- with the logic with that- dating coaches should be setting an example. Funny thing is Ice outed John for faking youtube stats – when Ice himself uploaded pictures with other men’s girlfriends to use as marketing for his books and promoted Dan Bilzerian who’s an obvious fraud who hires prostitutes and is clearly no example to follow not to mention Michael Sartain who i think is an utter scammer , the Indian dating coach Deepak Dating who Nick Krauser exposed in his autobiography, Justin Marc who had some allegations against him as well – again there was no effort to challenge or pre-judge these obvious frauds yet John Anthony whom Ice was sucking his cock collabing with him to begin with without Ice himself doing any due-diligence on who John was when Ice went on John Anthony’s channel to share the dirt on RSD – he should have known better in hindsight but then again thats the dating industry for you – people freely collab with others seeing them as opportunists without doing an ounce of due diligence.

    Nevertheless its a blow to John to lose the YouTube audience however his comeback stream did manage to get 15,000 views – so he’s clearly still got a pull along with 700 new subs which isn’t bad for rumble in a short space of time having said this it’s clear nothing compares to Youtube and i struggle to think of any dating content creators that have thrived on rumble. He still undoubtedly has a fan base though that do tune in to watch but is still he’s pulling in decent views on rumble – 1k views per video is still a lot for a dating coach considering how low 21 convention vids, Tom Torero videos etc. gain by comparison on rumble. With those averaging just 500 – still for the long term marketing Youtube was way better for John than rumble .

    Above ^ John Anthony’s 6 hour livestream showed he was back on rumble after the two channels were deleted off youtube. In it he explained there’s a high probability he’d be back which was complete shit. He put himself in a vulnerable position to begin with by dishing out dirt to 50-100 others and eventually fucked with Ice who had insider connections to Youtube to bring him down. In the long term making enemies with so many individuals eventually does catch up with you and bring you down.

    The live stream above shows Ice and Modern Life Dating discussing the stream- Honestly i don’t know why Modern Life Dating is so happy considering he’s lost a $700k lawsuit against John Anthony – MLD claimed he was not deemed guilty by jury but he was deemed guilty by default . MLD will be taking this to appeals so it will be interesting to see what comes of it. Ice white never addressed the criticism from John as to whether he has 0 dagame lays or not and the fact that he allegedly took photos with other men’s girlfriend’s as part of his pua book promotion for “the message game”. Ice White has been doing false ass marketing in his own right – same as John .

    The above photo was taken with a girl who Ice White never was in a relationship with nor pulled in an attempt to make himself look a lot more successful with women then he actually was – classic PUA marketing bs that I’m glad John Anthony called out- not to side with John Anthony as he’s no angel too but Im glad that someone had the courage to out Ice White for his bs marketing and 0 daygame lays. It’s about time obvious frauds in the industry were taken down and John did expose him. Still Ice managed 18k youtube subs which is a lot in this day of cancel culture in the Youtube space for pickup artists to even break 10k youtube subs takes some feat so respect the grind on that front.

    Anyway I don’t believe either side – both have a history of lying and making up bullshit so I will wait this one out and see how it goes. Still i don’t see either side backing down- undoubtedly John has lost a lot of money due to Ice White and Ice White must be feeling some sort of humiliation that his 0 daygame lays and infields aside from one which really doesn’t count because it happened after he was married and had a kid – a real daygame infield should count if you get an actual date from it. I’ve had plenty of times when women have given me their number only for them to flake at a later date so I understand the majority of infields go no where- even Yad’s kiss close the Russian woman involved ended up flaking.

