Mindful Masculinity

Disclaimer: I am not a dating coach nor am I selling any dating products – this is simply a blog recording my personal experiences in these countries. Im often based in London/Nice/ San Fransisco so if you live in these places feel free to hit me up: darrenpua1@gmail.com

Important preparation before your trip: 

• Have an instagram and WhatsApp ready for closing women in Hong Kong and Macau. Make sure you have great photos on both of these- for more information on maximising your social media check out my social media guide: The majority of Hong Kongers tend to use Instagram  more than WeChat . 
• For mainland China and for  mainlander women in Macau and Hong Kong make sure you have a good WeChat profile with good photos . This is the preferred social media profile for most mainland Chinese women – a lot of them won’t have instagram or WhatsApp so make sure you adapt to your surroundings and prepare a good profile.  WeChat ids can be easily scanned making it quick and convenient way to get closes. 
• Download the app “Didi” for mainland China – this app is great to use for bouncing from location to location and offers cheap taxis relative to the UK prices of Uber. It can be essential to avoid wasting time going to daygame locations 
• Learn Chinese- obviously this isn’t plausible for most people reading this but understand something that caused a lot of blowouts and flakes was my lack of communication. Speaking the language of the women you’re attracted to will bring down blow outs significantly and not every girl you approach in China is going to speak good English. A decent grasp of Chinese is going to win you a lot more time to build rapport granted as I said before not everyone can do this but it is most definitely  be the most impactful thing if you want to genuinely improve your dating results . I went to China when I could not speak Chinese – now that I can I probably would face less blow outs on average and would probably be able to have more in depth sets and build more rapport. 

Advantages of Gaming In Mainland China : 

• Huge population and huge footflow in almost all major cities. Gives you a good chance of meeting a variety of women. 
• Low competition in terms of Chinese men- Chinese men are usually of low economic status due to the huge inequality in the country meaning as a Westerner there’s huge opportunity for you daygame wise. Also height and physique wise they are often lacking in that department as well compared to western men.  They are also relatively low confidence in comparison to men in the West so this is a very easy playing field to dominate if you work hard and approach consistently . 
• Taxis are very cheap- using the didi app makes it easier to bounce from place to place very easily and allows you to lead dates well  . 
• Dense population – high population density unlike most cities in the US there is a lot of opportunity here to approach a large amount of people in a small amount of time. This means you avoid seeing the same women repeatedly and allows for much more opportunities . Even the cities outside the major ones of Guangzhou, Shanghai and Beijing still have great footflow and population density. Not many Asian countries can boast this advantage as much as China can. 
• Cheaper to date- drinks ,food prices on average are much cheaper than the UK. 
• SMV requirements on average are lower than London. I found it much easier to date here than in my home town of London and found the women to be considerably less picky. 
• Day hotels are cheap- in Shanghai was able to find a decent day hotel for around £20 – if you’re on a strict budget you can daygame from hostel and just use a day hotel to get the lay done. Most major cities in china have a wide selection of day hotels (where you can rent a room for around 4 hours or so) which makes getting laid pretty easier and cheaper  in comparison to a lot of Western Countries. 

What to do in the Mainland: 

I’ve done daygame in the following cities in China : Chengdu, Chongqing , Guangzhou, Shanghai Nanjing , Suzhou, Guilin and Hangzhou. The main rules I follow: 

• Whatever major city you’re in find the most popular mall -that is what  usually brings it a large amount of foot flow. 
• Unlike in the UK the best quality women I found were in the high end hotel lobbies. For example when I was in Shanghai I gamed a lot at the intercontinental hotel . Simply put there were a lot of attractive women that went there and I found this to be a trend with almost all the high end hotels in Shanghai – there was a decent inflow of consistent hot women in contrast to London where the high end hotels would usually be empty.  
• Poorer cities are the trickier ones to game in as less women know English. This is pretty much a solid rule to follow when gaming in a foreign country- go to the richer cities – luckily with China there’s been a huge amount of economic growth in a lot of these cities which has resulted in a massive improvement of English education . Still the major cities of China the likes of Shanghai, Guangzhou and Beijing should provide the largest quality of English speakers and thus less “blow outs” so to speak.  However other cities like Chengdu ,Chongqing still have amazing foot flow and a decent quantity of people that speak English . The major issue is the small/ poor cities  for example Guilin where finding an English speaker was genuinely tough and a lot of interactions seemed to lead no where. 

Favourite Date Spots in China: 

On a budget: 

Chengdu/Chongqing – still have a vibrant student area in Chengdu with Sichuan university and a host of good nightlife. For daygaming there are tonnes of large malls and accommodation in both cities is relatively cheap coming to around 25 dollars a night sometimes less. 

More Pricey: 

Shanghai/Guangzhou – These were two of my favourite spots once again to the high foot flow but hotel rooms here are considerably more expensive averaging between 50-60 dollars a night for a decent hotel. Although the foot flow makes it worth it. There are also a decent crop of international tourists if Chinese women aren’t your thing but for most cities in China the major ethnicity will be Han Chinese. 

Good Daygame Spots : Shanghai: 

Intercontinental Hotel Pudong- 

K-11 Art Mall (these are located in Hong Kong,Guangzhou and in Shanghai and they are a really good place to take women for coffee dates as well as good for approaching women)

For Dates: 

https://www.tripadvisor.co.uk/Restaurant_Review-g308272-d9974973-Reviews-Qimin_Organic_Hotpot_Marketplace_Reel-Shanghai.html  – good place for a second date if you’re looking for a good food date- most first dates I just recommend the K11 Art Mall Shanghai- it’s packed full of coffee shops and is really all you need to enjoy yourself. 

https://www.ihg.com/intercontinental/hotels/gb/en/shanghai/shgha/hoteldetail you don’t really need to even stay here to game here . But the foot flow is very decent. It’s best to game around most high end hotels in China as the quality is usually very high here. 

