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Article Written by – Jeremy Sergent
Whether you love or hate him Nick Krauser’s influence on the PUA scene has been undoubtedly huge, one of the London daygame model originals along with the likes of Tom Torero and Yad and a prominent hard working disciplined PUA enthusiast there are few individuals who have shown more work ethic and dedication to the craft than that of Krauser who overcame his divorce at aged 35 to enter the PUA sphere, following the end of his 8 year marriage. This in itself is impressive for him to pick himself up and dedicate himself – entering the craft quite late relative to others in the space the likes of Tom Torero , James Marshall, Sasha Dayame and Liam Mcrae to name a few who started in their 20s. But being an average looking guy in his mid thirties and starting relatively late just again proves that age isn’t really an issue for those looking to enter daygame. Far too often on PUA forums you see the excuse being “ im too old to start” “ I’m too old to do this , that etc. “women wouldn’t like me” but in this book at age 35 Nick Successfully courts a 17 year old and a 22 year old early on – proving without a doubt that age is just a number and that “Old men” can do well and flourish despite the stereotypes that can potentially surround them .
The range of experiences in this book from Libyans, Thais, French , Lithuanians , Romanians ,Japanese , Nigerians, black British vixens and Uzbek shows Krauser’s adaptability- he’s proven his daygame is capable of getting any sort of race of woman that he desires , even taking a Libyan woman’s anal virginity at one stage . In essence this success proves that “race of a woman” is just a limiting belief and that truly anything is possible in daygame with the right attitude and persistence.
What I liked about this book was that he includes the near misses, the blow outs – the defeats as well the victories. Often times pua biographies can turn into circle jerking and lead to people having unrealistic expectations of what it entails. This often causes people who follow said gurus being burnt out quickly and being left easily frustrated. Being realistic and honest are Krauser’s two most attractive traits as a coach imo. He doesn’t shit talk , or blag about a system that works 100 percent of time or post hooker lays like John Anthony or pretends to be good without having 0 daygame experience like Alex Ice White does. Instead he is conveys his shit dates with honesty as well as his wings. If only the community were more like him and not a bunch of circle jerks with shitty marketing .
This is not just a book of a mid aged ban bragging about his successes there are definitely layers to everything he does which I think its appropriate to those starting out to get a realistic vision of what pua is like rather than diving head first into gloating about lays. In fact the first several chapters of this book are just about blow outs and crap dates- and for me this exactly how my daygame journey started out – a lot of crap dates and a lot of blow out with not much to show for it. But the progression is there from someone too socially anxious to approach on the street to getting dates with attractive women is still progress nonetheless (a lot of people would disagree but f’ck em)
Then again the beginners hell is mentally tough for anyone starting out and I think Nick does a good job of portraying the difficulties he and many others can face during the start- bad dates, nervous escalation , shitty wingmen, approach anxiety, unreceptive women can all be issues for those starting out. Nevertheless Nick goes through and gains his first girlfriend rotation of a 22 year old Thai woman successfully , he also manages to garner a same day lay in a toilet, has a Russian Uzbek Model successfully lust for him as well as near misses with similar high end girls. There are a range of situations here and Nick develops and tells the stories well in a realistic and observant manner.
There are occasional political rants by Nick during this book – whether you’ll enjoy these really is subjective – one could argue they lean the subject away from dating and approaching . His personal political concerns are echoed throughout the book – if you lean on the right you’ll enjoy them – If you lean on the left you could get annoyed by his consistent political ramblings – but there is even an instance in the book where they appear to help him when he utters right wing rants to a Turkish woman and this helps him build big rapport with her (even as someone who leans on the right I’d never do this on a date so early on but kudos to it working out for him)
Before PUA Nick was not much of a ladies man with 3 lays at university before marrying a Japanese woman – hardly not disastrous compared to the national average outside of PUA – better than what I did at uni ( 1 lay only with no LTR, girlfriend or marriage to show for it) He’s a high SMVed individual- intelligent enough to garner a 6 figure salary, a model uni student, well traveled individual having spent a few years in Okinawa Japan, fluent in Japanese, English and Newcastlish and a amateur boxer – he certainly has talents, interests and has decent history/politics knowledge he’s no stunner but he makes up for it in other ways- one thing I would reiterate to those starting out you need some smv- some interests , some hobbies and something about yourself that’s good- you don’t have to be king of the world but you gotta have something going for you to hook people . He certainly comes into this with less success than that of a James Marshall or a Paul Janka – but probably is a more well versed individual that the majority Ive met during my time doing daygame. He’s also a distinctly relatable character – as someone growing up in England he seems like the average Joe bloke which I think makes him a good coach to look up to. He’s not a handsome James Marshall/Liam Mcrae or Paul Janka but he’s no fad ass Yad either.