  • Nick Krauser-Last Man Banging (2019) -Book Review

    Disclaimer: I am not a dating coach nor am I selling any dating products or services this blog is really for recreational usage to reflect on my previous experiences in daygame and to share my insight. I have no affiliation with any of the authors on any of the books I’ve reviewed on this website- For for those who want to network in the future please email: jeremysergent361@gmail.com thanks – Article Written by Jeremy Sergent

    Last Man Banging is the eighth and final instalment in pickup artist Nick Krauser’s career. The book opens in dreary Newcastle, where Nick is still living with his parents at age 41, before deciding on a somewhat surprising PUA trip to Bali and Thailand. This is an odd choice, especially since he had spoken negatively about Thailand in his first book, Ball’s Deep. Perhaps this signals a kind of resignation or fatigue—after all, the “hard mode” of banging women in Eastern Europe, Ukraine, Serbia, and similar places can wear a man down, and maybe something easier feels more worthwhile. However, it would have been more intriguing for him to explore a “medium mode” nation like Japan or China instead of these “passport bro” territories full of prostitutes that demand far less game to succeed in.

    This is further complicated by the fact that the first two women Nick brings back ask for money, which he refuses to pay. At times, the narrative feels more like the monologue of a 65-year-old retired Brit than that of a star-studded British PUA. Still, it offers some variety by highlighting different sexual marketplaces compared to Eastern Europe.

    Indeed, Thailand’s sexual marketplace is more focused on money and status than physical attraction, a point the book clearly confirms. Various last-ditch lays stumble because of the women asking Nick to pay this could lead readers to wonder about the purpose of writing daygame reports in Thailand at all. From my own 2014 experience in Thailand, I was mostly “too scared to approach locals because I feared they might have a cock.” Apart from one beach make-out with a German and zero lays in two weeks my Thailand experience was far less eventful than Nick’s escapades described here. If this is your first Nick Krauser book, you might be confused by scenes such as him having sex with an illiterate Cambodian woman while trying to figure out if she is a ladyboy. The whole narrative can be tiresome for those not into gutter or passport game, but for fans of Nick’s writing style, it still offers some enjoyment. I however can easily see why many readers wouldn’t be drawn to it.

    Are lay reports from Bangkok, Manila, and Phnom Penh useful to the PUA community? Maybe. Since Nick does still land some sex from cold approaches in this series, he sets a good example. However, he doesn’t approach as much as one might hope, and even one of his daygame conquests asks him for money when he returns to his room. I was surprised Nick didn’t target hostels, which are full of horny backpackers—a better strategy than to find local women in the nightclubs which seem to be majority prostitutes .

    There is little relationship development with the Thai women he sleeps with, which is unsurprising since most appear to be involved in some form of hookering. That’s the reality of daygame in Phuket—no matter how financially well-off you are, most relationships are money-driven. These women are fighting poverty, and as someone from the West, it’s hard to fully grasp how tough life can be for some of these girls. There is some sympathy from Nick in this book, unlike previous ones where he flatly refused to pay any woman who asked for money like in his pervious book “Girl Junkie” where as 17 year old Pole asks him for cash resulting in his potential SDL being fucked over.

    The Bali trip is uneventful, featuring no notable lay reports. Nick returns with one attractive Tinder match, but she ends up having constipation and doesn’t want sex—literally a cockblock due to constipation.

    The book then returns to typical daygame grinding, especially in Russia and Ukraine. This phase almost seems like a love-hate relationship before Nick revisits the familiar watering holes of Belgrade, Croatia, and such, banging his rotations accumulated over 4-5 years. He finishes strong by sleeping with a fresh Eastern European model, proving he still has it in his 40s, even in today’s competitive, online-driven dating scene.

    For me, the book’s main disappointment is the lack of real exploration into new territories beyond Thailand a market arguably covered in his earlier book Deplorable Cad. It’s the usual places with familiar right-wing political commentary, little originality, and an arguably complacent choice of banging Thai hookers. It’s his life, and he clearly prefers Eastern European women. I would have liked to see him venture to something culturally different—maybe Brazil, South Korea, Japan, or China. Instead, it’s more of the same, with cameo appearances by figures like Steve Jabba and insights into Nick’s personal flaws, repeated encounters with previous eastern european girls who featured in his previous autobiographies “younger,hotter, tighter” and “Girl Junkie” . The book is interesting but somewhat lacking in fresh PUA perspectives or innovative ideas. There are decent tactics on overcoming Last Minute Resistance (LMR), but not much else. Philosophically, Nick reflects on the difficulty of daygame—the time and mental effort involved—but this isn’t revolutionary. Daygame has always been mentally grueling, as he discussed in earlier works like Ball’s Deep.

