Mindful Masculinity

Disclaimer: Im not a coach and don’t offer any coaching/mentoring services but for those looking to Network and live in any of the 4 cities I live in : London, San Fransisco , Dubai or Nice (France) feel free to email me at: darrenpua1@gmail.com please no podcast requests or YouTube media.

For young people entering the sexual market place improving SMV is a tough task even at the best of times that’s why I wrote this guide to how to improve men’s sexual market place value so that men can improve their results. One glaring problem when I started out was my lack of life experience really showed as I had nothing to talk about . I was literally one of the most boring human beings on the planet at the time, why was this? Partly because I didn’t value education , self development and nutrition but also because I simply didn’t make any active effort to show maturity in my life. Something that in hyper competitive environments like London is pretty much a necessity if you want to move up in the brutal sexual market place here. You need to have some personality, you need to be dynamic to a degree because interacting with women around the world some races will require more than negs to hook. 

The important thing to note is all these things do TAKE Time and lots of it. They will drain you of your mental energy- but will be worth it in the long term. Staying committed to these ideas over months and years can really enhance your day-game but will take time to implement.

• Learn a language- When I started my day-game journey I found interacting with non English speaking girls pretty tricky so I adapted to the situation by learning difficult languages- I hired a coach- someone to teach me Chinese which is pretty easy to do now from Italki or Superprof , from then on after speaking fluent Chinese it made interactions more interesting as Chinese speaking women would open to me more and it created more trust in interactions. As I analysed during my time working in sales the best sales people are usually polyglots. From learning Chinese my confidence grew to learning Cantonese, Japanese and Korean – so from the time of writing I have learnt 4 languages in the space of 2 years and plan to learn a further 6 as a long term goal. It enabled me to have deeper interactions and showed my maturity early on in interactions and instantly separated me from a dumbass Oxford Street Pua. Of course it takes time, but anything that has significance in improving your sexual market value will of course take time. Its just inevitable like most things on this list aside from fashion.  Learning languages also made my time on the streets more productive as I got to improve my language skills whilst picking up girls which all in all made it a better use of my time. 
• Get better Wingmen- As I wrote in my previous daygame guides wingmen will help foster more trust as long as those wingmen are of high value to you and articulate themselves well in interactions. Most guys think they can go through this process on their own and yes you can get results this way but in terms of building a social circle and achieving something of importance good wingmen are a necessity . Having good wingmen will reduce flakes, build trust, reduce your workload etc. There are endless benefits.  This perhaps takes the longest out of all the methods I’ve shown. Finding reliable people takes a tonne of time but will save you on your mental energy . I’ve found wingmen extremely helpful in terms of my motivation and in creating a social circle that women can enjoy . Too many day gamers start off thinking they can do it all by themselves and this can lead to huge burn outs from trying too hard. Believe me its better when you’re with a tribe and people who have common interests to you. Being in good social circles also improves your SMV – remember really and truly no woman wants to be with a lone wolf man.  
• Be prepared for all forms of Social Media for the race/ethnicity of girls that you like to hook up with. Build a strong social media profile on all the various major platforms , have great pictures and continuously  market yourself to the best you can be. I wrote on my social media guide how important this is and I continue to stress it. Its literally a vital necessity in todays world and you should act – For example if you’re into middle eastern women snapchat is a very popular social media app in a lot of these countries so having a snapchat may help you to build rapport . If you’re into Chinese/Taiwanese/Chinese Malays having a good WeChat profile can help. If you’re into Koreans then K-talk can be seen a necessity . Of course for most women instagram is the best and most popular strategy as it’s by far most popular app around and always make sure you have a strong Facebook too. Not having good social media may mean that closing will become a bit trickier as most women will prefer to give their socials away rather than their personal phone numbers. 