Indeed other famous couches do make an appearance here most notably Yad who’s well praised for his good vibe despite being a fat ass – he credits Yad to helping him aid through his issues of divorce as well as another pro coach whom he took advice for regarding his “inner game” some of the conclusions aren’t quite clear but are interesting none the less. The mental battle of dealing with divorce is a difficult one – indeed men have much higher suicide rates post divorce than that of women – so the damage it can do to ones moral is not to be taken lightly- in 2019 in Tom Torero’s last London meet-up I met several day gamers who were recovering from divorces- despite their high smv and interesting lifestyles they certainly looked beaten and I applaud them for fending off their egos and diving into the world of pickup to help fight it off- to bounce back from a relationship or marriage is mentally arduous and a lot of men never recover from the mental/financial blow of a divorce – break ups can be physically gruelling too and not all men have that ability to get out of the rut that ensues – Nick references his divorce throughout the book stating it can take up to three years for a man to recover from one which i most definitely agree with. Getting through failures takes a lot of time energy and persistence and its fine for it to do so as long as you’re working hard and putting yourself back out there.
There are interesting events in this book in regards to pua trips abroad including -a trip to Lithuania and Croatia- Nick notes the cultural differences as well as the huge improvement in quality that he was able to see in Eastern Europe- sorta the cliche London day gamers path to have success in the UK then go Eastern Europe where the women are hotter and your smv is instantly deemed more impressive just by being foreign. He enjoys successes here – he also successfully gets a hot woman to cheat on his boyfriend which morally I wouldn’t agree with but each to his own. He describes the plight of women in Eastern Europe which aside from their looks and charisma can be very tough .
Nick describes emotions well – he goes into his issues quite deeply in a vulnerable way which I think offers good guidance to those looking to make a change in their life and date better women through daygame. He also highlights how competitive London is which I agree- despite daygame successes here I nearly always had a better approach to lay ratio abroad in other countries – feeling like I was being treated better whenever I’ve gamed abroad- indeed his results in Lithuania were impressive but still even in the tough environment of London Nick fucks an ex multimillionaires’ girlfriend in an Uzbek model which is very impressive given the competitive atmosphere of London.
All in all Balls deep is an intriguing autobiography of Krauser’s beginnings, I think this book is good for beginners, intermediates as well as advanced individuals. The book has an element of balance which other pua books lack , the beginner struggle is definitely the most important part in my opinion way too many new people give up too quickly once the first dozen or so blow outs come in they get to disheartened and quit before they can build up enough positive reference experiences and realise that daygame is most definitely worth the time and perseverance . Krauser does a good job of processing emotions even during the daygame highs by documenting in depth about the slumps , the bad blow outs and the shit dates is even more important than the lays because the majority of pickup is the former – any coach that’s pitching a different idea is just pitching you something that isn’t the truth .
If there’s one thing to be gleaned from Krauser is that he has a lot of self determination something which I really don’t see when people begin pickup. I’ve never personally dealt with the mental burden of a divorce but seeing the damage it did to my brother and others in the pua community who are starting out I can imagine it being a way tougher mental hurdle to deal with than I’ve ever had to. To also start in his mid 30’s at an age in which many have calcified is also equally as impressive – I know many who use their age as a reason not to approach which I always found odd as the older I got the easier sets were to hook due to my increased life experience . It was actually in my early 20s where I really struggled to create entertaining conversation and found that a lot of women simply didn’t respect me due to my lack of maturity and lack of life experiences which I think is vitally important to being good at pickup , hooking sets and being a dynamic and interesting person overall.
Conclusions
Overall if you’re starting out and need motivation this is genuinely a good book to read. I’d put this up there with my third favourite pickup book of all time behind James Marshall’s A Natural history and Liam Mcrae’s Rapid Escalation -Krauser is a good intelligent story teller and a teacher whom I think can motivate many to improve their dating life I think Ball’s Deep is good evidence of his honesty and integrity as well as his ability as a seduction coach
For Coaching Info from Nick Krauser visit : https://krauserpua.com/
Overall Score 9/10
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