Mindful Masculinity

Disclaimer: I’M not a dating coach I’m not trying to sell any services or coaching . This blog is just a few of my experiences in London . Im based predominantly in London, Nice/Monaco/Cannes ( South of France), Dubai, San Fransisco  or Dallas. If you’re in any of these areas feel free to email me or hit me up for networking at darrenpua1@gmail.com No complete beginners or time wasters please must have some degree of maturity and value. 

This blog isn’t really ground breaking or particularly innovative advice but its more suited to men who are wanting to make things continually exciting with the women they are dating and moving towards an LTR. This could be helpful for men who want to create LTRs as opposed to hook ups. The ideas are pretty simplistic but should help some of you who:

Keeping the relationship exciting in the longterm 

Now for most in daygame enjoy the player lifestyle of getting laid with a girl within 2-3 dates and then calling it a day but for some people there might be a desire to take things a bit deeper than that they may want to develop from casual sex to a long term relationship and that’s fine . 

The issue with me when I was day gaming in London was I had no idea on how to make things exciting beyond two to three dates. Usually the women would loose interest or I would run out of ways to make the relationship interesting.  This was pretty much 95 percent my fault every time as Id run out of ideas pretty quickly as I was really one dimensional about the fun things to do in the country I was living in. Sex alone sometimes isn’t enough for a lot relationships to be maintained it’s your job as a man to keep the chemistry alive with those you’re dating.

Ways to keep things interesting when developing into a LTR 

• Activity Dates in London / the city you’re in
• Keep switching up the dating locations referring to my dating location posts in London 
• Trips around the UK in various locations 
• Trips to other countries in Europe
• Working on yourself through the successful relationships and remain disciplined  

Activity Dates in London 

Now these are quite a bit of a financial commitment so make sure you at least have at least hooked up with woman first 

• Cooking Classes – https://theavenuecookeryschool.com/ great for those in the Putney area 
• –  Pinot and Picasso – Shoreditch  located at : 32 Shoreditch High St, London E1 6PG – definitely a good painting activity date – good for introverted women. 
• Mini Golf – Swingers Golf or Puttshack both are decent in London 

Of course other cities in the UK have activity dates you can search for this list isn’t exclusive to London : https://classbento.co.uk/cooking-classes-london

Trips around the UK : 

UK has a fuck tonne of history , if you think  things are boring out in the city that you’re in you can easily move to other cities with the girl you’re with to create more excitement. Recommended cities for traveling: 

• Cotswold: Quintessential England very romantic spot for traditional UK. Nearby cities like Cheltenham are good for a few days dating too 
• Kent: Similar to Cotswold. 
• Brighton: Beach Seaside town great place to take a woman on a weekend date bear in mind its significantly more expensive on the weekends then the weekdays.  
• Cardiff/Abergavenny : Beautiful countryside town- really good unique and interesting place to take women off the beaten trail. Cardiff has pretty cheap hotels and Abergavenny is fantastic for romantic walks in the Summertime. 
• Cambridge: Near London and again a very famous city – ideal for a weekend break. 
• Edinburgh- A city bursting with history -great place to take women for 3-4 days romantic trip .
• The Lake District : Probably on of the most beautiful countryside parts of the UK – perfect for romantic walks and hikes.
• Newcastle : Probably the best animal cafes in the UK and interesting forest walks and castles. 
• Liverpool: Women who are rock / Beetles fans will obviously enjoy this very much so due to the Beetles museum 
• Bristol- Clifton suspension bridge is a great place for romantic drinks and dates. The city itself comes with a lot of dating options too .  Great history museums and art scene as well. 
• Cornwall- Another iconic beachfront city to travel around

Again you don’t need to take her to all these locations but they just provide some food for thought for things to do to keep the romance exciting in the relationship. 

Trips around Europe 

Living in the UK you can pretty much have access to cheap flights all over Europe. Options like Eastern Europe can provide cheap adventurous dates that can keep the romance going. Again its usually best to this with girls you’ve already slept with and already have a commitment from or it could get awkward if you make a move and she rejects you and you have to go back to the hotel room with her. 

Working On Yourself 

The problem with me was once I was in  a relationship with an attractive girl I’d then turn into a lazy ass bum and it would kill the attraction and the excitement of the relationship. You should keep pushing yourself to be better always -single or in a relationship. This advice is of course a lot easier said that done and I’ve been the laziest bum of them all in the past . Just make sure you never slack. Im in a relationship at the moment and I’ve still made the commitment to continue working and studying four different languages and making sure my lust for life continues. This is of course a lot easier said than done as I said before but you gotta keep at it for yourself more than anyone. 

Conclusion: Again this is a pretty bum ass blog post compared to my others but it’s just here to help people maintain their relationships and not fall into dating slumps by just making every relationship a predictable alcoholic drink followed by drunk hookup date.