    If you enjoy Nick’s writing style, you might like this book—I personally do—but I completely understand if others dislike it. If Nick were politically more centrist and less of a “right-wing Mr. Potato Head” figure, he might have a larger following. But he stays true to himself and doesn’t lie or cheat like some other gurus such as 0 daygame lay Ice White, John Anthony, Tom Torero, or Michael Sartain do. He sticks to his guns, and I respect that. If you do too, you will enjoy this book.

    Overall Score: 6/10

    To buy Last Man Banging: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Last-Man-Banging-Nick-Krauser/dp/1916479464/ref=sr_1_1?crid=37CHJLHZD5252&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.i0hEQZ_ULON_bp9IGDlwUcgzkHlu8mv1nlDJMaQsJ4A.PRtHQwl4kgw6Zd74ht14t8UiAdMBlckR23TXjNXMJTY&dib_tag=se&keywords=nick+krauser+last+man+banging&qid=1778666950&sprefix=nick+krauser+last+man+ban%2Caps%2C462&sr=8-1

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  • Sasha Daygame- The Direct Daygame Bible (2015) Book Review

    Disclaimer: I am not a dating coach nor am I selling any dating products or services this blog is really for recreational usage to reflect on my previous experiences in daygame and to share my insight. For those who want to network in the future please email: jeremysergent361@gmail.com thanks – Article Written by Jeremy Sergent

    Sasha Daygame, aka Alex Lasarev, wrote The Direct Daygame Bible in 2015. A three-time speaker at the 21 Convention, host of the Direct Daygame Summit, and an early collaborator with James Marshall of The Natural Lifestyles, Alex Lasarev built a fairly profound legacy. He amassed millions of views on YouTube through his infields and content, gained over 100,000 subscribers, and mentored several other dating coaches, most notably Ryan Black. Sasha has done it all. He was also mentioned several times in Nick Krauser’s books as one of the key pioneers of the London Daygame model, while collaborating with many high-profile coaches, including Anthony Dream Johnson, James Marshall, Liam McRae, Yad, Alan Roger Currie, and Marcus Oakley.

    But where do Sasha’s weaknesses really lie?

    For starters, he is the quintessential “spiritual PUA.” In my experience, many PUAs who drift heavily into spirituality end up living somewhat odd lives. I’ve always seen spirituality, in this context, as a coping mechanism used to justify failures or move away from objective reality. Sasha is now in his forties, childless, and living what appears to be a fairly mundane life centred around spirituality and self-help rhetoric. Personally, I would not want that outcome for myself. This is also how Roosh V ended up when his pickup career ended- dedicating himself to God after a pretty successful pickup career.

    Sasha had a traumatic childhood and, before becoming a dating coach and getting into pickup, seemingly tried to impress ex-girlfriends by buying them extravagant gifts — including a sports car for a stripper ex-girlfriend. This lack of common sense is fairly common among people before they begin their PUA journey, but Sasha’s lows seem lower than most dating coaches’. He reportedly had an abusive, unloving mother and a childhood filled with bullying. We’ve heard similar stories from coaches such as John Anthony and James McLean, whose poor parental relationships seemingly inspired their move into dating coaching or their lack of “feminine love” from their childhood serving as motivation to get into pickup.

    Sasha also appears to lack some common sense in the way he dresses . Despite being a dating coach for nearly a decade, he remains poorly dressed, which I genuinely do not understand. How can you coach men on dating while presenting yourself that way in your forties? You are leading by example, and your example matters. Of course, Sasha prides himself on authenticity, but I personally don’t buy the argument. Dressing poorly does not make you authentic; it simply makes you look like a immature idiot and dressing like that in your mid forties is just tragic in my opinion. I can’t think of what’s worse Sasha Daygame’s man bun and ace of spades t-shirt combo or ice whites blue jeans , white shirt and ridiculously gay sunglasses.

