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Disclaimer: I am not a dating coach nor am I selling any dating products or services this blog is really for recreational usage to reflect on my previous experiences in daygame and to share my insight. For those wondering I am based in London/Nice/San Fransisco so for those who want to network in the future please email darrenpua1@gmail.com thanks

Ross Jeffries: 

I mean I just don’t really understand him . I don’t get the appeal with a fat childless  65 year old with a belly going out there and doing daygame . It’s hard to tell what his real success is or whether he just wrote a book at the right time before day game’s big “ bull run explosion” I don’t get him using seductive terminology to game girls- like “long and thick” to emphasise describing a cock (something he talked about in a interview with John Antony last year) . I wouldn’t be able to pull this shit off without looking like a complete muppet. Im not sold – and his lack of ltr now at aged 65 somewhat showing  .  But having said this – he did accumulate like $500,000 from selling daygame books, he has some good economic and political insight in interviews – he strikes me as an intelligent person HOWEVER I just think his content is half assed and not really applicable to low smv individuals personally which is ironically because physically he himself looks like a low smv individual . I just see him as unnecessary and anyone who’s done daygame for a substantial period of time would see through his bullshit- it’s no wonder Alex Ice White is his biggest admirer who himself has done no daygame – had Ice done actual daygame he’d probably see through the bullshit on offer too. 

Maybe Ross was a pioneer in the ‘smoke and mirrors” daygame and I put him in the same box as Alex Ice White in that – I have no clue how these people get laid nor do they have any infield to back up their supposed content.  It’s hard to see how good these guys are given they are physically frail- often poorly dressed and in Ross’ case are not currently in a relationship. That being said he’s still a 21 convention speaker, has sold a tonne of books and must’ve had some success with women? Even though beyond the marketing photos I really don’t know the proof. The infield in the Louis Theroux documentary looks staged to me so I really can’t come to firm conclusions as to whether this guy is bullshit or not. I know James Marshall talked about how Ross Jefferies is a creep – the only one who endorses Ross nowadays is Alex Ice White who himself has 0 daygame lays- if Alex Ice White had a daygame lay he would most likely be able to realise Ross’ NLP bs in the interviews. 

Ross makes an interesting point in his interview with Ice though about how 20 percent or so of his clients in the dating sphere have some form of Asperger’s and where beyond help- having myself had a brother with Asperger’s I understand that it can be borderline impossible to help these people with dating- I know not everyone can succeed and move up the sexual marketplace- most can but not all some have geographical disadvantages , genetic hindrances , neurodevelopment disorders, financial or physical deficiencies that can’t be fixed. (most of these issues can for most people though I believe)  

My Verdict: I mean considering the money he made – a success , he’s still single and childless now so some might see that as a failure . He’s a controversial figure – I can’t quite figure him out myself so I will leave it to you. His interviews have a couple of gems here and there- but his NLP techniques are a lot of world salad which I would personally never incorporate in my game. 

Alan Roger Currie

This was simply a sad ending from someone whose information didn’t really resonate with me- but I appreciate the success and impact he had. I had an issue with being super direct like he was and would not really be able recreate the level of “directness” he would seemingly impose like telling a woman instantly i’d want to fuck them I think that sort of strategy is too over the top and can lead to more blowouts rather – having said this him dying on 28th November 2022 aged 59 years was a big disappointment and leaving his 2 year old and wife without a father figure- that’s a big kick in the balls. Despite the “alpha”  and encouraging people to be proactive about their problems in life he had a weight problem which he wasn’t proactive enough about seemingly. This sounds harsh but I’m being direct in this instance? When the leaders of this space are telling us to be proactive about things that they themselves are not proactive about it becomes a difficult situation to properly asses . Again similar to Tom Torero and Johnny Berba he had a philosophy of not making excuses and being proactive about solving our problems yet it was his weight problem that Alan seemingly didn’t take the “alpha action for” that eventually proved to be the end of him.