• Be more mindful in interactions. This may seem bizarre thing to write on the face of it but being more mindful and practicing mindfulness can help your vibe which in-turn over the course of several 100 daygame interactions should improve your results. Of course learning proper mediation is a skillset which will indeed take time but having a daily meditation practice will over time to make you have more meaningful daytime interactions. 
• Read or at least consistently listen to Audio Books. Again its not hard, try as best as you can be to not be one dimensional the more shit you know the easier it will be to hook women from different races and create some sort of interesting and impactful conversation. Its not hard or expensive to do this, audible has audio books that can be purchased in bundle for £18 for 3 , listening to these consistently is just an easy way to make you more dynamic without needing to work hard. Again target topics of the women you’re into, into fitness? Read as many varying viewpoints of health and nutrition as you can. Love women who are into politics and history? Try and broaden your horizons by listening to different history books. This may look weird to suggest but to hook and have longer more impactful sets increasing your general knowledge can help . An issue with alot of younger guys starting off in daygame is they don’t have enough life experience and run out of things to say. That being said you don’t want your interactions to stray too deep into a women’s interests – be sure to keep the conversations sexual to a degree or you’ll risk being friend zoned
• Gain Muscle – Lose body fat- Im a pretty scrawny dude but I try and hit the gym as much as possible – its one of my sticking points so I don’t think I should really be giving people advice on this but I will nonetheless. More muscle will help garner respect and will simply make you more attractive. You want to make the best impact in interactions looking your best and fittest self is vital this along with good dress is probably one of the easiest things to fix. 
• Travel Lots- Travel Often, go to countries that scare you , don’t just do predictable shit like getting drunk in Magaluf do some meaningful travel and take risks in places other people don’t normally go to. This will make you a lot more interesting and dynamic.  I spent alot of time traveling to countries that were against the norm, like Tajikistan, Saudi Arabia, Uzbekistan, Kazakstan. This made dates a lot more interesting as I was able to hook girls from showing exciting unique pictures from these places and showed I wasn’t just some average British chode who spent his summers getting drunk in Ibiza.  This will make you more interesting , make your dates more interesting in terms of conversation and make your emotional impact higher. You will find also that places people don’t usually go to are actually usually alot cheaper than the traditional British shitholes anyway. 
• Have a type? Then plan accordingly so that your interactions with set type of women go better. If youre into Chinese girls for example start taking Chinese lessons so you can hook them better in interactions and win trust quicker. If you’re into Arabic girls for example – travel to a Middle Eastern country , read history books of said country who’s women youre into. Its not that hard even, two audio books a month for a year and you’re going to have enough conversation points to at least hook most girls. Again if you’re young under the age of 25 you really should invest some serious time reading and listening to audio books. Especially if you’re reading this and you’re below age 21 Id actually spend serious time reading 20-30 books on history  , politics, health   etc. before you hit the streets , a common problem in young people is not enough subjects to talk about.  Nick Krausser for example read a lot of eastern european history books before his daygaming around Russia. The world is increasingly globalised and you’ll need to prepare for this adequately a lot of girls tend to open up more when you talk about subjects , hobbies and interests that interest them and you need to prepare for this. 
• Improve your dress. Probably the quickest way to improve your sexual market value is to improve your dress sense. Dating a girl who’d worked as a stylist really helped me in this regard . But make sure you spend at least some time getting 1-3 decent outfits. Poor dress can lead to blow outs and lower your chances with “maybe girls” so make sure you’re investing some time into bettering this. Make sure you choose an outfit that can show off your physical shape in the best way possible. 
• Sort out your mental problems in life- again this a broad general statement that’s somewhat vague advice at best but if you have mental blocks that are being caused by outside influences make sure you address them first before doing day-game interactions. If you underlying depression, or worries that need to be addressed first make sure you do something about them so your vibe won’t be dead during the interactions. Of course sometimes people can use “other problems” in their life as a barrier to taking proactive action and doing actually street approaches . So make sure you’re honest with yourself . If underlying worries or issues really are affecting your social interactions or not.