    It’s interesting that, in reviews of Sasha’s comedy shows at the Edinburgh Festival Fringe, critics often mention his tendency toward incomplete stories and disorganised sketches. That same incompleteness and misdirection appear in the infield reports throughout this book. The writing feels half-finished and lacking in depth. There’s no detailed storytelling like you get in Balls Deep or A Natural History. Instead, the reports are sparse, cold, and even more detached than Tom Torero’s style.

    For someone so focused on spirituality and connection, Sasha strangely fails to go deep into his own experiences. He briefly mentions a few “inner game” thoughts and moves on, leaving little substance behind. It’s disappointing that someone with over a decade of dating experience would produce something that feels so underdeveloped. Nick Krauser was coaching for a similar length of time and he produced 7 books – Sasha can barely muster 100 pages crammed with testimonials – all in all a pretty weak effort.

    Sasha claims that “an ideal woman shouldn’t be materialistic.” The problem is that many women are materialistic to some degree, and that is part of human mating strategy. Money matters in dating because it provides safety, stability, and long-term security. Women from places like Eastern Europe and Asia often place strong value on status and financial stability. In China, for example, public dating markets often emphasise annual income over physical appearance.

    I dislike when dating coaches downplay the importance of money. Money is important to many people, and that is not inherently bad. Life is, to some extent, a class struggle, and financial success can make dating significantly easier and more comfortable. Sasha doesn’t seem to offer a particularly balanced perspective on female attraction or long-term relationship dynamics. If a young woman wants children, financial stability, and a secure future, why wouldn’t she prioritise money and status? It’s unrealistic to pretend these factors don’t matter or simply to call women prozis because they don’t have the same opinions on finances as sex deranged puas do.

    Sasha also says that “women are bored” and lack “value-givers.” To some extent, that may be true, but women in the West are absolutely flooded with options through apps like Tinder and platforms like Instagram. Most of my female friends in the developed world were not “bored” with dating; they were overwhelmed with choice. Ironically, Sasha later claims women are too busy, which somewhat contradicts his earlier point.

    His advice on curiosity and genuine interest, however, is genuinely strong. My current girlfriend once told me she agreed to date me because I was the first man who approached her while sincerely caring about what she had to say. On this point, I completely agree with Sasha. Connection matters deeply, and this idea has also been emphasised heavily in James Marshall’s teachings.

    Sasha’s advice for stopping women in direct daygame resembles Yad’s aggressive “stop right in front of her” approach. Personally, I think this can work on more confident or conservative women, particularly from places like Russia, where strong masculine intent may be respected. I’ve even been criticised before by a Lithuanian girl for being too “beta” in my approach, so I understand the logic. However, on shyer women, this style can easily become overwhelming.

    Sasha also advises readers not to become “routine monkeys,” and I largely agree. While routines can provide structure and guidance — especially for beginners — they can also come across as robotic and inauthentic. I’ve seen men achieve success through the London Daygame model, but I’ve also seen it make some people seem incapable of thinking for themselves copying the same lines “i just saw you and think you look nice” ” my mum warned me about French girls” its all the same shit being said by the same daygamers I even had one woman complain that I sent the same opening text as another daygamer who opened here. There is definitely a sense of unoriginality that comes with these models and sometimes that can really be blatant.

    Toward the end of the book, Sasha gives some genuinely good advice on different types of women and the strategies needed to attract them. He discusses religious women, shy women, and highly egotistical “Instagram model” types. I largely agree with his observations here, having personally struggled with religious women and highly status-conscious women myself.

    However, Sasha also argues that certain socities brainwashes women into believing sex is bad and these women can miss out on the fun connection they can get from sex I partly agree, but I also deeply respect women who choose to keep a low body count. From my own experiences, many highly promiscuous individuals — both men and women — often carry emotional baggage, unresolved trauma, or poor parental relationships. One woman I slept with through daygame openly admitted her sexual impulsiveness stemmed from her strained relationship with her father during her childhood- she was raised with her grandparents and thus had no father figure around this lead her to go on a huge cock searching rampage and made it impossible to start a proper relationship with her because she was so addicted to sex.