Him choosing to have a kid so late is also problematic – at 57 with a weight problem only to seemingly die from it at 59. For such a leader in the PUA space with over 200 lays his life had seemingly horrible end and could be seen as a negative of the playboy lifestyle and the problems that said lifestyle could potentially induce.  If he’d stopped the game earlier on- maybe dealt with his health issues head on maybe he’d still be here now with a loving family. By choosing to have a child so late on in his life his health fucked up and now this kid is without a father. I don’t know how many dating coaches actually have gone on the be good parents with the exemption of maybe Paul Janka . Maybe the sex addiction they have fucks them up mentally so they can not commit to building a nuclear family . It certainly feels that way when I analyse James Marshall’s life- and a lot of dating coaches come from a history of divorce prior to dating becoming dating coaches and seemingly then never want to give marriage or family a go . Such as the examples of Marshall and Torero who seemingly never committed to getting married again after their divorce.

My Verdict: The fact that he died leaving a 2 year old without a father figure is just a tragedy. Yes his book Mode One had an undoubtable global impact but I just can’t view him as a success in my eyes.

Tony Solo From The Natural Lifestyles :

Again another guy that appeared to be strange egg. Whilst I admired his discipline during his time in the natural lifestyles there was something very off about him when he started stripping off naked in natural lifestyles videos coaching videos and ranting excessively then deleting his own YouTube channel (which he is now deleted) . The fact that he’s happily married now is at least a positive… At least someone has come out with a sustainable LTR the same can’t be said for others. 

He had good fitness, dress and seemed to connect well with women in the infield that I watched of him. I could see why James hired him as a coach and he had an enormous work ethic on the field.

My Verdict: A success – I mean he escaped media ridicule – got money from coaching and married to a beautiful girl and is now doing his own thing (which I don’t know what that is )  He had a positive impact on me but I preferred Liam , Alex Leon and James a lot more. 

Alex León From The Natural Lifestyles: 

I think he’s an impressive individual – all be it he gets a fair chunk of hate on instagram and the skilled seducer forums- and he does market some trash from time to time like saying “money is only 2 percent of attract BRO” (which I don’t believe in as money is fundamentally an important part of attraction) .   Despite the marketing bullshit and fake instagram following (he has less than 30 likes on some of his photos despite having 8k followers )

he was a great replacement for Liam McRae in my eyes and someone who clearly has good social circle building skills ( a lot better than mine will ever be ) I gotta laud the guy- he has an attractive girlfriend (at the time of writing this though she’s not my type) , he’s got great social media game although a bit excessive in terms of pictures with girls.  Now he’s playing it a bit riskier with YouTube clickbait  content like “ watch me rizz up a virgin Arab” I think he’s doing this in a half baked attempt to go viral I just hope it doesn’t end up back firing on him in a way he will end up regret. 

He appears genuinely good at social circle game- often having photos with people who have millions of followers , pictured on private jets and has clear social leverage which is impressive. He certainly has built the “lifestyle design” element of PUA well something which coaches like Tom Torero ,Sasha Daygame, Yad and Nick Krauser miss the point of IMO when they coach. He also is a social media expert and imo a great example for how to utilise social media to its full effect

My Verdict: Definitely the strongest coach when it comes to social media and daygame in the modern dating world. He’s adaptable although sometimes can seem like a copy/ clone of Liam Mcrae (heck they even look the same at times) . All in all though I believe he’s the biggest asset of TNL now.

Ryan Black – Formally of Sasha’s Dating Systems: 

Sasha Daygame’s once right hand man now turned dating coach and quasi marketing guru .  It’s hard to take his social media posts seriously though. He seemingly has good results though has been accused from other coaches about lying about his results especially from Nick Krauser in his blog here:  https://theredarchive.com/blog/Krauser-PUA/i-spoke-at-the-21convention.27023

My Verdict: I mean he seems rich, has a great body and girlfriend all round seems to have benefited greatly from being a daygame coach – whether he’s 100 percent truthful about his back story seems to be in questionable though – he comes across as a self help sort of gimmicky marketer so I really don’t believe he had a harem of model women all over him back in the early 2010s.