Chongqing: 

Hongya Cave this is literally the most packed part of Chongqing and constantly has footflow all the time. Very worth it for anyone who wants to take his daygame seriously in China. The footflow is consistent and the quality is good. Not too far from Chengdu too by train. (Like 2-3 hours or so) 

Chengdu: 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sichuan_University Sichuan university campus is the largest university in Chengdu and has great foot flow . 

New Century Global Centre: One of the largest malls in the world 

Guangzhou: 

G.T Land Plaza 

Victory Plaza 

K11 Art Mall 

Macau: 

Macau is an easier place to ride a guide about – the route is simple just go to the main casino area to game – that’s about 90 percent of the foot flow.  The rest of the area I have no clue but a lot of the beaches came across as empty areas when I went in 2019 the tourist  The Venetian Macao has a huge inflow of  mainly Chinese tourists and really is a never ending area of options in regards to game .The historic centre of Macau and Senado square are also good daygame spots.  Since I visited in 2019 a lot of businesses have gone bust due to the excessive covid lockdowns so what I write may not necessarily be relevant to anyone doing daygame in 2024.  

There are drawbacks to Macau mainly the fact that the hotels are considerably expensive in comparison to mainland China  but overall its a wonderful place to do daygame in full of quick eats and coffee shops – 

Night-game in Macau is quite competitive with a lot of prostitutes coming in from Cambodia, Philippines and Indonesia so be careful if you see women eying you up in clubs they could well be  sex workers rather than legitimate women interested in you. Over all I had no success during my one  night game session in Macau mainly because no woman was interested in me and the majority of women in the club were just prostitutes to begin with .

Hong Kong – Hong Kong has one main considerable advantage over Mainland China in that the the about of English speakers per square mile is considerably higher than almost any China city. It also has a lot of expats and people of European origin if gaming Europeans isn’t exactly your thing.  The caveat? It’s a small city relative to the ones in Mainland China and you could find yourself running into the same women pretty quickly- for those who live in Hong Kong an hour train ride into Shenzen or Guangzhou is recommended just to have the opportunity to access more footfall- and on average more demanding women  

Areas to Date around Hong Kong: 

Ozone – The Ritz Carlton Hong Kong – Great bar/fantastic views

Daygame Areas- 

K-11 Art Mall – again like the other K11s in Shanghai and Guangzhou this mall is usually packed and has a lot of decent foot flow most days

Warning for online dating in Hong Kong there are a lot of trannies on the apps so be extra careful if that isn’t your thing. 

My Experiences dating in China/Hong Kong Macau – 

Culturally I found things different from China and Hong Kong – I know these nations are seen as “the same “ but culturally I found Hong Kongers a fair bit more conservative and not that keen on just hooking up. Having dated Hong Kongers in London I found it tricky to seduce them compared to mainlanders who seemed to be less worried about being “slut shamed” so to speak. Still it was an interesting experience nonetheless gaming in Hong Kong the city is small and its easy to get around and open up conversations. I dated one very sweet girl who even paid for my meal before my flight back home but upon taking her to my apartment she wouldn’t come in at the door. It was unfortunate but you get these sorta  misses in daygame.  ( Bear in mind I was in Hong Kong only 3 days so again I couldn’t give  a big enough volume of sets to draw a conclusion by contrast I was in mainland China for around 3 weeks ) 

Macau was interesting but I was only there for 1 day so not enough time to convert the numbers I obtained , but the women were sweet . One asked for a photo with me after I gave her a compliment and she asked for my WeChat too and even posted a photo of us on WeChat. The foot flow was good and consistent but again I needed more time than one day and can’t really analyse things based off one day of game you need minimum 7-10 days in a city in order to get a good grasp of the situation. One good thing about Macau is a lot of Chinese tourists will often come for the weekend and short stays so if you’re living there you don’t have to worry about the footflow drying up. 

Mainland China is obviously huge and the cities are massive and are very developed . It was one of the few countries where  we got actual attention from women approaching us – albeit very seldom but still this never happened to me in Europe or America at all so it was a nice feeling. In Shanghai I was able to accumulate a good amount of dates in a short period of time purely from daygame around 6 in two weeks much higher than my London average of one every two weeks. My productivity from daygame in China was roughly 300-400 percent higher on average than London. I definitely felt a lot more appreciated there and the dates were a lot easier to manage. I’d say my one regret was not making more effort to pay for and look after the women I was dating. I should’ve been a little bit more generous to the women I was dating there – nonetheless they were affectionate   and a lot kinder than London women on average . You still need to make the effort to approach, you still need conversation skills , you still need to look after your appearance – all these are important factors towards dating and just because you have an SMV advantage in a certain city you still to make action.  Women will still flake and dates can still go wrong you need to keep going regardless of what environment you’re in. 

Overall I’d recommend dating in China , cheaper accommodation , easier to get around with didi and incredible shopping malls in most major cities means you won’t get bored of decent places to date. Foot Flow wise it dominates the US and the major British  cities with higher foot flow and much higher quality which from my experience tend to be less entitled and bitchy . It’s important in your dating life to experience new cities and possibilities of improving your results- with China you have the option of 10-15 great cities full of attractive women to seduce – it’s definitely one that’s worth it on any day gamers radar.