    This is one of my criticisms of Sasha and other coaches like Liam McRae and James Marshall: they sometimes seem too dismissive of the emotional and psychological consequences sex can have on people. Sex is not meaningless for everyone, and pretending otherwise oversimplifies reality.

    Over time, I came to realise that different women want different things, and that’s perfectly fine. Some women are conservative, religious, or cautious about sex, and there is nothing wrong with that. One of the hardest parts of daygame is accepting that you will never align with every woman’s worldview on sex and relationships. Many men on PUA forums obsess over rejection scenarios they cannot control — such as a girl being religious — instead of simply moving on and meeting new women.

    Sasha also criticises the PUA industry itself, arguing that many coaches are essentially charlatans who have little real experience approaching women. On that point, I agree. Much of the industry is simply recycled marketing with little action. Look at Ice White for example he’s a dating coach who’s approached 0 girls in real life – something Sasha points to in this book a lot of people selling you coaching have in fact done 0 approaches themselves

    Unfortunately, Sasha lacks the storytelling ability to make this a truly riveting book. He lacks the emotional depth of Nick Krauser in Balls Deep or James Marshall in A Natural History. He brushes over his traumatic childhood in just a few sentences and barely explores any of his interactions or relationships in meaningful detail. There are no detailed lay reports, and nearly half the book consists of testimonials praising Sasha, making the project feel more like a marketing tool than a genuine seduction journal.

    A lot of the material also feels recycled from Sasha’s free convention speeches and YouTube content. Unlike books by Tom Torero, Nick Krauser, or James Marshall, which contain substantial original material, this often feels like transcribed 21 convention content content with only minor additions.

    Sasha could have written extensively about his daygame experiences abroad in places like New York City, Miami, South America, Eastern Europe, and London, but very few stories are included I mean the stories themselves are literally only a quarter of one page. The overall result feels rushed and lethargic, especially with the constant testimonial pages interrupting the flow.

    Sasha also writes in a surprisingly immature tone. While that may simply be his personality, I personally believe seduction, relationships, and sexuality are serious topics that deserve more maturity and nuance.

    That said, Sasha does make some valuable points about burnout and the downsides of excessive pickup. Burnout is absolutely real. However, success in dating also requires persistence and volume. You need to approach many people, reflect on your experiences, and maintain your mental health throughout the process. It took me around eight months to achieve my first successful daygame result, along with countless awkward dates, flakes, and rejections. Dating women from very different cultural backgrounds forced me to confront weaknesses in myself that nightgame, online dating, and social circle game never revealed. Experience is invaluable so make sure you spend your precious life getting as much of it as you can.

    At the same time, consistency matters. Most men quit because they cannot handle rejection or because their egos are too fragile. If you continue approaching consistently while maintaining self-awareness, progress usually comes eventually. I’d zoned out a lot in my daygame adventure – being too passive and not approaching enough at certain points i fell into a plateau which is normal but having the mental strength to break out of it is important to. If you’re a low smv individual relative to the people around you you’re going to have to approach a lot more than someone who’s high smv- pretty basic thinking but it’s the truth

    Overall, Sasha falls short of providing the detailed storytelling and nuanced insight needed to elevate this book beyond a mid-tier self-help guide. The lack of situation-specific examples — something writers like Tom Torero and Nick Krauser excel at — leaves the reader wanting more.

    If I had to recommend books to beginners, I would personally choose Nick Krauser, Liam McRae, or James Marshall over Sasha. In my opinion, Sasha lacks the maturity, balance, and depth needed to truly stand at the top of the genre.

    That said, complete beginners will still gain useful insights from this book. The biggest disappointment is the lack of detailed field stories despite Sasha’s extensive experience travelling and doing daygame around the world.

    Overall score: 5/10

    To find out more about Sasha Daygame:
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